Abusive Parents | Mufti Abu Layth

Oh Jodi has asked if a mother is bad is heaven still at her feet right I think no right okay this you see things like serving your parents are generic advice obviously in some cases some parents may be incredibly sick and twisted and you know they may be ruthless cold torturing people I remember years ago I watched this thing on the news in the UK there was this mother that would torture her

toddler her own toddler I can't remember whether it was a boy or a girl now but it was a toddler and she would her and her boyfriend and they eventually killed the child but there was some CCTV footage that was at the time on the news where the child was kind of it was kind of walking along it could just about walk and one of them I think the boyfriend or heard they one of them they trip over the child they stick their foot in front in the toddler falls then they stamp their feet on this they kind of sitting on a sofa or something they

stamp down on this childish horrific to watch you're like what like that's just another level of coldness and then I don't know I don't think it was that incident both through another incident they killed a child and so people like that obviously there's no paradise at the defeat people like that are just stone cold ruthless animals savages that's what they are so no these kind of hadith won't be referring to people like that obviously these are just generic

hadith that if but that said what I would say is that look if your parents did bad to you as a child let's say like they treat not that bad but they treated you harshly beat you up things like that but now they're not like that or obviously I mean one is that they can't beat you up anyway now that you're much older but let's just say now they have kind of changed I would say look try to my I know it may be very difficult but I would say look try to not kind of delve into the past and just focus on the

present because you know it's strange it's weird but a lot of people when they do these things they can't actually remember that they did these things I know that's gonna sound too to somebody that's been through it they're gonna think what on earth are you on about but you realize that if you ever have a discussion with those people that oh oh my god you used to do this and you used to do that they can't remember it like they the picture of themselves is actually quite a benign picture like they think yeah I might have occasionally kind of just you know raised my hand but nothing really I

never they would actually think they were quite beneficent as strange as that sir I mean you know if you were like Pakistani growing up in in the 80s your parents most likely put you through some military grade training they beat the hell out of us growing up beating the hell out of you is an understatement they said pain threshold will show you pain they reintroduced they've

recalibrated our entire system so but shockingly they wouldn't remember any of this now you know they they would just think what are you talking about nothing like that ever it's all in your mind god dammit it's a simulation so I would say look if it's things like this don't I would say try not to hold it against them and just move on with how it is now but some things are very different like those examples where I said whether it

was just this utter cruel this attempt I don't know so I think it is difficult for people it is a personal call if they can forgive forgiveness is always a much greater and admirable kind of quality cool let's see what other questions oh whoa help me my father remembers help me if moral why care about if morals reflect day and age why care about them

what a dumb question I need to see you that is Travis keys under is saying if morals change why care about your parent what what a stone-hearted thing to say well tell us kuransky else his name Travis key tell Ostrovsky are you speaking from an all day he's like are you watching this from an all retired people's home right this have you children just don't use that

what's going on right not nice of course you are I think your duty always oh the question sorry is mister sorry see this is where timing is totally wrong you see I'm speaking about parents and he says well if the morals changed in why but he wants to just ask about the morals then why care about them the antecedent to them is going back to morals not to parents ah this aren't

confusing you know who you you is blind know you is deaf I am you this is like that Jackie Chan confusion