Coming to terms with death | Mufti Abu Layth

right so okay guys this reminds me before I go on a serious moment I'd like you to I just heard actually today about stars nominally fun his sister had passed away and she just passed away today I believe I just heard this today and so I'm assuming it was speaking about today unless it was yesterday I heard she fought and struggled with with cancer and then eventually passed you know may Allah

grant her an elevated mom in genital fair DOS may he make things easy for her family that she's left behind here one can only can't even really if I'm gonna be honest can't even truly imagine the kind of grief and the shock that that would cause - even if it was a like a time-consuming battle even if she was going through a sickness but still the the shock that that and and I suppose

the void that it would leave so may Allah make things easy for her family I mean I mean also our praise and doors are with them and likewise anybody that's going through these kinds of struggles you know if I'm to be honest these things sound so scary you know I now share my own kind of thoughts that I feel it's something so they freaks the hell out of me these kind of the thought just the thought of these kind of

illnesses or these kind of because wrong like because it's it's more the it's more the situation of helplessness because I suppose and even though there are in many of these things there are you know some there are success these were people you know there is a kind of a fight against things like cancer and other illnesses and there are many success stories but still just the very thought of them it's I'll be honest very to me as an individual the thought of them it's very

terrifying you know I my daughters are with anybody and everybody who and their families that that are going through these things because there's nothing they can do beyond I suppose the doctors are doing what they can do but there's nothing a person can do and I think that is the you know for in son I think the worst situation is helplessness I think that to me that is worse than death you see like I would rather like if I had to go

I would rather just go in an instant honestly like I had a discussion once with some friends and we disagreed actually surprisingly I thought everybody would think like me but they don't and then maybe I'm thinking weirdly I don't know but we had a discussion wants a group of friends and I and about imagine you had a choice that you would because everybody at some point goes from this dunya that if you had a choice would you rather be told that you have six months let's say or

would you rather go in an instant so I said unquestionably I would rather just go in an instant I would rather just at most a few seconds please that's the like I would rather just be like that like over and done with like I wouldn't the thought that kind of helplessness of something is so tragic to me as an individual it's so debilitating that that and that's just the way I as an individual think there are no there were people you know good friends of mine disagreeing with me on the saying they would like you know they

would actually rather have so many months and and put things in order and I understand that I understand that but I'm just saying that and everybody thinks differently but to somebody like me the helplessness of something is so like I would rather just be as I am and then just gone you understand like that like that's just me as an individual but I don't know I mean it's it's it's a scary you know it's scary I found to be honest the thought of death is scary

what's scary is it's not you know I'm not I'm not so you know it's not about like punishment and things like this that scare me as an individual you know like people say all the punishment of the grave or the things because I think with time my belief or perception perception perhaps of Allah of God kind of evolved I see I don't see Allah as somebody obsessed with punishing or with

doing things like this or I don't know that's just where I stand in time right now I don't my relationship with God isn't one like that and I'm not saying that is the right relationship but it's just my relationship right now isn't one of necessarily fear but it's just you know it's death is I suppose it's the you see because it's it's the unknown to admit and it's the fact that it's the cessation the ceasing to be you know

like you like this world everything it's it's really just stemming like from here like the perception of everything our understanding and it's just to stop you know and it's and it's a scary thought I'm not gonna lie not gonna be you know pretend to be one of these now people say oh you know it doesn't it's not daunting it's not like this it is it is and it is scary I don't it's and then sometimes I don't know it's weird because this journey of life

is sometimes it has an existential angst you know insanity is never content because sometimes a person you have an existential kind of Hanks within this world this kind of like almost a yearning or and sometimes you can have a fed-up kind of feeling as well that you just fed up when you're thinking of just you know this world what is and and I I think all of these things are normal I think but yes so sometimes this what I'm trying to say is there's a contradiction sometimes a person does get fed up I

think of this kind of dunya of just things and you know it's like that old poem that you have of in the mall a pathway he says he says for me is the marina hey jet and he says well may is the marina hey jetan Lebel aquellas Amy that you know and I've and whosoever

lives like the age of 80 years is that's he says laqad same terminal Hayati he begins by saying I've become so fed up and bored of this life and world and then he goes on to say Romania each survey at the marina he jetan la a balakay SME and whosoever lives for 80 years of age he inevitably gets bored like it's like I've had enough but I mean I I don't know I mean may Allah make things easy I think we as human being

we have a unique ability to reflect and ponder over our existence over the existence of of other people and creatures this world Estonia subhanallah is very I think it's very difficult but may Allah make things easy for people that are going through any kind of struggle