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Can I hit my children if they don't pray?

salah salat salaah namaz salaat namaaz as-salah al-salah salawat hadeeth ahadith ahaadeeth hadis hadees ahaadith muftis haraam imaan eemaan eeman shukr shukar shukur

Hitting children who do not pray misunderstands the Prophet

QuestionLive chat · questioner not identifiedAnswered 24 Aug 2020Monday Nights with Mufti Abu Layth Segment 13 of 40 in the recording2020-08-24-S13

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Yes: he says hitting children over prayer misreads the hadith, and that children should be drawn to prayer by example and love, not fear.

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A question asks whether it is forbidden to hit your children if they do not pray. Mufti Abu Layth says that anyone who takes that hadith literally has misunderstood the Prophet, and that attacking one's own child because of one's faith is absurd and the antithesis of faith. He says the teaching was meant to inculcate passion and love for prayer, that children emulate parents who pray, and that they want to please their parents, so prayer should be shown as something dear; scaring them into it is, ironically, childish.

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Is it forbidden to hit your children if they don't pray?

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Mufti Abu Layth says that if you take the hadith on hitting children who do not pray literally, you have misunderstood the Prophet.

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“i would say that this hadith if you're taking if you try to take that hadith literally you have misunderstood the prophet”

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sunday markets wednesday so in that part of town they used to have a special like a wednesday markets market kind of day or like we have sunday markets here so he used to say that and you just go around wow bang boy the stick would break give me another stick bang bang bang whoa it was crazy man and it's categorically haram these things all right so what is going on

46:48

is it forbidden to hit your children if they don't pray you see i would say that this hadith if you're taking if you try to take that hadith literally you have misunderstood the prophet sallallahu alaihi um and i find that very disappointing that a person over faith would attack their own child that's to me so absurd it is the antithesis of faith to attack your child because of your iman [Laughter]

47:29

since god had given you so much iman if he gave you a little bit of akal as well intellect that would have helped so that's ridiculous if your faith makes you beat up your own child you see these things were just trying to teach you the the kind of important something hard that you would inculcate the the hopefully the passion for something the love for something

48:08

that they will children emulate their appearance anyway you know when parents pray children pray they do stuff and if they don't they don't they will start praying later on you know and if they do but to teach them through look this is what we do to express gratitude is the way to encourage to show it's dear to you because children especially when they're young they want to the parents to be pleased with them and they like what the parents like so but to to kind of scare them into that i think it's it's ironically so childish

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Mufti Abu Layth Archive, segment 2020-08-24-S13, auto-transcribed, may contain errors. https://muftiabulayth.org/r/kwmtt2tqao0/s/13/ (accessed 1 November 2026)

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Mufti Abu Layth. (2020, August 24). Can I hit my children if they don't pray? [Video, segment 2020-08-24-S13, auto-transcribed, may contain errors]. Mufti Abu Layth Archive. Retrieved November 1, 2026, from https://muftiabulayth.org/r/kwmtt2tqao0/s/13/

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Mufti Abu Layth. 2020. "Can I hit my children if they don't pray?" Video, segment 2020-08-24-S13, auto-transcribed, may contain errors. Mufti Abu Layth Archive. Recorded August 24, 2020. Accessed November 1, 2026. https://muftiabulayth.org/r/kwmtt2tqao0/s/13/

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  author = {Mufti Abu Layth},
  title = {{Can I hit my children if they don't pray?}},
  year = {2020},
  month = {8},
  date = {2020-08-24},
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  url = {https://muftiabulayth.org/r/kwmtt2tqao0/s/13/},
  organization = {Mufti Abu Layth Archive},
  urldate = {2026-11-01},
  note = {Segment 2020-08-24-S13, auto-transcribed, may contain errors}
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