Why Can’t Women Have Multiple Husbands? | Mufti Abu Layth

here's the question why can't women do open marriages like men are allowed to and [Laughter] you see this is this is a fascinating question because it's one of those things you're not allowed to say because the day and age is becoming but honest like look at if you look at even the scientific data across species don't just pick any species across species female species are monogamous now that

doesn't mean that they wouldn't mind it doesn't mean they wouldn't mind you see often you see women saying oh no we're polygamous but I I just I genuinely still don't believe it I don't believe that women are polygamous that they may be because of the culture or thinking or they may be uh sold the idea that um sure like I wouldn't mind like let's say for example they have a husband and they feel that oh Salman Khan is or Brad Pitt is a handsome actor I wouldn't mind

sleeping with him let's say from a fantasy perspective and they're thinking that defines polygamy it doesn't that's not what polygamy is because that's just a fantasy and that's just the thought of an escapism it's not a realized reality if a woman was to think I would live in relationships with multiple men like living with them women females across species are not designed that way and generally speaking the reason it's not a cross-species is because it would just be a disaster

and that's why evolutionarily they've been wired that way and people don't I think the problem is you're not allowed to say it now because people feel oh you know oh that's like you're telling you're not telling look men male species are wired that way they're programmed it's in the settings it's not now that doesn't mean that they have to all men have to all be polygamous it doesn't have okay they all are polygamous whether they admit it or not but whether they will be um living in polygamous relationships doesn't that that probably isn't the

case in many of the relationships it's not like that but they are wired that way so and you would see that and it's you know the several times I've got into these discussions with people and they'll say well no that's not true women think like that as well you think well well they don't I tell you as a fact they don't I don't maybe you might get the odd some person as an but I'm we can only speak by averages by gen Sorry by generally speaking across the population so for example let's say you take it to

adapt certain ad absurdum and this is where Often by the because it's by peripheralizing something you can see the boundaries very clearly so let's say now this may sound absurd but you take it to a fantasy level now let's say a man was to be given this kind of hypothetical option that he was to be submerged in the amidst a hundred women sexually one man to be submerged in that as a hypothesis to

most men heterosexual men that would be and even if they weren't heterosexual and it was running in correlation with their example I think they would still agree with the with the hypothesis but in this example with heterosexual men they would see that as an absolute fantasy um and women would see that if it was the opposite one woman was to be submerged amidst a hundred men most women would see that as utterly bizarrely disgusting and abominable

they would see that as like they would see as an utter violation see because you peripheralize the matter and then you can see clear borders and you work backwards in understanding the the the kind of the concept so it's not about trying to tell people what they can or cannot it's just defining this is a reality it is whether we it's a reality in nature and the truth is it is a reality we are only a continuity of other species we're not you know humans are still in Helen we are still we are still just

creatures and to assume that we somehow radically defy all the laws of nature and instinctual laws of nature nature it's it's a hubris of its own kind but yeah so that's that's interesting I would say