Are disgusting sexual fetishes between spouses haram?

I thought my arguments are so simple. just tackle them now. Coming to these uh fetishes, right? Look, I've said before and I stand by these things. Now, first of all, I'll come to the little context of this, but I'll give you just a generic rule that as I imam Malik's teacher said that what a couple do consenting between them is their business.

what is behind closed doors and it's for nobody else to get involved. I do stand by that and that is the understanding generally within the school of Medina. Now I don't know now coming to this particular issue I don't know if you guys remember but a while back there was the whole tar Ramadan thing and the thing that came out in the papers I don't know if you remember the the details the kink the kinky details so it came out that you know that people some of the the women that were holding him for the allegations I'm not sure whether the allegations were entirely overturned in the end or not but they

were making alg ations. I think that I think there were uh may be rape allegations as well. They may have been or just violence but part of it the lady had said the the person making the allegation that he would ask her to he would urinate over her so or she would urinate over him. I can't remember the details now but it was it was really popular. It became a huge thing internationally with the tardic Ramadan case.

So this thing of this fetish of urinating over a a spouse or defecating as disgusting as it may be right now this was discussed amongst people that is this haram in Islam if somebody was to do it now naturally it would be [laughter] very I'm sure only a certain minded people would find it very fascinating and most people would find it disgusting but if you find it disgusting Interesting.

Does it make it haram in Islam? So the question is, is it haram? So I had said well these things are not haram in Islam like like let's say there is urine in a toilet and you decide to put your hand in. So all the books of f discuss that touching making contact with anything impure is not haram. Okay? It's just unclean, unhygienic, and it's obviously it's quite sickening to a lot of people, rightly so.

But but it doesn't make it haram. You don't say, "Well, God's going to throw you in hell and burn you for doing this." It's not like that. So, this discussion uh that was the context to it that people you a few it's been what I I can't remember now since the taric Ramadan case. I think it's been about four years. So, so some people were discussing this and they'd ask that isn't this haram.

So my response which is still the same that these kinks or things like this as sickening as they may be to people doesn't make them haram. Haram means you are saying God is going to flip you in hell and burn you with fire [laughter] because you did this. That's ridiculous. That's absurd. So no, these things are not haram. Okay, it doesn't mean you have to do them.

You know, there's many things that we may find sickening. Like look, here's a simple thing. Yeah. That people would find sickening. [laughter] Yeah, I'm sure. Like look at just Okay, people prepare to be grossed out. [laughter] But look at like snot that comes out of person's nose. Yeah. That look look how disgusting and sickening that is to to to people. Uh, rightly so, I'd say.

Now, imagine somebody said, "I want Okay, guys, I'm grossing you out." [laughter] Imagine somebody had some sick fetish of wanting that all over them or wanting to consume it and eat it. Like, look how disgusting that is. Does that make it haram? It wouldn't. You see, it's a very dumb reductionist way of thinking that everything you don't like or are disgusted by, therefore God will punish a person with hellfire for it.

I mean, that's not how God works. God doesn't work by, oh, oh, you find it disgusting, therefore I'm going to punish the person with hell, you know, for it. So, it doesn't work like that. And that is why a lot of the clergy are completely [laughter] they've completely lost their mind. And then the other thing is the clergy are usually a very sexually suppressed group of people.

So they hate on anything sexual anyway. Just, you know, just being clear. I mean, a lot of the clergy feel that just many general sexual things are prohibited because they're disgusting. You know, oral sex is disgusting to them. He's like this stuff to them is like you know what the hell that's Satan. [laughter] You know there's people in some of the fick books they will say that it is disgusting to look at your own wife's private parts.

Do you know in the Hannfi fick books it actually says that and it says that if you do this God will make you blind. [laughter] Is this why there's so many short-sighted people? [laughter] This is what they say in their fatawa. They say that to just look at is like it's not only filthy but God will curse you by turning you blind if you continue to do this.

If you continue to look at it. I mean that's just dumb. and and you know people they will this is why you get a lot of uh their stories I mean these are anecdotal but you'll get stories of people that are like obliki jamaat and so obsessed and then they won't do things like even look at their own wives breasts [laughter] their wives breasts like they'll be like Allah what does God make me what situations does God put me in [laughter] I'm serious I'm not making this up.

There's actual, you know, like the bleaky people that will think that this is, you know, it's like a it's like a dire necessity that you have to just see your own wife's breasts. like they think like you know Goda may may the Lord have mercy on me and forgive me [laughter] because this is the kind of depraved um you know you get that kind of very um what's what's this this kind of like um aesthetic hermitic kind of outlook on

life that anything associated with any sexual desires always sickening which it isn't. So it's basically yeah just neointelss. These most of these moolas and mulvies are just incelss man [laughter] involuntary cuz they can't cuz their lifestyle is so like yeah and so this is why they get so always so angry always so you know so much temper in them.

They never hardly ever smiling. You don't see these people smiling. You don't see them laughing. You don't see them ever just enjoying lives. They just these women fitna fitna go to hell and [laughter] they're probably and you know obviously they're just married to a cousin that just looks like them.

[laughter] I feel sorry for the cousin actually to be fair. Right. So let's uh let's move on people. Yeah. So that's but I thought that's a good point to mention that because people had said I saw some people uh spreading that online like they saying this mu didn't declare these fetishes haram. I don't declare the of course I don't declare I'm not God.

I mean you show me in the Quran where God has said it's haram and then I'll say it's haram if God hasn't said it. Who the hell are you know it doesn't mean you have to do it for God's sake. [laughter] Yeah. So yeah, so much sexual blondetta said so much sexual frustration. Blue bull fatwas. [laughter] Blue ball mas.