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How do I stop hating people who hurt me?
muftis amanah amana amaanah amanatMufti Abu Layth's advice: carry as little hate as possible
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machinesummary, machine-writtenMufti Abu Layth advises keeping hatred to a minimum, of men or anyone, because hate is baggage that harms the person who carries it.
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Mufti Abu Layth says he does not think beauty is an illusion, then answers a viewer joking that she supports only him and insults all other men. He advises against hating men or anyone: hatred is human, but one should keep it to a minimum, as life is always better with the least hate. Mufti says some women may have been repeatedly hurt by men, but any hateful sentiment, whether bigotry or racial hatred, is baggage that harms the one who carries it. He adds that life is always better with the opposite gender, and that younger generations need not see the world his way.
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Mufti Abu Layth says life will always be better with the least amount of hate one carries around.
“Trust me that life will always be better with the least amount of hate you carry around.”
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I I find myself, you know, with these views in as a I find these views to be part of a dying breed. Now in this part of the world, I find myself in an extreme minority that feel that way, which is surprising. [laughter] So mi is beauty an illusion.
Can we find beauty? I don't think beauty is an illusion. Uh is beauty. Uh salt the I only support Muy and insult the rest of the men. [laughter] Karema, you're doing it. You're doing it. Look at that. Much love. Much love. These are the kind of supporters people.
[laughter] No, don't hate men. Don't hate men. You know what it is? Honestly, as some advice, I think people in general don't try to generally any kind of hatred a person has. Look, we're human. We can't help sometimes. You might hate on certain things, but try to always mitigate it. Keep it to an utmost minimum. Trust me that life will always be better with the least amount of hate you carry around.
Sometimes I do see I do feel like h like I see sometimes online posts and I see things and sometimes they are and I say this to women and I say this you know from my heart that I see sometimes some women and maybe some I I definitely not maybe I feel that somewhere along the line they've been hurt by men and maybe repeatedly hurt by men and what's happened is it's led them to unfortunately maybe hating men but it's not a you know it it ultimately any kind of hateful sentiment that we carry
ultimately harms us so I would say jettison these things and it could be any hatred you know it could be bigotry it could be racial hatred could be any kind of hatred that we carry it harms us it's baggage it's slowing us down it's sinking us so we need to learn to kind of at least jettison either all or as much of it as we can. Life will always be better. You see, life is always better with the opposite gender.
It's always better. I mean, look, I say these things, these are my views about look how I see the world and stuff, but look, even if you don't, you don't need to see it my way. Younger generations see it differently. You know, it's their stab, you know, it's their life. It's their world. It's a different world. I It's all good. It's all good.
Uh Birmingham or London? Definitely Brum Braum town it is people. Definitely. You know London is just the name I give it to that you know London when it comes to the name. It just there's class in the name. You know where are you from? I'm from London. [laughter] There is you know some things just have class to the name.
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