Recordings › Propaganda against Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan - Mufti Abu Layth · 29 Sep 2017 › Segment 9 of 13
Is it wrong to be attracted to someone because of their status or position?
fiqah jurisprudence fikh hadeeth ahadith ahaadeeth hadis hadees ahaadith saheeh sahih hadith saheeh hadith sound hadith authentic tafsir tafseer exegesis tafasir tafaseer imam bukhari sahih bukhari saheeh al-bukhari saheeh bukhari imam al-bukhari muftis riba ribaa sood usury hasan hadith hasan li-ghayrihi hasan li-dhatihi hasan sahih jannah janna jannat sahabah sahaba sahabi sahabiyyah sahabiyat 'alim aalim ulama ulema ulamaa umma ummat community nikah nikkah nikaah nikah nama nikahnama talaq talaaq triple talaq talak barakah baraka barakat barkat baraqahAttraction to status is natural: propinquity, Hasan ibn Ali, al-Mughira and Ibn Hazm
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machinesummary, machine-writtenAttraction to status and relationships between people who work closely together are natural, not abuse, and Islam leaves consensual relationships to the people involved. Mufti Abu Layth cites Hasan ibn Ali, al-Mughira ibn Shu'ba and Ibn Hazm as figures whose private lives did not disqualify them.
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Continuing from the example of Khadijah, Mufti Abu Layth says that people who work closely together commonly end up in relationships, which psychology calls the propinquity effect, and that people are naturally drawn to power and status just as men are drawn to beauty, so this is not an abuse of power but the way nature works; a company may have rules about it for productivity. He cites Hasan ibn Ali, the Prophet's grandson, who he says married and divorced a very large number of women, with his father Ali warning people that he would keep divorcing, and says people were happy with it; he adds that in cultures such as Mauritania a woman who stays with one husband for years is viewed as odd. He says Islam leaves people to their own relationships and does not tell them how to conduct them, names al-Mughira ibn Shu'ba as a companion reported to have had between three hundred and a thousand wives, and asks who said one cannot take from such people when everything was with consent. He adds that Ibn Hazm, a great scholar of hadith and fiqh, wrote of his own sexual interest in women in Tawq al-Hamama, and asks whether people would stop taking from him.
Position stated
Mufti Abu Layth holds that Islam leaves people to their own consensual relationships and does not judge them, and that attraction to status is natural and not in itself an abuse of power.
“Islam just leaves people to their own relationships it doesn't judge me doesn't tell people how to have a relationship”
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leave Salim worked for her she proposed to him and married him that was a blessed Union one of the most amazing unions in Islam there's nothing wrong with that right you look right through the examples the Companions people say oh somebody was oh my god somebody's looking for for marriage look people naturally it's cool in in in psychology you call this the propinquity effect right so when people are working closely with people they share naturally they end up commonly many people end up in relationships with people they often
share workspace with that is that that's in social studies it's just thing it just happens because UN and I'm not even saying that that has happened but that's what we're discussing here look at and people say oh but you're using your position because people they desire you yeah but people are naturally drawn to power they drawn to status that's an act that's like saying men are drawn to beauty women manipulating men because they're beautiful they say is that what it is is in an abuse of of nature of power nobody's it is that's just the way nature works
many women even men they drawn to power they're grown to status they find it incredibly a has an amazing appeal to it an attraction to it there's nothing wrong in that per se yes in a company you may have certain rules and that's for productivity so let's come back to the examples look at the messenger of allah salons and his grandson we're in Muharram and there's a lot of discussion going on about the grunts and grandsons although that's about who's saying but look at hassan Rohde allah on a blessing a blessed amazing personality within islam right
the blessed from the the masters and all of paradise say you do' Shabab be a lil Jenna right Robby Allah on who he was somebody who would constantly marry and divorce women marry and devorah married over a thousand women divorced and married because his own father of the law on top people awful don't look I know he's this grandson of the Prophet I know is incredibly good-looking you guys look he he proposes in the everybody just keeps accepting don't do it because he's gonna you know he keeps divorcing
and moving on and he married over a thousand women they used to say you just constantly marry women and then he would be post them how people live they put and and people were happy with that they were okay with that some cultures that's absolutely fine even today cultures like Mauritania the women actually want they see a woman that stuck with one husband for years they see her as a bit of a socially as a bit of a loose this this concept what I'm trying to say it varies Islam just leaves people to their own relationships it doesn't judge me doesn't tell people how to have a relationship
no here I'd be shot by a great companion had anything between three hundred to a thousand wives in his time what are these people we can't take from now caught you take from the grandson of the Messenger of Allah can you take from elated Neshoba can you take from these people anymore who told you you can't take from them what because like what they haven't done anything wrong it was with consent so stop becoming you know judge jury and executioner over these matters look at great scholars right throughout you know there's an amazing even a husband in his
book of love tokoha mama the dovetail tail of the dog he speaks about all these speaks about his own sexual interests in women and he speaks about this he's an amazing scholar on hadith and thick do we not take from him now dude this this thing there's this an amazing there's an interesting story about even a Hodja if Nigel as Palani who was an amazing amazing legend or Dara scholar his commentary on sahih al-bukhari is a debt to this Ummah thoughtful body it is the
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@misc{abulayth-2017-09-29-S09, author = {Mufti Abu Layth}, title = {{Is it wrong to be attracted to someone because of their status or position?}}, year = {2017}, month = {9}, date = {2017-09-29}, howpublished = {\url{https://muftiabulayth.org/r/6_dmojl-_bi/s/9/}}, url = {https://muftiabulayth.org/r/6_dmojl-_bi/s/9/}, organization = {Mufti Abu Layth Archive}, urldate = {2026-11-01}, note = {Segment 2017-09-29-S09, auto-transcribed, may contain errors} }
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