Halala & Triple Talaq: Warning and Advice - Mufti Abu Layth

so it's different anyway coming back to to this right Ilana as it's commonly known in or do or the heel as they call it our week that he can also mean an opposites so just whoa is if somebody says guys I just wanna perform a little eel with you vanilla whoa well you turn up in the bathrobe and the other person's got all their books open so that lil in Arabic can mean analysis okay so just to kind

of clarify that now the thing is well what this means is making something halal Allah says in the Quran about palak that Alohomora turn that you know palak is twice so I'm sarcomere my roofing of the city and be a son and so on and so forth but then Allah say is that you know you can do this and then you can do this the lot and then find palapa harming bad then if he divorced her for a final time for that Sahil Allahu hata Sankar huzzah genera then she is not halal for him unless a future

marriage of hers was to go to ruins okay now this is really interesting because right so what happens now is let me tell you what's happening now tell you the rulings then come back to this and I think we might have to just kind of wrap up with this really because where I can see a lot of questions coming but this really demands some attention okay so what's happening right now what's happening is people are giving three thil ox so guys are getting angry

right so they like why is the tea cold woman and then they like oh my god what have I done oh I gave you a lot three times all right so now what do we do so this is what's actually happening is and I hope it's not happening but it is in some places they're saying well the only way to get married to you now is because Allah says if he divorced over

three times because the majority of the V schools the majority of the met haps have all the majority of the methods have believed that three Polacks given in one go count as three all right so the thing is they count as three talents so therefore it's brought you straight up to speed with this final verse saying well in palapa Humminbird any fee divorces are after that Valletta he Lula who then she's not halal for him so he's like oh now I'm stuck so they say well Allah says unless another marriage of those broke down

so let's engineer this marriage so and according to the hadith as well it has to be a proper marriage so meaning and a proper marriage was very clear that what you get married for most people one of the fundamental things is intimacy sexual intercourse so they must be sexual intercourse okay so so what some people unfortunately have been doing nothing that they've been saying okay we can arrange a hello let's take place so you bring your wife here so she comes

along we read a quick knee cap all right Kabuto I accept do you accept you you accept you and so what they do is they now go for they say okay shall we now shall we spend some time alone you know get to know each other in this little time that we have so they now go off wherever is and as

you can imagine naughty naughty stuff they have to have to obviously it's all serious of course we must now consummate the marriage woman follow after me okay now one must disrobe so the thing is look so this is so what happens is what you're aware of they go they have sexual intercourse then this new husband

he then divorces her and says okay I now pronounce divorce the laughter lock block she says all oh thank you thank you for TV F before this on my part time but II live now I'm gonna go back to my first puppy they have waiting for me outside so the other husband will probably now be there or she will now go home and they will now redo a nunica and obviously they'll have to wait for the ADA the three months or whatever and

then things are just normal except like hell will they be normal I mean how could how could that be normal anyway I mean I don't know I mean because it's so but anyway so this is what what this is what happens with this halala thing so the mother hubs have said three Polacks generally speaking three so all have had some differences on this by the way the three tell arcs or three if it's happened and there's been a minority position in all schools of law saying

that look no actually the cut if there were in one context they only count as one but anyway as a result of this ruling this is what's happened and now these women are sleeping whether the men obviously then going back to their husband and as you can imagine it's not going to be very and most of these guys you have to remember are gonna be incredibly insecure anyway so they're gonna be like mmm so so it's gonna what are you still thinking about him hmm God but can you

imagine the job of that guy though imagine he's a professional like Mahan Lin like I'm a professional he's like excuse me I take pride in my work right so it's like a it's like excuse me can you can you make an appointment online please because you know I I only do things professionally right so can imagine what his job must be like it's like boy what a stressful week at work can you imagine imagine his family don't know what he does

they have to come home and go it's been a crazy day at work so the thing is anyway right now the point is and by the way and so some places I remember hearing that some places they say oh they're like oh can it be like this really like a really weak man can it be like a really weak kind of like Oh like you know you look at really skinny and and oh what can it be like an old old

kind of frail man because you know no one like some strong guy like a really manly man comes out like he's like holding a cigar ah it's like you all right bro boy things would be incredibly awkward after that so that but the point is so I've actually heard where they've said how can it be like a you know they've wanted like really weak like a weak

frail man or like just borderline you're like guys in their late teens or that are still not matured properly they want something that but anyway so what is the ruling on all of this the ruling on this are strangely enough most the methods have actually considered this if engineered to be a haram the Hanafi method did say that you see that this is the thing the Hanafy might have had some leeway in saying that well if the

husband wasn't in on me so if if if if a friend friend hello friend if a friend did this set this up with the wife the ex-wife just to help the husband get back together with his wife then it's actually a good thing so they actually say this that but they say if he did it without plotting it with the husband so if he did yeah if I you know if I just feeling friendly hey friend are you

in need of a friend so I see mmm so I see you've divorced your wife hmm I see you're quite upset hmm well I want you to know I'm a friend ring is I'm gonna be contacting your wife so the thing is that so in the Hanafy method they have this ruling that if the husband did this sorry if the the new husband the friend husband or I did this to to help his friend or help this

person without plotting without the husband the first husband being in on it on not engineering it with them then it could actually be a reward will act reward well I can understand but religiously removable I'm struggling with so so the thing is now you'll be surprised he I'm just saying what kind of man would allow a halala you'll be surprised because this is where religion gets twisted you see because they want you see they've got kids the to embarrass to divorce and they can't live with each other because

they've been put through so much guilt that this is Haram Rita laughs three dogs Xena Xena you're gonna get this is everything is impure you're gonna be like this you give me that so because they tell them all this talk the scholars do they get petrified and they just think you know what just do it just like let's do it so so the thing is okay now now that was the backdrop people now I'm gonna reevaluate

all of this okay so with you now first of all I'm gonna say that in line with most the methods in fact this is this what goes on is most it's gonna say bang out of order it's just utterly out of order right so the thing is this is unacceptable

slick more hearing all of this says bro why have you got a chain on slick this is mine with his priorities in place he's hearing of all these calamity all these issues because bro why have you got a chain on I like that guy already he knows he's got it focused right so the thing is anyway now right coming

back to this I believe that this is utterly unacceptable it leads to obviously it leads to not only a ridiculous future for the couple for the intended couple not the halala not i'm mahalia and the wife momentary wife but the actual first husband it leads to a ridiculous future for them anyway it's a misery and a humiliation for the woman right but it also ridicules Islam but which is utterly unacceptable so the

thing is because when we're speaking on behalf of Islam was speaking on behalf of Allah and His Messenger and that's something that we don't have we don't have a right to do okay not in this kind of manner so I would say not only would I say that we act upon this minority position which is that in theater in any circumstance were given in one gathering that they only constitute one not only would I say that and that was the fatwa given by some Oh Lamar might you know

there may be a minority but within all methods so within the Maliki method the recent legendary great Mufasa and Grand Mufti of the Maliki orignal sure his fatwa was that three equal one that we can take this fatwa for Malik wherever necessary before historically scholars within the Maliki method apply it not the salam many of the folk aha October Cordova Muslim Spain they all said that right that and so I'm just giving you these opinions here first right the other methods as well if nama cotton from the Hanafi method of the hey

alakina we said look if there's a custom you can resort to it stuff like this and other methods as well and other people have said this that's the first thing I'm and I'm going to say that no matter what the circumstance no matter what you must I feel we are under obligation to find a kind of reparation ace and salvage that nicka if the two is the couple have a strong resolve to salvage their relationship then the scholar is duty-bound in my understanding to find a way to make it

happen and I believe that right that is what Allah has ordained upon the people of knowledge so if he gave three tulips in one go and then you take that first wife they both want to be together but you can ask them both if they both say no we definitely want to be together because people don't know about the rulings of Islam they don't know about the rulings of Palach anymore they don't understand these things so we have to make ease for them if they've given it on separate situations then find a

different dispensation god dammit okay you find a different fatwa if they say I gave it on different things look but one of the times she happened to be on a menstrual cycle then you take that humbly fatwa that says that on a menstrual cycle a power is invalid and you applied that if they say well no it wasn't even that I did in a different time but I was angry then you take the hot suave hip northagen and you say well okay then based on that look if the couple have a strong resolve to get back

together you have a duty as a scholar to allow and facilitate that union this is an obligation upon the people of knowledge so especially when the knowledge of Islam is so scarce that people don't have that kind of knowledge of Islam they don't have they don't know the outcome they don't know these rulings now why am I saying this why am I saying this let's go back to the origin I want to go to the etiology of

this problem we did this whole masivo this calamity stem from let's take an etiological look people okay let's go right back to the origin the of region who was that is he in in early Islam and in the J hillier time people would marry and they will divorce so husband will divorce his wife and he would say opal up you know give it a lot so fine she's divorced now she would sit and hate that so she'd have this man waiting period of three menstrual cycles let's say now she would wait her later

but before the ignor finishes so let's say she's got its gonna take let's say it's gonna take it three months okay now three menstrual cycles don't mean three months but let's just say that for simplicity purposes now when she's close to the final one finishing he would say I've taken you back after Andrew Joe because her husband can revoke any talaq he issues this is what the Shelia teaches so he would take her back so she would now say okay now the moment he's taken aback the next day you would say I'll give you the lock again so now she would wait another two three months when she's towards the end of the

cycle he'd say you know I've taken you back and he would go like this for two three years maybe he'll have other women other wives but this one he would torture her so she wasn't a free woman she couldn't go and just marry somebody else and she wasn't like a wife with him either so this was unquestionably I mean undoubtedly this was them it was oppression and Allah condemns this strongly in the Quran and he says well at other ooh-ha Kelman laka that don't they like leave the woman in that

suspended state as a woman who is suspended the either marry her or let her go in sarcolemma roof of the city humble Essen you either live together kindly kindly or you part ways gracefully that's how a lot sets the balance so what happened to safeguard the woman to safeguard the woman Allah said okay now if he does it a third time on us you don't have any more products to issue but the question here was you see a

husband might just do this he might say no problem because she's vulnerable when I divorce at a third time I'll just say to her hey listen you know I gotta be carried away sorry I've been thinking but let's just do another Mika and then she'll probably say okay because she should be on the rebound let's say and she'll be vulnerable as well in this scenario now the moment he does Seneca does the same thing again I divorce you again and now the same thing so how do you stop this

so Allah says that to safeguard the woman he said look if you divorced her the third time it's over and I tell you what she can't even marry you again no she can only marry somebody else but okay in the future should that relationship breakdown she can come back to you should she choose to and Allah uses the verse look at the verse he doesn't say until she is married off had to thank you huh

mohammed el chef everybody chef see the eight-ball I know Salaam Salaam o aleikum chef Anna it's one of the leading and legendary Olimar of the UK an absolute ocean in the multi-method people if you're not following chef muhammad siddiq well then do so right so there is on facebook share right yeah so the thing is now this this thing right so to safeguard the woman a lot is saying you know what she cannot marry

him again and then the verb Allah uses his thinking for her she is the active agent until she marries a husband not she's married off not that somebody marries her to this she marries her to thank her so genera that she marries a different so this is her choice willfully she her volition she is embarking on a relationship yeah if that broke down right if they you know in a other is laughing if the if the two want to get back together and she wants to marry this husband again

she can the first one she marries look at this that she is the active agent so this whole thing was done to safeguard the woman because it's kind of it's the end of game now it's but you can't really it kind of kills the game because the husband that was kind of treating her like this toy saying all you're divorced or take you back you're divorced to take you back well she's gone now you can't marry her anyway slum has stopped it she's gone with another person now you're not going to do that anyway and you're not gonna have that interest so this is what the these

verses of the Quran came down for okay this is what they were revealed over right this is what they were all about what happened is over time the backlash unfortunately not maybe not as obviously that was immense torture that was happening initially but what happened is the backlash the kind of reactionary result became similarly humiliating for the woman so you know so so it went from

trying to safeguard the woman and it landed in a way that is still ended up humiliating the woman now it was not this was not happening like this in the time the process alarmed by the way so in the time of the prophet Mohamed Salah leave some of this was not happening like this but it starts gradually later a few cases figure and then as Muslim civilization develops this becomes obviously a thing because Muslims thought they becomes this culture of the law you know if you do this if you do this to lock this becomes a whole and this is something silly

it's petty rights ridiculous the books of Dalek the book of the lock is the second largest second largest book within the book of Sharia off the key double Salah its catabolic it's a massive a huge chunk of that is all about people making oaths of the lock Oh if this happens I'll give you the lock if that happens I'll give it a lot people don't need to speak like that this kind of thing is nonsense and so what I would advise as I've said before that look Islam is all about wealth it's

all about muscle hides all about preserving and safeguarding right the older man somebody said there maybe this was a punishment somebody said maybe they weren't what I was speaking somebody a commented that maybe this was a punishment punishment for who punishment for the guy what life saying oh you said Baba look I absolutely condemn people using using this kind of language as a threat saying to people like if I was my sister's life all my goo torunka love the law mom you beat the rock and gives that is just that's just a child okay

yes I mean the life is this the relationships broken is broken but what I'm trying to say is that you people who use this that's unacceptable to start off with secondly if he does use it more than anything he's in need of Education yes if the woman does not want to go back to him then you do not need to kind of provide certain fatah WA because the woman is just glad the relationships over but if both couple have a strong resolve to get back together then the woman shouldn't be further penalized and humiliated as a consequence of the husband not being able to acting like an

idiot so husband sister laughter laughter ah now she has to go and spend the night with the guy to pay for him I mean that's ridiculous that's surd by any measure so as I said that look if the couple have a strong first of all people shouldn't use mmm these kind of palak term terms in that way secondly if it does happen then and both couple both couple have a strong resolve to get back together then I believe that mulana mobs animus Island then I believe that the shoe that the

ulema especially not NH have an obligation and our beauty bound to find for to find for the couple any any ruling that will allow them and facilitate this union okay because the whole thing is about right if if a family want to stay together then Islam wants them to stay together okay that's all I can say Islam is not about breaking homes it is about making homes but if it's a different scenario if a relationship is broken down if a relationship is broken

down and Islam is not going to impose an artificial 'ti of a home but we're a family wish to stay together it is absurd to claim that Allah wants them to be a part but you know let no man click them asunder as it says so the thing is that this this has kind of brought a lot of disrepute unfortunately on to Islam I still I mean there's been that whole right now it's been in the news and everything this whole thing so yes Allah may Allah make things easy for people who are going through such circumstances

as well but we really do need a lot more education out there right people have gone on for way too long I'm surprised some of you have acting where I'm gonna leave you to it inshallah once again if you are on Facebook and you've not added me before or followed me then do so on Twitter as well same handle multiple a on snapchat as mom 2014 that's MA l & 2 0 1 4 he can add me shoot me your questions in shall I do try to respond as as much as I can although right now my voice notes on on

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