Hadith Analysis: Why men and women CAN shake hands -Mufti Abu Layth

okay now coming back to this ruling now of shaking hands because what's happened is this woman I've forgotten their name but she should refuse to shake hands and that that's what triggered this whole incident so what is the ruling about shaking hands with the opposite genders now I want to say first of all there is a conventional understanding what I mean by conventional and I'm not saying traditional because I don't believe it's necessarily from the trooper I'll say it's convention as it it's the popular mainstream understanding of the general scholars and Muslims is that shaking

hands people feel is haram between the genders then you have an analytical view now the analytical view has taken a look at this and said well why is where does it say in Islam that shaking hands with the opposite gender is haram and it's really interesting that upon inspection you find that there are actually no Hadi or nothing in the Parana Sunnah that actually explicitly and clearly so it's sorry and so here proves that or

demonstrates that it's Haram to shake hands with the opposite gender so so you think well wait a minute wait a minute so whereas all of this kind of come from if if that's the case so there's a few things here to look at now that is that one people use this hadith that the Prophet said oh that rather than you should touch a woman and tomasa that you touch mess is the word mean seen in

Arabic to touch and the word lumps can be used as touch as well but must that if you touch a woman you'd rather that there was a metal rod placed in your hand or in head and there's varying narrations now first of all these narrations are not authentic the way people would like them to be they're not but regardless even if you accept them as authentic many Oh Lama understood here this to mean this to mean this was a euphemism for sex

that when people use the word must touch they were actually speaking about having sex so that is and that is used so in the quran for example hola mr. manisa or that you've touched women that you break your voodoo so the Hanafi method was open that now this meant just sex it didn't mean having physical touch and the shafa'ah thought you meant physical touch but the male Kia said oh it meant touch with desire and not just regular touch now then there's another hadith that is taught it is society that the

Prophet said I love self upon me sir I do not shake hands with women now the issue here is that there are several narrations that come from Omo attea which are transmitted in ignite ban in Bazaar in other books like poverty even brings them as well that the Prophet sent home Arab no hotter brody lon and these varying narrations here and in some narrations he sent Omar as as a deputy and Omar took the pledge and they said for Madonna who he stretched

forward his hand on mati essays for Madonna Adrianna so we put our hand we stretched our hands now some people understood this narration to be referring to the Prophet so they said that the Prophet shook hands with them other people said no this wasn't the Prophet this was Omar then there's other narrations that say that no the Prophet placed a barrier like a cloth and then they shook hands many scholars said like today many of the scholars from al-azhar Cheryl Azhar Ahmed Rajib who is Maliki

has said that shaking hands not as a sexual act I mean it's not generally done as a sexual act but just shaking hands in general is permitted chef Ben Bayer who is a Maliki scholar has given that fatwa renowned worldwide one of the teachers of Hamza Yusuf the fatwa forum for Europe has given that fatwa Sher Khan wahwee has given that fatwa many ulama have given that fatwa and that shaking hands in fact ship Malaya it's famous about him that he was handing out the graduation awards he's the chef of a lesson and he was shaking the hands and it came to one of the the

female students and she refused to shake his hand I mean he didn't make a big deal but he was on stage and then later on it was spoken about and he said that that's fine but this isn't actually his understanding is this was more a cultural issue now there's also another story the former there's a member of the kind of Islamic Research Council in al-azhar and a former were killed as her his name is Mohammad Shaikh Mahmood are sure he speaks about on one of his travels to America he says he got there and there was a Muslim and he's speaking to Muslims and there was a Muslim woman and he tried to shake her hand and she says

I don't shake hands and he said ok and she said it's Haram and he said well if you're gonna take rulings like that in this literal way then he said can I ask why are you living in this country because there's also hadith that would say it's Haram to live in these lands but you would say oh but those hadith don't mean that so it's interesting I mean he speaks about that that's available online he also share Cheryl as her and a lot of these Michele if say that they used the evidences of one the hadith of Roma from Omar Thea that she did used to shake

hands I'm sorry that with the women did place their hands on his hand also the Haditha when you go some way bashar wallatoona do not frighten people away and if it is a custom and also the eye of the Koran were in a hurry to meet here that if you are given a greeting for hate you may ascend in Manhattan give a better greeting greeting or adieu ha or at least return it they also use the evidences that abu musa al-ashari which is in bihari they use this so useful Pablo he uses this as his reasoning as well that abu musa al-ashari during the

Hajj had a woman from from the tribe of who was a Shari from the tribe of the Achadjian to kind of fix his hair because they used to do tough Leah toughly I was because a lot of the men used to have long hair they would get sometimes either lice or sometimes some kind of they would get certain things that would come in there here so every once in a while people would go through their hair and just make sure if things clean and and a lot of the men would would have braids I keep forgetting what we call those things a bit like those I don't know whether they call them I forgot now I think but anyway they're kind of like the braids that men were but so a lot of the Companions were like

that and even the Prophet used to have braids so this tough little Rutz was a common practice done time to time when men would open up their braids so somebody would go through the hair make sure and straighten it all out and so musa al-ashari had a woman doing that whilst he was unhatched while she was mad at him and then you see what's really interesting is the hadith in sahih hain that the prophet salaallah alayhi salam o Muharram who is an aunt of Ana's she would do that with the Prophet now that's a really interesting hadith because Omaha Iran bint milhan how did the scholars the scholars really

struggled with this one so they really didn't know how to respond to it because in some hadith that because the Prophet would go the I mean the Prophet generally she was one of the aunts but the Prophet would go there sometimes when he was going somewhere he would take a rest there he was known to sometimes take a nap and he would take a nap at her house sometimes she would prepare the food for the Prophet she will do tough little rascals through he's here and there's one narration of the Prophet was really tired and he fell asleep and there's a narration that he fell asleep with his head in her lap but the general narrations do speak about the tough Leah

now all the yelled brings a lot of these narrations in the Shiva and then obviously the huge conundrum of how do we answer this so scholars have really struggled massively to answer that and what's interesting is even after Bart tried to say maybe she was like a foster sister of the Prophet through this foster relationship and later scholars like halfway the dome yachty really go out tearing that argument saying this is nonsense because how could have she been a foster sister and he goes through the

whole the kind of chains of the lineage showing that she wasn't she was related as such a distant but that didn't make her a Muharram but what's interesting is cause the ER says that we'll look maybe this is hosue SIA right this is specific with the Prophet but then this is problematized by some people saying how could it what even a hogr writes infertile body that were fee he Josue callate wife that this hadith shows the permissibility of a guest to stay and kind of take a nap with people

and he says even Raja was a hit man and having people a woman serving him who is not his Maharaja was a kid my telomere until a jina ble life be a Tommy he or what some he'd Lihue and preparations for him and then he goes on to say well and here we've got but he mentions a Jinnah BIA so he even inclines to the fact that she was not related to the Prophet so then some scholars said well that's because it was not a doing this is not a kind of there's nothing wrong with this and it wasn't a kind of in any way like a sexual thing it's just general

just helping and but most the scholars kind of tried to eat know how did you try to say well maybe it was just specific with the Prophet then but these evidences have been used by a lot of these Shu Havel Azhar by people like our bar we by Cher Ahmed Rajib by the fatwa forum for Islamic forum of a Europe the Islamic fatwa Council of Europe sorry my shelf in bayer by all these kind of people that are highlighted what I would say is that look if you're in a situation if you're in a convention my own understanding is look you go with your conventions okay so if you're in a convention where people don't do this

you you don't do this so I would go with the general ala ma but I would highlight I look this fatwa is this so if you're in a convention where people do this you can take this fatwa and you can act according to it so you just need to choose your battles like on one hand was it really wise for the woman to make to make this such a battle to lose her citizenship over not that the French were right in doing so but her making this such a battle when so many ala ma said look there isn't actually even a clear verse of the Quran or a hadith clear Sunnah saying it's Haram and there's all this esta laughs like I'm

just saying I think sometimes as Muslims we need to choose our battles wisely