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Why are some clerics so harsh in their rulings on women?

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Why some clergy issue harsh rulings: deprivation, madrasa culture and the softening effect of love

LessonRecorded 6 Apr 2021Monday Nights with Mufti Abu LaythSegment 12 of 39 in the recording2021-04-06-S12

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Mufti Abu Layth says harsh rulings from some clergy, especially towards women, come from sexual deprivation and a closed madrasa culture, and that love and a normal life soften people.

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Mufti Abu Layth says many clergy are sexually deprived and frustrated, which he links to their anger, rarely smiling and harsh rulings. He recounts that at a madrasa where he studied, the head said pupils' heads were shaved so that embarrassment would keep them from going out and meeting girls, and argues that this left them insecure and confined to the madrasa world, where he alleges some went on to abuse other pupils before becoming imams who preach. He says that when a young woman approaches such a scholar, they lash out with harsh fatwas on nail polish, hair, piercings and the head covering; he adds that most Muslim women do not wear hijab, that the head covering was not originally called hijab and that he finds no clear evidence for it in the Quran, referring to his video. He tells of a harsh manager at a former workplace who became relaxed and kind after falling in love, and says love softens people. He dismisses a hostile chat comment as typical of people who think they are on God's side.

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Mufti Abu Layth says that many clergy issue harsh rulings, especially towards women, out of sexual deprivation and frustration, and that their rulings would change if they lived normal lives.

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“if these moolas had access to, if they lived a normal life and had normal, healthy sexual relationships and enjoyed life, you'd see the rulings would start radically changing.”

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1:12:36

I mean you show me in the Quran where God has said it's haram and then I'll say it's haram if God hasn't said it. Who the hell are you know it doesn't mean you have to do it for God's sake. [laughter] Yeah. So yeah, so much sexual blondetta said so much sexual frustration. Blue bull fatwas. [laughter] Blue ball mas.

1:13:02

But that's the truth though, man. These people are so deprived and segregated. And you know, it's a shame as well because that's how their whole lives have been. And you see their teachers imposed it on them and then they just only know that you know like I've told you guys you know when we used to be in the madrasa what the teachers you know one of their techniques used to be for certain people was that they would want them to shave their heads because they felt that you see when you shave their head they will be embarrassed to go out in society because the teacher said he said you know oh we shave their head so when they

1:13:40

go out people say they takla they go look the boldy has come. So because people will laugh at them in society, they will be reduce their their kind of engagement with the world and they'll restrict themselves to the inner confines of the madrasa. And that was I'm not just inferring this. He clearly said this. This was the the head there that you know he clearly said that this is why we make them shave their heads so they they feel embarrassed and they won't go out and try and pull girls.

1:14:13

This is what he was saying. He said because they feel too embarrassed to have a shaved head. But then that's what you do. You just okay let's say that works. Now they feel insecure and they feel that they're ugly. So they just live within the confines mainly of the madrasa world. But then you know obviously they just end up you know just screwing other kids there. And they just and then what happens is they just become so frustrated and deprived and depraved and then they end up leading you know they sit on the members and give jumahbas and preach to people and naturally and then you get a girl that

1:14:52

will come to them come on like take any average Muslim girl Muslims generally like outright majority of Muslim women don't wear hijab and I mean and that's you know I'm and I've got my video on uh saying that look you know hijab is interpreted in many different ways. It doesn't this head covering thing is ne was never called hijab to start off with. It's a very 20th century phenomenon and that there's no clear evidence about this head covering in the Quran.

1:15:21

I've I've got a whole video on that. But so now you're going to get a girl that's a good-looking girl approaches one of these molanas and she's you know got her hair got style to her and this and that. She asks him something. Oh, Molana Sab, is it permissible for me to? Now, these people hate that because obviously they see something that reminds them of their world being very miserable that they will never have that or have something like that.

1:15:47

They and it just it's obviously so they lash out with very harsh fatwas in turn, damning them to hell and you can't wear nail polish and you can't wear this and you can't do that with your hair. It's haram to cut your hair. Your janaza won't happen. It's haram that you're not covering this. It's haram to pierce your ears, you know, over here or have like I don't know different kind of piercings.

1:16:13

It's haram. Haram haram. And this is why because you just have to psychologize the matter these people because it reminds them of what they are not a part of. And I guarantee you, you know, if these people honestly, if these moolas had access to, if they lived a normal life and had normal, healthy sexual relationships and enjoyed life, you'd see the rulings would start radically changing.

1:16:44

[laughter] All of a sudden, it'd be like, uh, [laughter] you know, I used to work in this place once. I'll I won't I can't give away too much information who it is but I used to work in this place once right this um establishment and there [snorts] used to be this guy there who was proper you know proper issues used to like he he he had like a an a managing position and very kind of um Napoleon kind of complex very kind of harsh on people and everybody and you

1:17:24

lash out and super harsh unnecessarily just impolite and lacks the empathy to how to how to speak to people because you know must always remind them that I'm in charge don't you you you know not just hey could you hey could you do no you have not done this you know like this like talk down to patronize people and everybody was really um you know they didn't like that about obviously didn't like him by extension then.

1:17:54

But so what happens is this one time he falls in love. [laughter] Honestly, I I I kid you not falls in love with this other staff. And what happens is everything's different. You know, this guy walks around. He's always whistling [whistles] and he's always he's humming songs all of a sudden and you know he's he's like super relaxed.

1:18:26

[laughter] He's like nice to everyone. He's like oh don't he's like hey don't worry about it. [laughter] I'm thinking whoa what's happened here that I go. And then we're like ah cha cha cha hello I'm telling you you know love it changes people they will you know when they experience that side of the world it it softens and this is why see that's what a woman can do to men like they could soften them they can kind of give

1:19:05

them that side of the world but [laughter] we have to do some you know what we got to do we got to set up a where we can get these some of these and get them a date. Man, [laughter] I tell you what, if we did have a show like that, I tell you, we would have killer views. Killer views. Right, people? Let's Love is the cure to all world problems.

1:19:33

Hell yeah. Love conquers all. It does. It does. Right. That's not love, though. Uh, Queen and I, that's lust. Cello for um No, it's not. I don't know if that's lust. No, I don't think that's lust. I think that's that that was that's kind of like the romance, man. The romance. Yeah. Miy, show some love to fared. I am going to in a while.

1:19:59

I'm going to extend the love, man. The love. Soften them. Yeah. What the hell you excrete on your daughters? See, like look at this. Like this is like like look John Sniffer. I mean I mean he uses the name John Sniffer.

1:20:22

Like seriously that's uh [laughter] and then like this is the like isn't this typical? But your daughters then [laughter] you know honestly th this just goes to show doesn't it that the miserable and what's shocking is these people they in their mind they think that they are somehow on the side of God.

1:20:52

[laughter] They think they like team God that you be you. Why do you go excrete on your daughters? Because human beings don't do stuff like that, man. I mean, what the hell's wrong with you? [laughter] You need some serious therapy. Serious therapy.

1:21:18

Right. So, Mhm. Let's take a look. [snorts] [laughter] Mu's got the emergency towel. I always keep Right. Let's Let's take a look at some stuff, people. Let's move on. Right. I've been asked to also speak about uh France and recent legislations.

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