When The Battle Chooses You! - Meaning with MALM #47

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I've wanted to discuss quite a few uh interesting things with us tonight let me just whilst I'm just waiting for people to tune in click like and share I'm just going to see what's going on here right just um you know when you're trying to click one thing and all of a sudden there's like

there's like all these other things just opening up and you're like uh right so let's just take a look at what we've got here so people let me bring up today's themes you guys work your magic whilst I'm doing that spread the love that's what it's all about spread the love so um

right I see look it's showing me now ah it gives me some of the the Facebook feedback as well there is Allahu Akbar [Music] when the battle chooses you Allahu Akbar I want to take a look at today some from the quranic guidance

okay one of the shortest surahs of the Quran from the last 10 if you're counting backwards and a monkey Surah something everybody knows we all memorize we all recited and just looking at a few perspectives on it in light of today's theme which is when the battle chooses you I also want to take a look at this discussion of um this is I mean it's a fascinating one of parasol parasocial psychology

um it's really quite fascinating uh what is meant by that and when we say parasocial um interactions or parasocial psychology sorry parasocial relationships those kind of relationships that we feel we have established or that we have we feel are integral to our lives and they are virtual in some ways non-real I mean in many ways non-real although they may feel real to us and just

in some on some occasion in fact one may say in on many occasions what mono-directional so they're just One Direction they have what are the benefits if any of these what are the harms uh let's take a little look at that and I thought you know what it's been a while since we've shared some history so let's speak today about the great pre-islamic battle in which it is alleged that the prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam regarding

which he said the narrations may be weak that this is a day in which the Arabs rolls against and that they gain Justice against so that's a fascinating one known as and it's all to do with those or centered around a woman and then counter balanced by another main character right throughout this battle who's also a woman so what is all of that about a strength in

stories let's take a little look at that okay so before any of that let's see who do we have tuned in today people they bro on a Monday morning Amen to that all right I take it the audio you know what I didn't even do an audio check from the system yeah it is I just want to check is the right mic it's picking up

ah right Glenn Lawson all right what a name Glenn Lawson all right I like it from Belgium um audio is Good Michael Dempsey Michael it's been a while I hope you're keeping well um Scorpio hello welcome uh the beard

the beard Yasin ah right yeah it is making that making that love yeah after this one it's all about spreading love huh hello all right who else do we have ayubal Maliki arrived from the continent good to see you here um salaam's mostly from Leicester Leicester Sharif Leicester Sharif

stadia Mark hello I'm from H-Town I'm not sure where H-Town is but it's the Asim it's not any Asim well on that note I'll share with you they say um they say in rever Hadith with the exception of is it with the exception of what I ask him they say every Asim that appears in a narration of Hadith is weak

with the exception of one um it's in the island of termiti but almost every awesome Europe that appears except of course our guest here because he's the Asim Allah awesome awesome awesome right so H-Town is Houston yeah Salam Houston we have a problem

so people what is going on let's take a look let's take a look um right people scoop I was speaking earlier on to Nora as well just sending a message hopefully you guys will catch up and uh we'll chat as well uh about you know with the Discord on Discord inshallah right so right can you make a do I I have a job interview coming up well right now Rohan

you have a job interview right now okay every everybody's thought um I mean may Allah make things easy for you um you know what go go at it throw your heart at it and go with all the passion you know this uh a quote I have I have it on my on my chain actually you know this the it's beautiful quote mantra for life it says

my Razor the says on the wherever you go with all your heart that's that's something that's something that is um foreign situation I don't know what is his situation I don't really keep up to date with

these Brethren's Allah Allah what is oh is this the thing you know I saw this clip going viral I say viral but as in being shared a lot about something about he was in some conference and he was asked to repeat a shahada and I don't know what conference it was but I take it it's and he was asked to say some his you know he's again but then say after it that he

would not support Rebellion against the rulers or something like this um I if that's the thing yeah hmm you know look Allah you know what I would say is look that

you know many paths will splinter from the path that takes you to God don't let these distractions distract you forget sectarianism you know there's nothing in it people they invest an entire lifetime's worth of energy and then often it's the regret you know on many occasions it's not even the fact

that people don't realize what they were fighting for was not as black and white but it's the fact that they feel now all of that would have been in vain if I no longer stand by what I stood for that's a a heart-crushing position to be in you know may Allah

a lot melt these people's hearts towards this compassion as well I mean because you know many of these people they are they do spend a lifetime dedicated to Islam many of these people probably pray much many more nawafil probably recite more Quran than maybe many of us they probably they probably do

a lot of devotion and commitment to aspects of Islam that if compared to I'll speak for myself if compared to me I'd feel possibly embarrassed about myself I mean but it's just that the devotion at times is misplaced you know they instead of God they establish a metonymic relationship with Islam

foreign is it's like a you see metonymy is it's it's like a kind of metaphor if you like although metaphor and autonomy often contrast it but metonymy is where you have a an object that is related to a different thing or linked to a different thing but you're using that as the subject so for example if I was to use the word brains to really refer to intelligence if I say oh you know he's got an amazing brain oh

you know you you're a wonderful brain or you you're saying you're using words or you're uh a sight for sore eyes you're using a word you're referring to a part of the person or the object or the thing or the entity in relation to the whole this is called metonymy okay or a metanimic relation uh ship to Something in Arabic this is also falls under Christmas um and they call it sometimes you know

it's got either a Jews or it's early but the point is in this metanimic relationship with Islam is that or with God is that they're saying you see so God is the goal but then God is linked to this concept of faith belief rituals um instructions guidance and they become transfixed on a part of this

thereby missing almost the goal but still I strangely they are hooked on a part that is linked but it's not the main thing sure it may be nobody's to say it has no value so they may become transfixed on fixated on things like oh the beard in Islam the woman's hijab in Islam in Islam Allah has these the ruble and the three

Division tripartite division of dohid um thereby which is linked to ultimately all these topics are in relation they have a metonymic relationship to God as a metonymy but they missed the actual maxit which was Allah so yeah may Allah you know it's a journey it's a journey for all of us so

um I don't know what this uh popping in to say hello really appreciate your videos pie prod I appreciate it yeah um um right so oh Imam Cassie he Allah Allah bless you it's awesome to see you online right well azerati much love for the super sticker

as always Allah bless you right let's get uh are you how come you have a good opinion of those brethrenic truly believe their motives is misplaced and well aware of that at the same time embarrassed front themselves with that you see let's you know part of the answer to this let's move into today's um let's move into today's session with some of the quotes and and you will find the answer to what we're saying

first of all Fahad Alam love you with all my heart love you too yeah Allah keep your voice smiling right so let's see um these were some of now this is part of the response to what a eube was just asking a ubeani one of the greater and Scholars of Hadith this is a quote from Maulana Angel Aladdin that we fight a fierce War Within what is the point of fighting with others

it's not that we are naive that we can't understand but let people it should not we should not allow our positive energy to be drained by the negativity or at times toxicity we find in the world you see we can't always control our environment

we can't control who we who what where when why we experience certain things we can't always maybe in some sometimes we can but in life we won't be able to always control that what happens to us we encounter how we encounter them what we can control however is how we respond and react to it remember that that

even if it doesn't appear so but to a great point is still a choice don't allow yourself to be drained just Let It Go Allah right so the battles that choose us because that's speaking about it's not necessarily about physical battles I've read I saw this quote uh yesterday I thought you know what let's share this

uh Mama's mama said Son you can't walk out of your own story wow you know I saw it it just hit me that this is your story it is my story it is our story we can't just walk out of it so why not try to change its perspective change its filter change something because ultimately these things are that

we have some control over them we have a control about how we feel at least and sure you know sometimes feeling is the most difficult let me um say this feeling is the most difficult thing to control let me give you guys a quick tip and then we'll move on to the session um in CBT cognitive behavioral therapy one of the great breakthroughs if you like of CBT is to emphasize uh to to highlight and then create an awareness around

the relationship the Triangular relationship of these three cognition your thoughts your behavior and your emotions so what's going on in there thoughts oh you know your your loser your waist your failure your blah blah blah blah blah blah blah okay all positive or whatever's going on in there

your behavior and your emotions if you if you're to describe anything that you are to describe as with the word feel I feel angry I feel worried I feel anxious I feel happy I feel sad I feel depressed I feel tired I feel anything that you are describing with the word feel is this emotionality it's an emotion okay that's as far as we're concerned this is the most difficult of the Triad you know these three so you've got cognition

behavior and emotions emotions are the most difficult to change suddenly like I could if for example you're feeling sad or you're feeling a bit depressed or you're feeling anxious you can't just say to yourself hey feel happy and you'll feel happy emotions are the farthest that for us to reach but the great thing that CBT shows you is that these three are linked like a triangle and by altering the other two you automatically alter the Third

so just as in a triangle if you change the angle of this one and this one the angle of that one changes so similarly these three have an Inseparable relationship so what you can do if you're feeling anxious or you're feeling worried or you're feeling okay I can't just change it by saying hey be happy or be but what can I change okay emotion is difficult I can change my behavior and my cognition so Behavior first thing sit up straight you're standing stand up straight take

a deep breath smile foreign you may think this is bizarre it isn't you know if you force yourself to just smile sit up straight stand up straight relax go into a relaxed state you know maybe you're sitting back pick you know hold your feet up on a foot stool for a couple of seconds stand up take some deep breaths some nice strides of little walk smile

90 seconds you do that 90 seconds that's not much you will immediately face your body will go through a physiological change guaranteed so you can change your behavior you can change your cognition so if you're feeling anxious you can tell yourself something it is in the hands of God you know if you're worried about something maybe you're worried about risk oh no what's gonna your mind just smile remind yourself we covered the Hadith

what what about the birds that set off in the morning they don't know where they're going to get their risk from Allah feeds them will he not feed you tell yourself something maybe you're anxious about something else say look it's okay smile just 90 seconds you do it fine just like that your emotions start to change so these are cheat codes that psychology is obviously discovered and honestly they're great I use them all the time I'm not I'm going to tell

you I honestly use them whenever I felt whenever I do remember like let's say if in time I've been feeling suddenly let's say I felt a bit anxious about something or uh if something like that happens I start and I become aware that I'm feeling anxious I will straight away I just I'll adjust my posture I'll adjust my breathing I'll smile I'll and and within minutes you'll forget [Laughter] it's amazing but hopefully that can be of some help to you guys okay so sharing

some psychology tips with you people let's get straight into what I wanted to discuss oh before anything a poem yeah a poem Oh my God I had a poem here somewhere as well yeah let me first of all one of face see the battle when the battle chooses you people this is an epic poem of phase Ahmed face that he says

wow he says when we stood firm ative we were like the on the immovable mountains but when it came to moving he says we move as in the the

lines have thought jasig which means that we even gave our lives in this thing that wow that obviously with the play on words of movement and standing still in the Urdu language movement linked to then even having moved on that such was the passion Allah there was a classic that I wanted to share with you guys Allah it is a phase it says well I just had it here somewhere let me take a

unmomentico people all right here is I knew I had it here somewhere it's a classic that I have read before and why not why not much

this uh you know when you speak of Faith you have to we have to cover this we'll cover this quickly we'll jump into the topic that don't ask me for that first love no it's possible so on you know in Arabic is the foreign

this is a classic people epic one of the most greatest puzzles ever written he says that I thought that if we had you this life would have been enlightened this is a beautiful play on um on tropes or just tropes that the Urdu poetry uses and RAM is one Melancholy or depression which in this era of poetry was glamorized I mean that may sound bizarre to people now but

but you know it's says that if we had Johan then why would we need the rum of the ages [Laughter] he says that it is by with your form and that this world finds stability in its form huh

this is metonymy you see when we spoke about metonymy that apart he says putting your eyes aside what else is there in this world [Laughter] what was the that other poem that

ah yeah it'll come to me you know where he says about the Urdu language but anyway let's this is an epic line of this you have to focus on this is to kind of be to kind of succumb to to be low like under control if you like that if we had you it is as if we have conquered fate see the battles that choose you huh

he says now this is the epic part look check this out you nada he says it wasn't like that many honestly this line just kills me he says you not her it wasn't that that by the way is saying that that isn't how it was foreign

it is only that I wished or desired that had it been so look at the look at the etiquette at which he's saying that that yeah if we had you we would have conquered faitha okay it wasn't such by the way foreign

wow Lord that the glance it's still goes in that direction he says that even now your beauty is it's mind-boggling it's you know so irresistible but what can one do and that could be taken literally but it could be taken

symbolically about the Allure of this world see once again that could be taken at its value or symbolic that there are other he's saying that there are other greater problems in this world than the problem of love [Laughter]

and there are greater places or Joy moments of Joy experiences of Joy then the joy of Union but that's wow honestly you know face he has some epic poetry I believe it's his as well that uh foreign

so okay we'll come to that let's get on with what we want to cover can we send in anything while the show is on seven Earths and seven Heavens a child yes you can send it in um if it's something urgent of an urgent nature you can Super Chat it in man then I'll take a look at it I'll take a look at them anyway but I have to get on with what I'm would like to speak about so I want to bring our attention people to

Surah 105. which is a and a makisura with five verses suratul the Surah of the elephant and it's something we know all too often but let's go over it and take a look at a few perspectives foreign

did with the people of the elephants did he not did your lord not render their plot useless and did he not send over them birds are Barbie

pelting these small kind of stones almost pelts at these elephants and then he enabled them to become like an eaten crop okay meaning disheveled scattered lacking life um in dissolution in disarray going awry

and just distorted so right now there's a few ways of looking at this Surah firstly there's immediately a kind of history that jumps at us leaps right at us that what what was this incident and it's an incident that in some way we know everybody knows something about it and that is about Abraham

of the axomite Kingdom so Abraham was the axemite kingdom was from the habasha the Abyssinian region which was East Africa that is close to the Arabian peninsula um there was a kingdom a Christian kingdom and during the rule of Abraham he had crossed over and here the next South Arabia which would be mainly most of modern-day Yemen and that was all under the axemite uh rule so Abraham he he he

had he spent a considerable amount of time in southern Arabia had gone there he'd Consolidated his Rule and he had brought over a part of his troops and armies uh several elephants and one of the things he did is secured his rule in whatever part of Arabia he could now there's certain narratives that he came to hear of whether it was of the Kaaba or the Muslim rule or not I'm sorry not Muslim but he came to hear of these other

faiths and things and at that time there were many kabbers by the way in Arabia so previously in Arabia there were probably anything between 20 to 30 different kaabas in different regions of Arabia so he set about to demolish some of these kaabas or to kind of subdue the people and he took his armies now what's interesting is so okay so this story is one and he sets out and in his in this journey he decides to attack the Kappa in as well

and but before he can his his army is kind of laid to waste like eaten crops so this is what we know of the story but what about the detail rather I would say what about the perspective Okay so so a common one way of looking at this will come to these perspectives one way of looking at this is a is a well um narrated Common Place narrative that is very traditional coming through the

whole story another way is looking at different interpretations that Adam have also put forward and then maybe reconciling with well how does history view this and what about um what about other um other resources historical resources that may give and give a perspective on this story what do they say so for example some of the byzantines do they speak of because they were in Connect they were communicating or well aware where they were communicating as well

but they were also documenting the uh some of the accomplishments of Abraham the byzantines because they were Christian as well and they had an alliance with the axemite kingdom in the South so they do speak of Abraham Arabia but what do they say and how do we then does that lend a perspective on events does it say that this didn't happen does it say did happen does it so let's take a look at these things but before we do any of that I think what's really important

um all right what's really important is that these surahs in the Quran they primarily even if they are nested in history so sure this suratul feel is the narrative is nested it's anchored in a historical event it's talking about that but what's the purpose of this Surah is it here to teach us history it is Allah trying to say okay

let me teach people who will read this some history is that the primary focus certainly isn't that may be a subsidiary point it may be something a byproduct of what's Happening as you're engaging and reading the Surah of the Quran but that's not the focus Allah does not tell you this person's name was Abraham Allah does not tell you when this event happened Allah does not even tell you the details of what's going on where did Abraham

arrive how many people did he take was there an army where did he get to how long did it this go on what none of this is being told because this is not the purpose this is not what you would say the primary focus of the Quran it is not to teach historical lessons it is not a history book in that sense that okay today's lesson is we're going to learn about the axomite kingdom who was one of the Kings what did he do in what year did he appear how long did he live what was his Reign like how did he cross

the into the Arabian Peninsula how long did he stay there what no no this is not the focus of that if you know that good for you more power to you but it's not what the Quran is here about the purpose of this is for Allah to teach us

that in life you may find yourself unwillingly uh not by your choice at times maybe maybe on some occasions It Is by your choice but on many occasions in life against your will facing an insurmountable bottle something that at the face of it it seems bizarre ridiculous it seems that there's going to be any good

outcome to this it's it's a David versus Goliath incident that it is just astronomical what you are looking at in your eyes it is impossible but it's not from your eyes that this matters Allah

maybe Allah has decreed something else that is what this Surah is here to teach us that against ridiculous odds whatever it is throwing at you the vicissitudes of fate now you can live Allah

stay strong that don't waver have faith it shall pass that is the message the primary message of this Surah the primary message it is to remind you that Allah is and these things our problems our crises ah

sure they their existence is like non-existence and in that moment to just smile that is the primary focus of Surah and in many ways it's even this the the the central trope the theme of this Surah al-feel the elephant

a symbol of strongly and firmly standing strength Force and courage people see that just as symbolically speaking the feel the the elephant feel is Arabic for elephant it symbolizes

a force to be reckoned with that's amazing when you think about it so in these five verses that goes right to two foreign that is what these verses are about so when you read these whatever you're facing whatever it is whether you faced it or whether you're worried about facing something in many ways symbolically and it's

almost counter intuitively that you have this symbol of an elephant as well that just stands you know just charges through something and although in the story in the narrative it's used to charge against that's the unfathomable pressure coming against to as a source as a force of Destruction but yet even that dissipates

so that's something I want to focus on just highlight sorry okay so that's the most important thing we take away from suratul field these five verses now coming to perspective on these right so we understand this incident is nested in Abraham of the acts of my kingdom and he comes up in the traditional um ubiquitous narrative that we have that people often say that so this happens arguably in the year that the prophet

sallallahu alaihi is born that's why that year is called also and you see that symbol once again of this of the of the the power rigor the kind of the tenacity that is symbolically associated with Alfie in some ways to to also reflect the Majesty of the life of the prophet sallallahu

but in this year it is said that in the year that the prophet was born that Abraham came to uh whilst he was going up north key um he goes to certain places and he's told that there is a Kaaba that people worship Allah at and they don't he was a Christian by the way but they don't they're not Christians so he says well I'll go and destroy this um you know Kaaba and and then what what happens is he needs someone to guide him because he doesn't know where the Kappa is

so this is the the general story that we have and so he finds this character who's the Judas of is of Islam or pre-islam Judas of the Kappa and that is which is then commonly used as a name to mean Judas almost in the Arabic sense so if somebody says that's an Aboriginal uh that they mean it's like in English saying a Judas so yeah you know sure you know if you grease my Palms I'm sure uh I'm sure I can guide you to the Kaaba in

Makkah so he does guides him to where the Kaaba is so Abraham reaches the outskirts of the Haram and there he meets um the the grandfather of the prophets and here uh this this uh the grandfather of the Prophet has some Commons that he's tending to and as the elephants are approaching um the grandfather of the Prophet goes to take care of his camels because you

know they going into chaos and so Abraham says to him that hey who are you and he identifies himself and he says that before you're worried about your camels I'm going to destroy this Kaaba of yours it's a very famous uh quote you know that he says I'm going to destroy this Kaaba and you're worried about your camels and the grandfather of the Prophet sallam says that I'm the the kind of owner they use the word rub also meant like master or

owner or like Lord but not in the sense of I mean it doesn't mean in that sense but it was also commonly used especially pre-islam it was commonly used to mean people that owned something so if you own this house you call Rubble bait after Islam I'm with the whole connotations of shirk people stopped using it as much but so this is Honorable you know I I'm the owner of these he says me Allah so you're going to destroy the house as in the Kappa the Kaaba has a Lord that will protect it

[Laughter] says this this is my duty let me just take care of this don't worry Allah will take care of his own and that is a in that is a beautiful Concept in and of itself of tokul and Reliance on Allah so this is the popular uh widespread uh narrative that we have and that as he was charging these birds and they're not quite sure exactly what is meant by ababil some people feel it's one of the you get the smaller birds today uh that are still in that region but these birds these ababil

they've released these little pelts and these pelts now um result in these elephants disbanding and going awry and then becoming distorted disheveled and and also left in utter destruction so that's the the main story that we have now some people had thought so that's one way of people looking at it some of our syrians said well

um right does so mawlana Abdul Kareem for example in his heart of seed he takes a look at saying well is it the Birds pelting because some people said well from a point of Reason are these birds pelting elephants to the extent that the elephants are kind of withering away doesn't to them it didn't seem to be coherent so they saw some of us sitting they saw this as the verse that says that you can

see there verse 4 that says they said this termihim is referring to the the you not to the feminine because TA in Arabic can refer to either the feminine third person or it can refer to you the muhatab the second person that we're speaking to so because the verse Begins by saying did you not see how your Lord did this and according to them this is a

continuation from that that that termi him and then you the people of Makkah catapulted and you through these kind of rocks at them that desponded the elephants so that's how some Serene saw it so they saw this um he said that well Allah that these birds flew out that kind of

just it kind it spooked them like it came out like birds came flocking out like the way you get so many bats come out of a cave for example it Spooks someone so that happened as they came towards the Haram which was Then followed by the people as in quraish of Makkah stoning that they managed to uh to as projectiles uh you know shoot not with a gun or a cannon but using their equipment to Pelt

at these uh charging elephants these large stones that then eventually uh cause these elephants to scatter that's a perspective okay right um like I mentioned many people the majority would go with the first way of looking at things they would say that look no this was these birds were pelting and they were dropping these pills and those pelts destroyed the elephants so okay so you've got two things here I want to also bring in a third historical perspective and that is that

there are certain historians from the uh Byzantine history that document Abraham in Arabia they also document some of his expeditions North bound where he's trying to um he's he's trying to subdue certain Arab settlements now they do mention some of the regions in their documents where Abraham goes to but what they they don't mention Makkah but they do mention thought if so they

mention he goes they he goes north up until and they do mention that he had elephants and he brought some uh you know he had obviously large armies with him and amongst them many elephants and things and he tried to uh subdue any kind of Rebel not just rebellions but any um you know resistance that he was met with and so they mentioned certain cities he goes to amongst which is that if which is not too far from uh Makkah I mean it is it's it's not that close but it's it's a town

that is in a mountainous region that many mukins had a relationship with because many of them did uh if they did have some land at farming land agricultural land in five because makkad was not a place of Agriculture there was no it was very it was arid but but it was mountainous and it did have agricultural soil so there are several people of Courage that had land there that they would grow Harvest on so okay no so that's interesting um another interesting point as well to

look at this is that who is the Judas of this whole story he is mentioned in Arabian history as being in jahilia that they had built a grave for him where as part of the Hajj ritual people would Stone it so that's interesting and another interesting point in this almost to look at this in a um almost from the lens of a detective lens trying to figure out well that's interesting and another interesting

point is that Abraham himself would not have had any knowledge of where Makkah was because which is the mainstream narrative that he did not know where Makkah is so when he's subduing these different or he's facing these different settlements he he says even in the main traditional narrative that where is this place Makkah and he doesn't know and nobody is showing him except so that's uh another interesting element there another interesting point that some of us Serene do bring I believe W

as well amongst them is that the birds now this is interesting that they cause because you know where it says that one of the main that these birds cause a certain disease and that is which is smallpox now it's it's like smallpox and and it can affect not just people but also animals as well now what's interesting is one way of uh that

this narrative also comes together is that when Abraham reaches tariff which is documented uh in uh other historical sources as well that he does go to thought if now when he goes there he is told of this place matka and he does plan but remember to get to thought if the elephants can't go up on the mountains they have to allow the elephants to uh to to set up camp Now setting up camp with so many elephants and armies would naturally

disrupt whatever uh wild uh life that you have there and the natural habitat because you've got this huge army with so many elephants and and horses and these things are now setting Camp here whilst you guys try you know you go into this mountainous region that would naturally create quite a disturbance in uh to the natural habitat including amongst it the birds that are settled so this was a fascinating this is a fascinating point that whilst uh Abraham

is there he does let's say he does plot to go to Makkah and with this plot of his which he's thinking because it's not going to be immediate like when they travel they set up in places they stayed there for days and weeks and then moved to another place that as he's going to do this because according to the main narrative he doesn't know where Makkah is because Makkah was not such a large Town it was a small town very small that whilst he's trying to he asks he eventually is Guided by someone called the person says

I will guide you so he's making this intention that yeah I'm going there announcing it I'm going to do this um that it is outside that if that this incident occurs that these elephants and this settlement which has Disturbed the habitat resulting in a lot of the birds that could use because one of the things that they did that people have spoken about is the disease Judy having spread in uh

especially even in early very early Islam times or pre-islamic times and how it was very dangerous and they would say it was through birds and often Birds when they they're using some of these things to create nests and do stuff but when disrupted that they would naturally Pelt these things that it is the at this settlement that these animals they they're they the this the destruction the dissolution begins with this infection this kind of outbreak that happens

and Abraham as he does decide to go he doesn't actually make it close to Makkah or anything as he does decide maybe it's by thought if the story of meeting uh the grandfather of the Prophet salallahu because a lot of people from Makkah had land and they had close connections in thought if I would often go there that this incident let's say this narrative is transmitted if it be true which is commonly said although the chain may not be you know it may have some questions in it but this whole thing happens outside that if

and it's there that this this this whole as Abraham's considering to move the armies and go that he finds that this this kind of pandemic that has broken out amongst them that has left them looking like you see because when there is a pandemic and there is uh infectious disease the imagery is like this eaten crops that you see parts and parts missing and and that seems to uh be quite

fascinating as a perspective because it ties into this historical accounts that are being found it also shows well some of the the the some of the the mediums through which this may have happened how this pelting may have resulted in this kind of outbreak resulting and the infections in these animals looking in the way they did like crops that have been um and also what's fascinating is you find that there are certain narrations

and I'll wrap this uh on this that you find certain narrations that you can see here for example uh the cover of that you can see here that transmitted from Buddhism um

say when we went with him we passed a gravel this is the cover of Haram uh yes um uh so so you see this this narration which which I found very fascinating that the grave of is outside right outside life and he's the Judas that says agrees to guiding them

and that's fascinating because it it kind of shows Hmm this is interesting and this perspective it doesn't really clash with anything because when you look at the when you're looking at the the Surah uh it's absolutely saying the same thing it's not saying anything different that these people who went there that they when they made this plan it went to waste that these birds pelted certain things and these armies were seen as though they were some kind of

the result of some kind of pandemic uh this some infection but resulting manifest appearing as eaten crops this would also explain why there wasn't really uh all these bones and things like this I'm obviously over time things like that could be moved anyway but I'm just saying by Makkah there isn't this uh finding of abraha's kind of stuff let's say abundance there or even archaeologically because they never actually made it to Makkah but they did make it live

so that's I think a fascinating perspective as well so you have uh these different ways to look at this Surah so you've got um you've got this way which is the general traditional uh narrative which is very common that he does make it to Makkah but these birds Pelt the elephant and the elephants are just destroyed by the birds pelting these little stones at them to another narrative by people like Maulana Abdul Kareem saying well it's not actually the birds throwing the stones but it's quraish

and people but the birds flying out is the first verse and that and then this narrative which I find very fascinating and that actually when you look at the Contemporary historical records They also document Abraham and his axomite kind of uh Expeditions that go towards the northern kingdoms but they reach that if and they do show that there was mass movement they are also historical records of not precisely that time but other times and around that era of uh these kind of illnesses and pandemics that did break out and this Narrative of

if there was a settlement of uh an army of elephants and and so many you know of horses and things that would disrupt the natural habitat resulting and with this them conspiring to attack Makkah resulting in this pandemic that breaks out between them uh between you know between the ranks of these of what he has resulting in this disease that they don't actually make it to Makkah they are in disillusion in awry and maybe some of them make it back some of them probably die and that's where we find the cover of

that all said the main purpose of suratul feel is still it is not a historical lesson as into teachers history it is a lesson of fortitude in the face of uh unfathomable crises and may Allah give us all strength I mean I hope that of somehow all right let's take a look at some

did Abraham did Abraham build oh Abraham I thought that's pandemic yeah one of Corona proportions shall we say right um okay mm-hmm let's see Super Chat natashven much love for the Super Chat uh is man capable of loving God unconditionally well

I think man's oh man I'm using in the non-binary sense [Laughter] months relationship with love is a lifelong Affair of discovery so when you say is man capable of loving God is man capable of loving is the first part of that question

and that in itself will answer the rest of your question and is mind capable of loving unconditionally and maybe after you know and is that not a journey onto itself foreign right so right let's take a look if there's any questions and I'll move on to what I want to speak about

all right driving home from what work didn't know you were alive of course of course yeah foreign right now okay guys I want to share some thoughts let me just ah not quite the same now it's she had some chai latte huh yeah

yeah let me just get a tissue ah one second let me bring up what I want to speak about which is parasocial relationships okay let me bring that up one second all

right so parasocial relationships people this is a fascinating theme okay I thought let's share a few words on this now I put that up there for you guys to take a look at that what is it what does it refer to um what a psychology have to say about it so you had these two researchers and psychiatrists from the 50s actually Donald Horton and Richard wall who wrote a paper back then in 1956

about this the parasocial interaction and parasocial relationships are fascinating actually they are in essence they are what we um and they were writing about this in the 50s check that out that's just Madness they observe that people develop an intimate relationship with in their time people via radio or some limited access of TV for example or movies

whereby people feel that they have an actual relationship with these people and they don't mean by an actual relationship in the sense that they don't think oh you know I'm married to such and such or that person lives in my house and lives in my they don't think like that so but exposure to so whether it's celebrities or nowadays especially people on social media um they may be content creators they may

be uh politicians they may be actors they may be singers musicians comedians just people with opinions they may be teachers people they people like me are sitting on here teaching what happens is you see this is really fascinating okay pause this for a moment to understand it we've got to understand the human brain the human brain as a core part of its survival uh uh you know it's it's it's kind of

it's survival tactics or strengths survival strengths is that it incorporates others into its worldview by means of value and it's necessary to do this for us to become a team or for us to become to work together for us to just hold some value in life for the other person so you you know you meet you make friends with someone you're like oh my God and you know that's such an amazing oh my god really value this friendship and you see kids get really

excited about friends and that's because it's very full of energy and at that young age and as people mature they try to control certain emotions and they learn to handle things but as kids these are so raw these Expressions kids are so excited I can't wait to see my friend I can't wait to and that friend has an important part in their existence so they interject the person into their worldview so they say well oh this person's like this this is a

story this is who he lives with these are his parents these are so it's very important now being able to do this is necessary in boosting our survival really as as a person and and by extent extension as a species it's necessary as a social click that we have the ability to do this this kind of um this kind of friend clue that we have it is necessary for us to survive because if we didn't have that other people who

did have that would definitely overcome you like you can see how amazing that would be as a survival strength so okay now let's come back to this point now in this day and age social media is really fascinating you know because what happens is it gives you access to countless individuals and their lives or at least what they want to show off their lives like maybe people don't show so many things that they like but what they choose to show and what you find is

if you watch someone especially where they are reasonably natural so let's say you watched a movie it may not happen as easily because in a movie it depends on the character the person is playing but we can often tell that's a movie or let's say I watch somebody sing songs all the time and every time you watch them they're singing songs that may not work as easily but if you watched people being natural just normal like they're just sitting down just having a drink just

cracking a joke smiling talking the Mind cannot distinguish between the virtual and the real okay don't think you know the mind is seriously calmed there's a lot of experiments where you'll get people who um they will see let's say social media like video clips of or even pictures on some occasions but especially videos because they're moving in more real life like of people that are deemed to be attractive to the subject so let's say the person thinks oh that's

you know they're deemed to be cute and attractive where they will the in the clip that person will smile or give them a kind of let's say a flirtatious look towards the camera or smile in that kind of that a bit of that Nutty Nutty kind of look to the camera naturally the person that is looking into this screen will react by smiling and they've done many experiments like this people will just so what what

happens is you will naturally smile when you see someone because even though you know it's a screen but the mind can't in the moment distinguish between real and what isn't real that's why people for example when they're watching a movie they'll start crying it's not that they don't know this is a movie let's say it's really emotional or they'll get scared it's not that they don't know they're sitting in a cinema or they're watching sitting in front of a TV but in the moment the mind can't distinguish same thing with porn why it works because the

mind can't distinguish between the real and what isn't real even though the person may know it isn't real so the emotional scene they're watching in a movie in a drama or the horror the scare or these things the the sexual excitement when people are watching porn or different things the reason they are working on the brain in the same way as something real is because in that moment distinction distinguishing is very difficult the the Mind sees it as real so even though the you know the

prefrontal cortex knows that it isn't real but in the moment it perceives Israel so now when you watch someone coming back to parasocial relationships when you watch someone especially being um let's somewhat normal like they're sitting they're talking uh they're you know they're cracking jokes maybe they're laughing doing something or as people they Vlog nowadays let's say they're vlogging here I'm going for a walk and I'm taking my dog on a walk or here I am in my house and hey I'm with this person hey I'm going to the cafe now hey I'm doing this

and so what happens is you get these windows into these people's these kind of intimate Windows into a person's life to the extent that you feel that by the end of it that you know this person like a friend it's like the Mind catches on to that friend uh function that it has because the only time you would have that much exposure with someone at that intimate level is if they were a friend so now that this happens in your mind even though you know like

you may think ah like you know it's not that you would say maybe some people would but let's say they they follow some uh celebrities or stars or people from social media it's not necessary that they would think that oh if somebody asked them is that person your friend but in their mind it's difficult for it to distinguish it assumes that they're a part of it and this can happen by even things like TV series you can watch a TV series I bet many of us may have watched a TV series that was so long that by the end of it you felt that you were a part of the

of the whole setup that's crazy it's like when it finishes you're left kind of with a void and you're left feeling a bit weird because your mind set up a reality and when that TV series stops after let's say six or eight seasons you feel like ah but the mind's like where did that go so these are things to become really to to heighten our awareness of because parasocial relationships right they are becoming more and more commonplace

but just because of social media and what we have access to now are these things good so they they can have many um they can have strength to them so for example a person they could be inspired by these people and maybe the normal friends around them wouldn't Inspire them so now they watch someone and they think ah you know they say that you're the average of the five friends that you have you're like the average of them so maybe a lot of the friends some people have are you know are also redundant like they don't

they're not doing anything in life and they're not you know and they're just people just Aim so low in life so maybe they follow someone that online or they follow an artist or they follow a book writer they follow a single they follow somebody that that or they follow a teacher they they follow people they've listened to Islamic stuff let's say or they learn or not maybe that person inspires them so they if they improve their life by it what can also happen sometimes people can set that as a virtual

um kind of higher ego of disa to Ho to hold themselves accountable to weirdly enough now that may sound crazy but people do do it like they don't like they might think oh you know I wouldn't want to like weirdly like they let's say they want their motive I'm going to be successful like they listen to this I'm going to do this I'm going to set this up on and somehow they feel that it's almost as though they want that person to be proud of them and they don't want to disappoint that person as weird as that sounds but but that actually does happen and in that sense even if it's false

it's still can be very when I say faults because the relationships in real life the other person sometimes doesn't even know that they exist and that's where it gets a bit bizarre because now you see it depends because well maybe you can go online and interact nowadays with celebrities and people and and you write messages and you follow them and you and that's all that's all great but then you they have to remember that really the other person doesn't really know them

they don't truly I mean generally speaking these people on social media they wouldn't know the people that followed them maybe they've seen a message or they haven't and seen a comment and but they wouldn't really know so it's all really a one-way relationship so that's by the way that's where they get cognitive dissonance that's why these scandals become so huge because it's like oh wait a minute that's not how I knew this person so they find this celebrity that uh there was something on social media about some American co-hosts that present a morning program

that have now been sacked because they both are in a romantic relationship with each other I mean they were married but they are now in a romantic relationship with each other so so this got exposed and and now they got sacked no no somebody may say well what's you know okay but that's the private business sure if they let's say they fell into a romantic relationship and sure whether it's good or bad but why does it make a difference if they are a morning host for a good morning show or Morning Show whatever it is because the issue is you see that's not

what these people have because in their image of this person it's what they've built up oh this person is like this oh this person is like oh my God the person now all of a sudden they do something that doesn't fit that story and it creates in people an irrational reaction oh you you it's really weird but it does and this is because the initial thing wasn't true like if you think about it people who follow those celebrities those co-hosts they don't really know them

they just know what people present about you anybody that's on social media presenting something remember they only present what they want to present sure maybe some people present everything but most people will only present what they want to present I mean I've been on social media for years when I sit to do my live streams or teach or to do whatever I'm doing remember people are only sharing what we want to share if there's something I didn't want to share I wouldn't share it it doesn't matter whether people so there will

always be sides to there will always be things that are so our perspectives will always be skewed so we can have some strengths it can Inspire us it can do things it can have some issues like for example if people become obsessed people become fixated if people have false expectations if people uh become deluded almost you know it's crazy I was watching this uh thing on there's a social media and now you have a few of them uh this celebrity what was her name there was this program mentioning her the little

Ma Kilim little market but anyway this this female celebrity and she sings and does all these things online and she had about three million followers I think it was on Instagram or was it tick tock I think Instagram except she's AI she doesn't exist she's artificial intelligence doesn't exist just like conjured up by AI that's just mad like so that's crazy I mean it's like whoa okay so the person isn't even real so that's uh so this is

interesting definitely so the more we become aware of these what we want to also focus is on real relationships in real life um use the strengths uh don't get if you find yourself getting too fixy especially where they're fictitious characters you know it's like kids having imaginary friends and now adults have cars imaginary friends but especially if it's somebody that isn't even real or if somebody's in love with a movie character or a uh a TV character now that's just fictitious

even the person playing him or her is not him or her so that is is quite delusional okay and could have a lot of harms but okay if they're real people and somebody follows them and that's good and but and maybe if they're using them for inspiration that's wonderful and you know but at the same time also use some of that energy in our real world build relationships um you know invest in real relationships as well and that's obviously and to be fair to some extent social media has

made some people quite accessible and that that's actually wonderful as well you know I tell you I seriously like I think now like think of this patreon thing this is amazing just this week yeah so one of my patreons uh that I have so we have these one-to-one sessions um so one of them this this this uh person from America yeah like we discussed I mean this this week it was just wow like honestly like since

we sat into so it's like an hour session yeah and we the person had certain points of I want to discuss these things beforehand and you know let me know and they were on things like identity the ontology of religion uh Muslim politics why do uh why does the uh for example the populist why are certain people drawn why are the more people drawn to adawa the kind of street that were that you see than they are to more intellectual discourses uh then

discussing things like let's say details on how do people perceive religion what about the historical links that we're seeing between certain parts but it was just like a just a rich wow like it's like just coffee talk talk talk talk and the hour was up here now to be fair something like that is actually very meaningful because in a way I like I wish honestly I was thinking about this because you know afterwards we were talking on some points and I said that I'm going to speak about some of these points on my

uh meaning with mom as well but I I was thinking you know I wish before when I was learning or just earlier in life I wish I had back then we had access like this because think about it how many friends of yours do you actually even let's say once a month for a whole hour actually go into deep discourse and discussions with many people if they're lucky they probably get to maybe there's one or two friends that they in a month get

to meet like that with deep you know like ah meaty discussions and yeah like that that that's honestly I was thinking to myself that that's just wow it is something like I would love to even now I would love to be able to do it with certain people but they wouldn't they just don't host these kind of they they they're not on these kind of platforms to be available like that but I would love to be able to just pick their brains for like a whole like just ah obviously in in you know with that uh obviously the the one-to-one

experience but yeah so coming back to this it is important I think especially with more younger people to become aware of these parasocial um relationships and just not that if we can Channel them towards and positivity inspiration motivation use some of the energy and feed it back into our real lives in real relationships on keeping in mind as well that these relationships that we have online are not they're not the like this there's an

element to them that is not real life okay I like I'll give you an example like let's say now people I speak to to people this this is actually a good one this is quite irrelevant and not so long ago as well like I I was speaking to this person speaking to me and messaging me and and what he's messaging me he's messaging me like like we're absolute buddies and we hang out I'm like but we don't though I mean I don't know okay like I've seen some

messages but they're like yeah you know almost listen and then not just cracking jokes but like like I give you an example I was I was quite I was a bit poorly on um I was I wasn't feeling well in fact it took me a while to shake this bloody flu cold off and I was and this person said to me oh how are you feeling and yeah that's a nice question I said praise said you know I'm a bit uh you know under the weather and stuff and and the person said ah what's wrong with you you're always getting yell at you haha you didn't I was

I found that very quite rude like I was like excuse me like who are you talking to like but that's that's a clear example of uh you see this kind of parasocial relationship because he's obviously seeing me often and maybe I'm laughing and doing things and and he's assuming that this is like a bi-directional that's it to be honest I I thought he was a bit rude anyway because I wouldn't really even speak like that to my mates and so uh so I immediately blocked him

of course I blocked him I was like sorry you you think you're talking to me I said that so I just block but but that is also an um an instantiation of this parasocial relationship uh issue where it becomes an issue where you don't you know the line the propriety the boundaries are blurred because you assume just because that person seems so familiar to you that you are familiar to them which isn't necessarily in that way but yeah guys I want to share some of that I hope it's of some help let's move on

a fraud somebody said you blocked a teared well that's exactly you see now there you go now that may surprise someone somebody may say ah you know I never thought you were like that but that just goes to show you see that our how do we know people we know people from what we see of them and then if you see one thing that doesn't you didn't assume it surprises you let's move on to uh the the next part all right which is more interesting people

strength in stories first of all I see saracen um how do you view the culture war in the US I.E the walk left versus the alt-right provide a solution to these polarized Americans uh shukran first of all much love for the Super Chat icy saracen uh Allah bless you shukran and I don't think Islam is going to provide a solution in the sense to the left versus right uh

um kind of culture War I think people wherever they in fact that was actually one of the key things we discussed you know in this uh what I was discussing uh you know with my patreon this week that was actually one of the key things because I said look you've got to understand how populism works that this is regardless of how what people believe in if you make a people's more insecure like let's say you could scale how insecure you're feeling right now how safe how vulnerable You're Feeling let's say you're feeling just average you know you're not feeling vulnerable

or you know you're you're okay you're okay now if we manipulated the circumstances to make you feel more vulnerable slightly on this scale so to say that it went up a point or two your views will lean more right whatever right means in your context and the more secure you feel you will your views will lean Center and left that's not to speak I'm not speaking about the militant left by the way the kind of fascist left Ultra woke kind of these these people I'm Street matches

generally views and that's fascinating all we need to do is manipulate how uh secure insecure safe vulnerable you feel so for example brexit is happening they start speaking about migrants start speaking about immigrants start show videos of some people let's say from Europeans in the UK or immigrants robbing people go go viral snatching purses doing this even if it's not you if you're watching a video where somebody is getting robbed and it's not you but I told you earlier on the mind can't distinguish between real and

virtual so it naturally also gets apprehensive so if I put you in an apprehensive State you automatically lean right so that's psychology shows that so it's amazing all you do is you freak people out and you get brexit you see you've got Donald Trump that way you freak people out all these Mexicans these this this this is happening he comes in throws all this stuff popular stuff people same thing with BJP in India you see this is how populism works so I don't think people and Islam is very

broad that people can lean right in Islam they can lean left in Islam they can be centered they can Islam has it's it's huge you know as a an amazing diversity so you'll find people in America that are quite lean right but they're Muslims and you'll find people that lean left and they're Muslims so Islam they it's not Islam Islam it's like water it will just flow Where You Are I hope that uh helps yeah

I'm a I agree that is a rude a lot a lot I see I had to show your comment on I'm doing it right cool Han cool Han what a name yeah get a hint of parasocial relationship affected people here by their profile pictures okay I don't know but possibly yeah sure if people um you know if people yeah sure right guys you know what

uh yep Scorpio think sometimes those D admirers get great yeah people do I mean you know what it's the way of the world and the way of the world Allah you know it is love people show but obviously there there are propriety issues you know there are you have to Value people's time as well you have to Value people you know people can't just give you all the time that they they have their own life to live you know it's like people will ask me something well I'll explain this to me

oh I won't teach I want to explain this you know why are you a Mufti then that's why I became to explain it to you that too in a detailed you know this I can explain it to you but I can't understand it for you [Laughter] ah fun and games but it is you know sometimes I tell you something it is amazing to to at least have as some friends to be able to

liaise with that are definitely make you feel like the stupid person in that conversation if not don't misunderstand what I'm saying here that what I mean by that is that that's how intelligent they are compared to because it really raises your level honestly I love the opportunities when I get things you know when I get a chance like that honestly I'm recently I had uh Dr Professor Mir Faisal me from uh Canada he stopped by came to visit me Allah bless him I always loved the conversations with him he's a prime

example I it's like oh man I feel so stupid in some of those conversations I'm like uh uh I feel like a caveman like uh what like and it'll be so obvious to him and he's like oh but don't you get it it's like a hypothesis I'm like what the hell what language is that but it's it's you know uh it is amazing honestly it is it really raises you as an individual so do try to do that expand your circles Wherever You Are

right um uh uh right Mufti I'm from Kashmir much love Allah bless you and may Allah bless Kashmir and its people and Grant him ease you know we're all so kashmiri but you guys are the real kashmiria you know as we say Amen we just our kashmiri is like it's like an Emmy kashmiri it's not this is you know Azad Kashmir of the Pakistan side that side I guess the vadi the valley of Kashmir

that's the real kind of Kashmir right people let's go to a story you know right let me just bring this up one second guys what better than a story um people speak of heroic epics of accomplishments of battles tragedies victory

I want to speak about any an event a battle known as the the Marika to the or the battle of the day of the car but this it's not just the battle that is the thing but it's the whole backdrop to it okay it involves the tragedy the tragic fall of a king the demise of a king it involves the the beauty the irresistible beauty of a woman it involves the The Valor

and the the the the the tenacious courage of another woman it involves the coalition of adversaries to allies and it demonstrates the rise of the weak and the fall of the mighty Allah people foreign

let's let's go to these people let's go to this story Man story time so this is this incident this whole this epic that we're speaking about is in the lifetime of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam this is further north it is in Iraq and it's to do with the sassanid Empire uh you know the famous Persian king the khusro of his time and it was parvez his name was so

and people say that some people say this was a year after um the prophet having received prophethood and some people said this was this battle this whole incident was uh with the migration of the Prophet into Medina and some said it was a few months after the battle of Badr I don't think it was after the battle of brother or anything but people have said these things and they've transmitted uh allegedly a Hadith of the prophet in relation to this saying that this was the day that the Arabs Rose against

assassinets and attain justice but so what was going on people what was going on right we've got to understand I've spoken to you before many times about the cultural capital uh in the North Main Arabian Kingdom which is modern-day Iraq and the City of Hira Hera was the cultural capital and a lot of The jahili Poets were either from there or used to go there as well and

the last popular King that everybody's heard of is not manipul and I've spoken about him so many stories before and he's the one that I may have told you you know he was this I I think he was the 18th of the lahmid Kings and he used to have this you know used to have this thing that today is my day that I'm basically bus you know like oh you don't want to see me on today's like uh um my day of

today's the day of uh of misery and Yeoman aim today's a day of bliss and he would have these days so anybody that he met on your mobiles he would just kill them I think doesn't he have anything else to do he's like I know I'll just kill them and anybody met on his he'd be like oh yeah he would uh you know if they were in trouble he would let them off if they were if they came for something he would Grant it so yeah

as Mark said the goblin mode it would go Goblin mode on boss and and he would be like Angelic mode on your name he'd be like and this was and well-known King of the lakhmeds so right it's in his time that and he is a a vassal for the great Persian Empire the sassanids um

Lucy uh Jones just said did he have bipolar he definitely it might be amazing to do like a psychoanalysis like evaluate these people you know psychologize their disorders definitely bipolar at the very least you know can you imagine it was you know maybe like just schizophrenia maybe some of them had these multiple identities or yeah manic kind of depressive but yes so he was a vassal so just a side note that you had the two major Empires here

you've got uh let's say you've got the byzantines Rome you know Eastern Rome and you've got the Assassin is the Persians you know rule a thousand kingdoms and blah blah blah so they quite intelligently actually keep a No Man's Land Territory between them because obviously if you're bordering each other then there's going to be an outbreak of War so better than that you allow these tribes to rule the neighboring uh the the kind of no man's land in between so when there's an outbreak it's between them but it doesn't reach it's it's like

a proxy war it's very intelligent now the Arab tribes that you had there had the allegiances so you had the Byzantine Allied Arab tribes known as the hassanids and then you had the assassinate Allied tribes known as the lakhmed or the managera they call them as well because so many of them were called but the lakhmed was their tribe and these two were always at it with each other and they were all Arabs and many of them were Christian um even though the sassanes were zoroastrians and stuff but the the Arabs were mainly just Christians and all of them and the byzantines were Christians as well okay

now that we know that right now people we have to picture ourselves in the courtroom in the presence of the Great khissra and the king king of kings as you would say ah you know tomorrow

I don't know if you guys remember that movie from when we were kids salt shine Shah means the King of Kings so he's sitting there one day and and the topic arises about beauty beauty of women as it does in in many Great Gatherings you can imagine throughout history human history so

you know oh to most people who who you know who can name some you know I'm sure I've got in my Royal Palace the most beautiful women and so here here there is an we have to introduce a character character introduction yeah so here is

who is an arrow he says oh he says he says you do have very beautiful women here unquestionably but oh some of the most beautiful if there was ever a woman that was so irresistibly shockingly devastatingly beautiful it is the daughter of Naman who was called people would call herka

is also Arabic for like heartburn so but Charlie would just melt the heart should cause heartburn or hint he says you know he says you know the not eligible to say but I say you know he says oh woof it is a foreign

[Music] right so the back story to this is we've got to pause the story we've got a backtrack a few decades who is a diplomat for foreign affairs

between the lakhmed Dynasty and he's somebody who's grown up he's like a foster kid of Norman I say fast not really it's foster care but he's grown up in his Palace why because his father or they was a close friend of uh not a man and even helped him at one point become king but then was later betrayed by Norma and murdered murdered

see now so no man murdered are they yeah who was a close friend murdered him and then afterwards he felt bad about it so to make up for it he thought what I'll do is I will you know what I'll raise his kid with all the luxuries as though he's my own kid like that so he took up they didn't know they and

you know I had him live with him in the palace and fostered him and but Zaid wasn't uh like he wasn't a toddler or something he was a young kid like so he's probably around 10 or something but he he knew that he murdered my dad so but obviously not man maybe he was having one of his young His Manic happy days and he thought maybe he was going by the understanding that if I do assign to this guy he will do assign to me yeah

but as what does uh foreign the great we've done a uh We've covered him in the stories before he says Allah he says that you see the problem with snakes he says even if their skin is smooth that when they turn

on you when they turn in their venom lies your destruction in fact in line with that there's a there's an Urdu one that what is it that um

he reads that in one of his results right so okay now they although he you know he was obviously at face value on good terms with Norman and he knew Farsi by the way and this whole backstory to that because his father knew Persian and he knew it he studied it and he later on took up these diplomatic roles but now you fast forward he's in the court of not man I'm sorry of kisra now why he's mentioning about hint you see this there's a provocation here hind was actually incredibly beautiful

and they did used to call it but him mentioning this there was malice to it so kisra sends a proposal he says hi art you know propose send a proposal to Norman say I want to marry his daughter so now Zaid comes back as the kind of the in-between Ambassador and he brings with him a Persian minister and so he tells him that oh by the way this is what he's he sent a proposal so not man is he's kind of angered by this

and he says that does he not find people in Iraq in the sassanid Empire who are sufficient for him does he not find from the Persians and then he says that look we don't marry outside of the Arab Clans now the Farsi Minister doesn't understand Arabic or he understands somebody doesn't understand some of the words so he asks him what did he just say because he uses a word he says

he uses this word so what means the the black but it's used to mean the majority the populace the majority of the crowds of so when he asks Zaid what what did he mean by this Zaid says translates it that he said it means by cows this is the Sting coming in the Venom he says he's he said so he translates

doesn't he find from the cows in Iraq a female cow that is sufficient for him that he has to look at the at the Arabs so the ministers like a child so now obviously this gets back to King of Kings you can imagine ruler of a thousand Empires huh he is shocked he's dumbfounded that how dare not a man

say this he says he summons him he better come here or I'm going to he says he better come here that's what I'm saying you better come here now so now mine realizes when he gets to someone that damn this um this one no gourd this this isn't going to end well so first of all he's worried about his his family he's worried about he has all this because he was a king he had all these Weaponry as well he didn't want it he was worried about his wealth as well

priorities priorities so first he goes asking some people for if they can offer him uh you know protection and they say look you're joking we can't it's not gonna happen and and they say look you might as well just go to kiss a lot and just just you know apologize or whatever and he's like Nars who's going about he's trying then here we come we introduce the tribe of Banu shaytan and these are a tribe of uh bakar which we've spoken about before

which are part of Rabia we've spoken about these before when we've spoken about the great Wars of Talib and bakar and all of these in the stories so there is this tribe known as the shebani tribe an and there is a guy there called honey but if you want to remember him a better Hani shaybani or honey was a man of his word and character so Norman goes to him says look I've got these issues and he says look what I can do for you he says if you want to go fight I will

fight with you but we can't he says what I can do is if you are worried about who will take care of your family who will take it you can entrust them to me you know I'm respectable within my tribe we will take care of your daughters of your you know of this wealth or Weaponry that you want to leave behind leave it safe he says yeah we'll take care of that so they do now Hani shayvani takes care of that and honey-shaped Bunny has a daughter who is known and she's a central character in this whole story her name is Sophia shebania they also called her

hajija which meant like the the one the argumentative but here it doesn't mean argumentative in a like the compelling one because she was this woman that she would I mean she was a young very very kind of rising uh female character in The Tribe she was young she wasn't like an old woman but she was a poetess she was very charismatic um she was somebody that the whole tribe respected she and she was somebody who always gave her opinion on matters and people would seek her opinion in Council

this also counters this narrative that oh you know the Islam it came in this backdrop where people looked down on women and they didn't have that's not true like these incidents are clearly reflective of that like Sofia Shea Bernier is like a clear example of this woman who is not only very charismatic uh Charming but has an incredible voice and uses it um

um right so uses it as well so um right so she is the now when her father so her father brings in he says look fine you know no man's gonna entrust his family folk here he's gonna entrust his weaponry and he's got all this armor and swords and we're gonna take care of it okay cool not man in this time heads off to um

but as you can imagine that isn't gonna end well Okay so as soon as he got there there's different varying reports some claim that he had not man he obviously the moment he got his hands on him he that he had him first of all locked up and then trampled over by elephants that that was actually one of the uh the the common ways of a method of execution I mean what a horrible energy

you know people these sadists like you know the pleasure that they get in what yes I love so he has not man executed and here they send a message to to hunt down the daughter because kisra wants her he's like this all began because of this yeah he's like

all this began because of hurricane so I need to see who this is so he sends a message now obviously people are the Arab tribes he's got remember he's got people spies within different Arab tribes that suck up to him he's the so some of them do suck up to him and they do their research and they say well she's hiding in banusheba fighter tribe so but so what I mean they're nothing compared to the great China's Army so

when he sends a message at this point seeks Refuge like she she's already staying with shaiban but she seeks like solemn protection like I want your word and she goes to no other than Sofia and you see here the role of women that she says to Sophia shebania that you give me your word that I'm protected and she says you are she says no give me your word and she says I give you my word ah a word what take it man take it

so here Sofia goes in her tribe and says it that I have given her because I have given her protection now this goes to show how the tribes valued her opinion as a woman so look this once again debunking this myth that these women were oh and I'm not saying sure it doesn't mean maybe there were certain occasions that you know you may get reports of some women being silenced or people weren't seeking the opinions of someone but it was not that that was the rule

it may happen but it still happens or in all places in all times but it doesn't mean that all Arabs in that time that where Islam came were like this so she offers this protection meanwhile people what happens is uh que sera replaces obviously not a man with a new king known as party who will later end up facing the Wrath of the the Muslim armies in the years to come

I believe as well Khalid bin Walid I believe um I think I believe he he legs it and runs when khaliban relief comes many over a decade and so later but at this stage at this stage where we are now he goes to Hira meanwhile uh kisra sends out this other he sends an Arab to this tribe known as Mansoor with with quite an army with him coming now find out and some of them are like uh-oh but Sophia she says look I've given my word and we are going to stand true to it

so what follows is this really heated battle she has she squares off two months old she tells Mansoor that you should be ashamed of yourself coming here to take a woman like where is and Mansour says he sends a message you know the armies would first they would send like before they attacked they would send this kind of message he says look just send her and you know she's not your problem and blah blah blah but they stand true to their word this is not the battle by the way but this is the of the car but this is a because it's a series of battles that result in

that but this is the the kind of the beginning of of the of this war to come so in this battle um Sophia who's incredibly eloquent she rallies not just shayban but the other tribes some of them and saying look these people have come into our territory we need to stand and she and she manages to get some of these and they put up a a like a heroic courageous resistance and they actually uh not only resist but

successfully triumph over this mansoor's Army that he had brought and obviously it's a Victorious to everybody's happy York obviously is safe uh but safia is also you know dignified that her people stood up for her respected her word mansoor's Army is it's defeated this news gets back to um he is not happy man I thought you know

you know it's like so he says he says just you wait man just do it so he says assemble the armies uh so what happens is a ridiculous number of the armies are gathered and set off towards the settlement of where these Arabs kind of where they begin

now before going off to these settlements seeks advice from different Arabs he says how do you give me you know give me your advice how do where should we crush them so one of them says that do you know they have a day in the year where they come to this place and it's this arid land and it's this it's called the car because of almost like the tar that is there and I do wonder if some of this tar was like maybe like fuel because

this is Iraq is incredibly rich in petroleum and all these oil and and I feel maybe this tar that they were saying that would cover some of the land that whether this was you know natural fuel so whether it was oil or petroleum or these kind of things from from the earth that kind of flooded out at that time but they say there was this region where this tribe would come in a certain season of the year because they would go there not in that region but off to it

there was a certain uh they would gather the they would have a ritual and there was some water they would collect and things and take it and there were certain other things and they would take it back to the so the person says to kisara why didn't you attack them at that point because they're going to be helpless so okay cool he says Point AR point I must man I must so okay kisra assembled an army and they say his army was so it was so huge and this was known about the Persian Empire that they say they would block out the sun this is how huge

uh they were it's like bloody you know ridiculous kind of numbers so now what happens is somebody gets the message to Sophia she gets the message and her dad Hani shebani hi what a cool name so they find out um but here they have a choice do we stand true to our word or do we just like give up and you know say Hey you know we got nothing to do with this and this ain't

our fight but they say that look we're going to stand true to our word and Hani shaybani says I promised her dad that I will take care of his family and and here Sophia says I gave my word like father like daughter huh they she says I gave my word as well so they say look this is going to be a tough one because they're gonna they're gonna assemble the armies so honey has no man's Weaponry which was already entrusted to him so he gives this to a

bunch of you know whoever is happy to fight with him so they've got armor body armor swords things like that Spears other things Shields he manages to get the tribes around him to to coalesce there's the hajjalbani agile uh there's uh they get other kind of tribes from uh bunny Baker to kind of join in they get and a lot of this is done by none other than Sophia she goes there she recites poetry she's a poeters she says to them because some of the tribes were not prepared to do it and she says that look this is she says that

if this is like an embarrassment this is our honor so a few tribes agree but they're still not fully on board at this stage there are several but not the whole of that bunny Baker for example they're not or someone saying it's not our fight now as the season mandated people go to that place now they turn up there but they go into this other place and what do you know kisra has sent at the Vanguard his armies okay so there's so many they're coming from behind here this is just the

Vanguard of the army and they have a just a an a fierce Relentless kind of battle breaks out and what's incredible is to raise the morale of the people Sophia fights in the front lines and just to raise them because people were backing off and so this is how the first day of the battle goes because first day it looks like oh my God what's going on you've got this huge these numbers just keep coming because more

and more armies are joining and there's so much more to come yet of the Persian Empire and so this is like they're just dealing with yet like maybe 25 percent have only come on so to raise the morale Sophia is fighting herself her brother is fighting her father is fighting and obviously people are feeling what the hell they say by the second day what she did was as more people were coming she uh and some people say it was somebody else other people that did it but in some narrations her she you know the

um you know the women fault they would have these kind of uh carriages that were covered and would be on top of camels called holdage that she cuts the the kind of the cover of that laying it beer so basically you could see all the women folk that were with them in their car meaning that this is basically burning the boats that guys we gotta this is It's Arya par you know this is like basically if they kill us they're gonna take everyone they're gonna take your women your

children everybody's going this is talk about they're like yeah she's really dropping us in here so what happens is you can imagine the fighting really goes up at this stage there was a great tribe of Bonnie bucker known as benigneshko they had been withholding and they had quite a few affiliates they at this point join and this gives momentarily like a slight upper hand

to to the Arabs at this point but remember more are still coming of kisra and kisra himself is coming King of Kings man king sign sir he's on his way as well Amit abachan in this so it's just Madness at this point Sophia honey other people have sent out to other tribes saying look guys now or never forever have we been subdued like you know dogs to the assassinate Empire

we've been sucking up to them doing this today is the day that we demand our Justice we make a stance we take a stand even I mean they still exist Arab tribe but in Japanese time they were like ruthless Warrior tribes we've spoken a lot about in the past so even and they're from mudar but even they join in this so they join with uh you

know Rabia and all of this and whilst this is happening the news reaches so more and more of kisra's tribes are coming and the fighting is intensifying but it's locked it's locked you know it's being getting the open hand but they're not backing down and it's oh it's going head-to-head toe-to-toe tooth and nail people all this by Sophia chapania forgiving for vouching for herka okay been to Norman right will be and because

of her beauty this intensity we come back or the clamor the bloodshed during this one of the uh an ambassador a secret Envoy comes from kisra's tribe way ahead of the final batch that is yet to arrive he comes and he tells uh Sophia and her father honey that look listen we because remember kisra had in his armies some his armies were made up of

foreign armies and amongst his army especially the the latter barge a huge amount of them were Arabs he said to to these guys that look we're gonna defect so pakistra doesn't know because we've had enough of this good for nothing to it so they say do you want us to do basically it's up to you shall we come now and Sophia this is why they call her the wise person as well and some people say

it's the father's advice but they say it's hers she says no don't don't defect but not yet wait till you've reached the Battleground oh surprise so what happens eventually all of the army of kisra has arrived and with all they say there's so many and he now feels even though it's you know it's like going Head to Head you've got all these tribes have come together you've got people banutamine which are a huge tribe of the Arabs they've joined the

fight they've come from they've come up to fight they've joined you've got bakrid other parts of Ruby are other tribes joining in it's intense but now more these huge numbers of kisrah have arrived and as they arrive and they set up ranks huge portions defect to the opposite side they all surprised

this is like is surprised like kusra is like oh Abyss look he's like what the hell just happened to you huge flanks amongst his kind of flanks you've got huge the these part you're talking like what he's relying on maybe 30 percent of his thing just defect to the other side you see you know defection it's not just the numbers but it's what it does to the morale that is infinitely more damaging

so when such large numbers went across the other side it shattered the morale of of the sassanid armies because they thought oh because people feel like oh my God is everybody going and then the Arabs who now for once this Coalition of Warring adversarial tribes these kind of tribes that hated and Clans that couldn't stand each other and fought each other for decades in the past had all

form this Coalition and United to stand up in the face of tyranny and they charged at kisra's armies that was the day of great Triumph for the Arabs they say that what they and then to make matters worse that territory that land the car they say that he had been blackened by the natural uh what may have been like I said petroleum or oil kind of rising um

that the kisra's Army were not accustomed to fighting in such arid uh conditions without water and obviously many of the Arabs who were desert dwellers they they had many preparations for stuff like this like small amount of water used to surviving uh going for great periods with minimal uh quantities of water I mean they'd lived like this many of them this also completely just flipped it was a game changer the Army these

astronomical numbers just collapsed one before the other crushing their own soldiers as they ran for their safety kisra himself turned in shame some say he died in that battle others say he got wounded but fled and it was a day of great utter embarrassment of tyranny Allah against a few LED initially by a woman right Sofia standing up and offering protection to

another woman and her irresistible beauty that began this whole thing where we're stemming from this bickering politics of and betrayal of zaidi who wanted to get back at not a man little did he know that there was going to be one of the most decisive and greatest battles pre-islamic battles that was ever going to take place was going to be a consequence of his action huh

how sometimes the battles choose you and they say Zaid himself met his uh tragic demise he was also then uh killed as a consequence of this this battle so wow you know so much happened that people say that all throughout Arabia right down to the southern Kingdom that the Arabs felt this sense of wow they couldn't believe that you know some Arab tribes had finally not only stood up to the tyranny of kisra and assassin Empire

but also triumphed victoriously and people say that even the prophet said they attribute Hadith that this is a day that the Arabs gained some justice from uh the assassinets but when you look at the components and the parts and the characters and it's so incredible but what a story you have loyalty betrayal love enamored enamoring Beauty

War Bloodshed you know Triumph Victory tragedy demise all put together in the battle of the car people so I thought let me share that with you guys let's wrap this up it's been quite a bit of uh uh somebody said in the words of Mike Breen I don't know who that is Bank yeah uh shukran shukran Claire love these stories shukran I appreciate that it is really I find you know honestly there's

so much to just learn it's so amazing somebody said what about kinda kinda were mainly I believe in Bahrain and and that region um but yeah guys let's wrap this up it's been epic I would have taken on some um you know some some guests but it's late I've got an early start it is Friday though so TGIF uh thank God it's Friday

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