Marriage? But can he perform? | Mufti Abu Layth

mindset so yeah anyway there was a question people problem i was asked by someone and i didn't really like somebody asked a question they said look how do i find out i'm about to get married this was a woman female female male to female to male right so they asked i'm about to get married how do i ascertain brother how do i ask how does one one must ascertain that my husband-to-be

is not impotent how do i ascertain this so i was like well hmm why why would you think this is going to be the problem so they said well apparently i think this woman had maybe been in a relationship before as in a marriage before that didn't work but one of the main reasons was impotence so guys this

big problem because what could you and then she's under the impression if i just ask they're probably going to lie and say no problem so you think well right so what is the what is the solution let's all get together and let's try and figure out a solution all hands on board here was it on deck what could one possibly say i was like off

of the problems of ishkah ish i was like well i'm sure there's other ways of finding out but [Laughter] that one not oh this uh oh oh yeah who is that there was a poem actually i didn't read that out today let me just a famous one of ahmad

but this is actually a very epic poem of his that he says to is

so i was a bit baffled what kind of advice can i give i was like well i don't know this is a tricky one ish but i don't know people somebody said tell her to wear yoga pants and then go and see him you know that reminds me this ish you know you guys may have heard of a famous arabic uh linguist of the past he's very involved in adobe art and poetry and his name was al-asma so alas he says one day i was i was walking

along and i saw this i saw this rock and somebody had etched into it a poem and the person had written wow we're getting late guys but i'll i'll do this and then we'll wrap it up he'd written in the poem he said i mean etched onto the onto the rock he said

either he says by allah you have to tell me what does a poor what does a guy do if love has overcome him he says you know what i said i wrote underneath it a resp you know like comments in that day and age today's commenting he he's commenting on the

rock so he says i etched under it i wrote um um he says he has to play his desires he has to kind of do politics with them he has to hide this secret and he has to kind of keep a low profile and be very fearful so he says i came back the next day and i saw a response

ah this this this texting going on people in real time so the person had written underneath it let me just open this one moment see my facebook so the person had written underneath it he said for you worry but how can he hide it and this is this passion is killing him

and every day my heart is tearing up people off off the passion so asmai then says i responded once again comment comment he writes he says i wrote he says [Music] he says

he says [Laughter] he says that if if he can't find any patience to hold on if this is that overwhelming then the only thing left for him is death

he just kills him kills him off he goes that then you might as well just die there's nothing left for you so he says i came back the next day and there's a reply so the reply was s he says that you know what we hear and we obey and we are now dead i don't know how he carried on writing after saying we are dead

he says but convey my message to the one who has prevented as in her or in the this is a he so it's a her who didn't let me connect with her allah he says the people of life they are living life but the ah look at what he suffers

so people that was a that i was reminded of that because of this poor lady's uh predicament predicam [Laughter] this predicament right that she found herself in i i really did not know what to uh what to kind of advise because i was like well this one big problem you know sorry makes it goes to show sometimes the problems people are having this can be a problem i'm sure there must be a pill out there that can

resolve a lot of problems huh if only there was huh