Why is it so hard to find real, honest people?

the one and it's like oh my God you know oh my and then the wedding's got to be it's Extravaganza and it's got to be like whoa you know some and so did this and I got to do this and and it's so competitive uh that and and it costs a lot it's incredibly costing so people they ain't you know it's definitely like let's say you get a 19y old a 20 they wouldn't be in a position to do that no way I mean um maybe when they're close to 30 yeah so um these are some very

difficult kind of um challenges facing religion in this day and age let's take shran those of you sending the super chats saying to know people their true lives Zeba says it's hard to get to know people their true lives so hard to find real honest people yeah but I that's true I I

honest I think you see does anybody really any ever know anybody that's true isn't it like how well do you know anyone I think you can know a side of someone but then aren't we all just ain't we just wearing masks in front of every like as in even if it's not being fake but it's a particular attitude let's say you know you may behave in a particular way with your parents and a particular way with your boss and a particular way with your uh children in a particular way with your friends and a particular way with a spouse it's

not and that is a kind of a side an angle a facet to your personality so does that person know you the way maybe the other people that see a different side to you know you probably not so I think that's a point and then you know the problem is as well that these see I think the the kind of uh The Lure is too

strong the farce you know the force I think the force is uh too forceful but seriously I think it's um you see you know in this world of Instagram there just instant gratification there's too much of it and and the mind you know the brain can't get enough and because it's look these things like what they do to the brain is there is a release of dopamine that kind of

goes through these dopaminergic kind of Pathways yeah this is the same thing the the kind of level at which it happens especially with when sexuality is involved or looking at it is the same as taking a shot of cocaine I mean that that that can you that that that is incredibly powerful so this is why it's so addictive these kind of things are and now constant constant constant and and the problem is that you see it's always the search for the better you know maybe there's always because there's always

something better isn't there there's always you know you may say oh look that put you know that person looks good that girl looks beautiful that guy looks handsome whatever but then you'll see someone that's better and then you'll see someone and I suppose this is more so men maybe more so I could be judgmental but I think it's more so men um and it is true as well I do agree that um a lot of I don't know about the us though but I think in Britain a lot of the the kind of certain Muslim minority ethnic men especially within the Pakistani thing there is a huge issue as

well I don't know what it is that this is this kind of like um they just they're a mess some of them and I'm not saying this as a as a this but there is this I don't know what it is you know this kzy bro kzy bro kzy and you can see why it unfortunately pushes so many women into this kind of Hardline feminism you can see it sometimes why because the attitude of some of these men it's appalling man appalling you

know I I I hear things I hear cases I I speak to people sometimes it's shocking man you know like the the the kind of treatment the kind [Music] of just that whole you know they they do treat and they do treat some of these women like absolute dirt and that's just you know it's it's adding to this whole kind of cess pool of of a complete cataclysm mess that we've already got as Muslims and I think it's it's a problem yeah I but I don't know once again I don't know what the

solution is what is the solution but I think that may be that the kind of background of let's say pakistanis within the UK generally being mirpuri from aad Kashmir with a rural background that I think is a contributing factor I'm I'm not saying this against you know my own roots are from there as well but so it's not kind of I'm not against uh but I'm just saying it is a sad factor I I I see read things and I speak to actual people I see actual CA cases and I'm like like what the hell is wrong with

this guy he needs a good you know like a good uh needs to be fixed up and I don't see but then you know I don't know I don't know you know and and there is a bit of back and forth but but that is is a fair point I do say that I agree that that is more a male issue and I know sometimes I I have attacked uh feminists and stuff which I I don't agree with the Hardline feminists at all I do believe that they are kind of cancerous uh but I can see some I can see you know when you see stuff like this you understand why that's uh increasing because the way certain

people are behaving so I I would see you know like I I I've spoken to people who are in relationships broken down treating the woman ridiculously and doesn't want to be like can't stand her and won't Rel won't allow the woman to be divorced it's like what kind of yeah is this guy's brain on another level of is he you know this is where the Geniuses are like yeah what is he seeing that that we're missing in this

equation this guy's either on some Einstein level of you know breakthrough or like I don't understand why you're torturing yourself you're torturing her you're torturing people around you you're living in a misery you why why I don't get you know if something doesn't work justas you know peacefully see that's the best thing the Quran says hold on uh with kind of Civility or you know with with um yeah or or you kind of separate gracefully but yeah let's move on people