'The Hitting Verse'[4,34] explained with context & trajectory; Its Haram to hit women PT.1

anyway let's get back to this right so Surah right now this verse 34 is one of the most um I don't know contentious verses of our current times where Allah subhana ta'ala is speaking uh about if there is a dispute between the couple so Allah mentions in the Quran

so admonish and and then about and I'm going through a common translation okay I'm not saying necessarily it has to mean this but this is a common translation right so that to separate maybe from the you know in terms of I suppose to have some space in terms of intimacy and then there's a mention of okay which appears to mean to hit hitting them right

now so many people have understood from this that it's the Quran allows um or Islam sorry allows for men to hit women that is not true okay that is not true it is important to understand understand a few things here I would I'm going to try to explain this in obviously I can't expand in elaborate detail here I will cover certain aspects and maybe in the future I am hoping to inshallah do an elaborate video dedicated to this the hitting uh verse

uh 34 inaha the thing is first of all this understanding that you are not allowed to hit women okay this first of all comes to us very clearly we begin with the Quran I will demonstrate this we begin with the Quran Sunnah then the salaf okay the Quran the best of the Quran isrr okay it's looking it's it's explaining the Quran through the Quran now you look in other

verses Allah says about living with amongst for couples the advice he says okay live with them with kindness okay with what is known as kind gracious behavior in another verse Allah teaches us same thing and this is even more clearer because this verse here is speaking about it's speaking about when there's

an issue you see when people are about to get when people get married when things are good there's never a problem you know people say oh well you know everything when everything's sweet there is no problem issues only occur I mean you really only test the character of each other once there are problems obviously if I'm having an awesome time and somebody's having an awesome time we're not really going to test each other's character we're only going to see the good side but when when there's a dispute that's when we see true

character so Allah says let's look at this is speaking about dispute let's go to another aspect speaking about dispute Allah says you either hold on to this relationship with kindness or you part ways gracefully withan tell me does cover and cover beating

up would you if somebody slapped you across the face right or gave you a flying kick or like an uppercut right to the ribs is that is that uhan is that kindness and gracefulness or do you feel like yeah man this person awesome really knows how to live kindly and gracefully and of course not so here we have a clear verse of the Quran telling you you cannot do these kind of things okay the other thing you

have to understand is I'm going to throw in a lot of com components here and this is why I said it's going to be all in pieces and in the future inshallah when I do a video I'll try and tie it together with given a lot more time we have to understand that the dean on many aspects set for us a trajectory with ethics this is called trajectory hermeneutics okay or it's trajectory ethics so sometimes the dean begins with a certain ruling or there's certain things going on but it sets the trajectory further up so as people and

civilization and the Islamic civilization or Humanity will continue to evolve they will reach that status that will be actualized a good example is like slavery Islam set the trajectory that when mankind will reach an actual their potential to be able to forbid this this will become Haram and that with that trajectory ethics trajectory hermeneutics it it it didn't it didn't um it kind of condone a certain practice

but encouraged people to to develop towards this trajectory okay so that is the understanding of trajectory hermeneutics so in a similar way so that's like slavery as an example uh right so the thing is take it okay right so the thing is now same thing here we've got to understand another component I'm going to throw in there that the Companions and the prophet sallallah alaihi wasallam were the first recipients of

the Quran the Quran came to address the companions through the prophet because the prophet he was already a prophet right it's the people who have to bring Iman they have to bring Faith they they were a make or break deal for Islam Islam would either be made or it would be forever forgotten based on the first effective Community they are not like other people who come after them okay now so the thing is you have to now now okay we have to pause this and try to get

into them into their world the Arabs in the time of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam lived a warrior lifestyle okay they lived a warrior lifestyle they resembled in many ways those of you that have watched things like certain series on the on the Vikings for example they lived a very similar lifestyle to what our image of the Vikings they were just Raiders they they W like generally I mean some people

amongst them had you know Agriculture and stuff like this but mainly it was a desert they they were hunter gatherers as well I mean there was some agriculture going on as well it wasn't that they were hadn't discovered agriculture but they were hunter gatherers they were Raiders they were they were just Warriors they had very little art they had very little literature they did have poetry but they had very little they weren't into scripture they were not a people of texts they did not write much some of them could write but they

didn't write much and it was mainly all about Clan all about and why Clan because Clan is what protects you it's all about boasting it's all about boasting it's all about power you know what does the you know the from the what does he

say that when our infant who's still nursing when he reaches the age where he you know is he kind of weans off nursing so he's what probably two two and a half three maybe that the tyrants will prostrate to him out of fear you understand this this is what the Arab lifestyle was all about you know the whole thing you know you've probably read about all these um

and all these different uh you know what what do he say you know this is this is part of his point you know when when this a difficult War everybody knows where I am I'm in that war and this is what they just lived and died about just Warfare this is why watch like watching things like the Vikings or stuff like this it shows you in some way huge similarities even the way they believed

in God is very similar like like you'll see that obviously the Vikings believed in in different gods Odin and all these people but it was all about death and I can't wait to die and it will I will feast in the in at the gates of Valhalla and this whole narrative you see this in the early Community it's it's all about you know oh let me put this down I'm going to feast in Jenna and I can't you see their lifestyle was incredibly different and it was a very kind of warrior lifestyle now once you understand that you start to you you have to let that kind of

digest because these were a people let me give you an example they would go on a raid they' probably lose a limb so my arms cut off haven't got an arm but hey I brought back a golden cup and a golden tray and I'm over the moon because why because I had a successful raid I mean today people would be like what the hell is wrong I mean how can you value that above your limb but to them it didn't matter their lifestyle

was all about raids all about Vigor strength warrioress fighting fighting to the death wanting to be killed in battle this kind of attitude and this wasn't just amongst their men their women were a part of that Society their women fought even in the time of the Prophet you see women fighting you understand so nusa and other women these they were warrior women so when you understand this you start to see that okay these people had a certain mindset so these people had a certain

mindset like a woman or a man if they did something wrong they felt you have to punish me like I'm not like saying to them oh listen I think you did this wrong um I think I'm going to fine you I'm going to give you a fine these things don't work for that society that world that kind of warrior uh you know that kind of almost like par Viking world you don't go up to people hey I'm going to give you a fine they were all about if I've done wrong I should be disciplined I should

be this kind of understanding they had and they had this understanding and amongst them the women had this understanding as well the men had it as well the women so the men you see certain things them saying Oh if I done something wrong hit me and the women women were part of that understanding now so you see at that time they had this view them amongst them that oh if I've done something wrong then I deserve so for example I deserve to be hit and my husband ought to hit me if I did something wrong now this was simply

descriptive of this of their kind of culture this Warrior kind of culture that they had so when the Quran comes addressing them in this it's only describing what they're doing but what does the prophet say because you see to them it they all want to be a part of this even the the women even the men they all want so when the men are wronged they want to be hit when the so what does the prophet say he recognizes this is what's going on obviously he's a he he's come from

the same he understands their culture but then he says and never shall any of you if you were upon true goodness hit now look at that wisdom so he he recognized that look yes this is your culture and you guys are acting according to your culture like you all are in on this like you you want but if you were upon true goodness you would never hit setting a trajectory that as soon as people move

away from this culture this will not be allowed now as soon as Humanity will actualize and develop its ethics it it will reach that trajectory and this is in their own students times you see one of the major the of makah the of makah the one of the greatest students of AB one of the people who when Hisham the king uh the Khalifa of the time is uh is sitting in the Haram he

walks through and people uh you know they kind of obviously he's got some Gods with him and stuff and they and he does the TA and stuff and then he sits down and then he sees people kind of people being torn apart almost like a wave they they give way and and he looks that what on Earth is going on here and he sees one individual walking through and he says who on Earth is that and they say that isah the scholar the dawn of

Makkah the one one of the key inheritors of abas who is the as the prophet said the one who can translate the Quran clearly declared it is Haram for anybody to hit his wife clearly declared it it was a well-known position of okay so this is what I'm uh trying to explain here that it it is not permissible that that verse first of all

came descriptive and is trans and is understood in light of the other verse that that you hold on with kindness or you part ways gracefully to live with somebody and to slap them up and to beat them up right that is not kindness okay that is a clear violation of the verse of the Quran okay so and the words of the prophet and the fwa okay and this same understanding you will see people like who was the Islam uh and the grand

Muti of Tunis in his time a graduate and a teacher at Zuna the original Zuna in Tunis and he was the Islam of the malikia as well and this is his ruling as well in his under this verse he gives a very similar kind of obviously I'm giving a lot of context about the kind of lifestyle and stuff like this but he he says more or less the same thing that you he he says it clearly you you do not hit but he explains that there there were some cultures he says even in his time he found certain bedwin cultures that they saw this as a that they wanted

uh to live like that and he said that obviously in the cities this would be inconceivable and it would be un Islamic but anyway so I hope that's of some help people these are difficult topics um uh you know I'm not going to lie to you these are difficult topics I do you know this is why it's important for to come together to share ideas to share thoughts to to kind of bounce ideas off each other