Gary V “40 Is The New 20” | Mufti Abu Layth

Uh, you know what? Actually, I was thinking about something. I'll share some thoughts and then Yeah, then I'll go to uh, taking on some guests. You know, I was uh, I think this was interesting. It was on my mind. I was speaking about it as well. I was watching Gary V and he said something incredibly fascinating, I thought.

Uh, and I do advise people to really I mean, whether they I mean, maybe they he's not their cup of tea, but to follow, you know, people of entrepreneurial thought. Right, so he was saying he was giving some interview, Gary V, and he was saying, "Look, uh, he ends up speaking about age.

And I think he's in his mid or mid to late 40s. So, he says, "Look, um, he says, "Look, look at me." himself, he says. I think at the time he's 45 or 46 or something. He says, "Look, I'm in my mid-40s." He says, "But look how I'm dressed." He's dressed with this T-shirt, a cap, and, you know, he's kind of he's kind of jeans that And he says, "Look, you have to understand something.

People are living a lot longer. So, people are living up until their mid to late 80s. The average person, let's say, that the life expectancy has gone up. He said, "We have access to incredible health care. We have access to vitamins, minerals, taking care of our health." And then he gives the example of himself.

He says, "Look at me. Look at the way I'm dressed," he says. He says, he says, "When I was young, he says, "We'll never see a 40-year-old like this." And and he says in fact 40-year-olds he when he was young or when we were young, he says, "Would have been finished." Like you look at them and they're just finished. And and he says, "Today, you look at them." And he says, "Well, he says, "This is what they dressed like.

They dressed kind of like almost like somebody in their 20s." And he says, "Because that's He says, 'The 40s are the new 20s.'" Now, it's really interesting, you see, what he's saying at a deeper level, not at a superficial level. Because if you analyze the mindset that when we were young, a person in their 30s had this incredibly incredibly mature, very old man energy to them.

A person in his 40s would have had a very serious elderly energy to him. That's not the case today. You see, because of what technology and what the modern day and age has provided us, the mindset has also changed.

Now, you look at a person in his 20s, they're like it's like a you know, they're like children. I'm serious. Like the mindset, the maturity of a person in his 20s is just like an early teenage kid. People don't develop that kind of mature adulthood energy until much later now.

And I want you to think about that. In fact, I was uh I can't remember what this conversation came up. I was sitting somewhere and there was uh there was a uh there was a Bollywood uh something was on, some kind of movie or something, and it was from the '90s.

And I mean, I I wasn't watching it or anything, but I just saw it on, and we were having this conversation. And Akshay Kumar was in it. And this is from the '90s. And and it just proved the point. I said, like, take actually take a look at this character that he's playing. He In the movie, he is somebody in his probably early 20s, and he probably is around that kind of age or maybe mid-20s himself at that point.

This is going from the movie must be old, it must be early '90s. But there's this very incredible there's this very man man energy that the person has that you don't see in 20-year-old, 25, you don't even see it in 30-year-olds. A person may be towards their late 30s start to develop a bit of it.

By the time they're 40, they they then start to have that kind of adulthood energy to them. Now, why is this interesting? Relationships. In everything, but especially like just think of one aspect, relationships. You see, especially men even though they've entered biological adulthood they still are just kids.

And they don't reach that manhood manhood. Now, there's a delayed onset. They don't reach it till they're probably like in the late 30s. And by that time, if they got married young, then they've got kids that are already teenagers. So, just think about that. That's like when you think of the complexity that wow.

Because really, the amount of times that I'll hear about and I'm sure many of you will hear relationship issues, lack of maturity, lack of understanding, lack of this, lack of that. And it's true. But it's almost like a conundrum a conundrum that what is the answer? Because really these people especially with the men, they don't won't really enter any kind of real man energy that kind of matured energy until

let's say a man is 22 years old. You got to give him another 15 to 18 years before he's going to really reach any any kind of real It doesn't matter if he thinks. You see a 25-year-old might say, "No, no, I I'm quite mature." But the reality is most of them ain't. They're just like kids. I mean, they they're they're not I don't mean by them being kids that they're stupid.

They're not stupid. Kids ain't stupid. It's just that they just haven't reached that kind of energy yet.