Abuse Of Power & Religion | Polygamy, Marriage, Divorce | Mufti Abu Layth

okay we've got we've got quite a bit of a discussion going on about people and polygamy huh Allah always does a a discussion doesn't it it's you know we have to understand I um yeah there was a clip I shared recently and he got a bit of a it got to be I think some heated discussion or comments and yeah because I spoke about

polygamy and people kind of were responded like because I guess the truth is that people abuse these Concepts and um because they abused them it results in a kind of it results in a lot of hurt people so people are not very um you know as you can imagine they're not very happy to to hear just the term and they think well you know this is all um

men use these things as just I don't know just um excuses they use the religious angle as an excuse and which is I guess true people do people have used anything that they have any opportunity to abuse and if that's religion then undoubtedly would be religion people abuse anything and everything if you give somebody um

a a remit a kind of an authority over something they will abuse it now the question is to obviously to what extent and is it knowingly or unknown you know is it unknowingly kind of um being abused and other is it being mitigated is it being an ideally that there's no abuse whatsoever but they're almost always will be some um overstepping

thus unfortunately the fitra of insan and and so religion is no EX in fact religion is often weaponized and it is used by people to to get what they want people will you know they if they want to tell the kids off they'll use Islam people want to control each other they use Islam you know the amount of if you think of spousal issues you know the amount of times people will um they'll have let's say arguments or or there's like a

bad dynamic between them and how often religion is weaponized to kind of to secure some shots fired now people will be like well you don't pray yeah you know they'll be like you don't do this you know oh you don't you do this you do that you know you smoke that's Haram or you watch TV that's

Haram you listen to music that's Haram Shabbat you know well well if that's the attitude why didn't you just divorce your spouse and go and get a job in a madrasa [Laughter] because it's it's true I mean that's got to be incredibly patronizing um never you know the dean is something you

only impose on you and that's the irony people actually don't impose it on themselves that's actually and or where they do they they may impose it on themselves in devices that they can handle look everybody will have their own vices and look each at their own pace in their own time see you all in good time people will grow and develop at their own pace

in accordance with their own Journey now sure that doesn't mean a person needs to be with the other person they could say well you know this isn't I can't really put up with this or this ain't really working for me and cool they can just opt out Islam does not um Islam does not um prohibit the lock okay not that it encourages them it doesn't say everybody go out there and do it a lot but and I'm not encouraging that people do that but it does it's not in Islam a a Haram Mata

it's there if people if it isn't working you can opt out sure opting out shouldn't really just be such an you know super easy thing because if it is like that then you need to question your own kind of grounding because in life they'll always be struggles you see there'll be some kind of hurdle so if every little annoyance shall we say your inconvenience you feel okay I'm opting out then it's not really going to you know that that person is still just very much a child at heart so they really probably need another decade or decade and a half

to mature a bit more then they're probably ready for a relationship but that said I mean it's not the reason I'm saying is it's not an absolute a person can't do it but you shouldn't instrumentalize the dean as a weapon or a tool aimed at someone else just remember at all times we are not God and these people worshiping are not worshiping us they're worshiping at their own pace now

somebody may pray most people don't pray it's it is what it is you know it's not up to you to decide whether another person prays or not sure I mean you could say well you could encourage well I'll tell you look better than encouraging I'll tell you better than that better than encouraging it's just be a a beacon of light of understanding this lead by example in being a good person

may Allah make it easy for each and all