# Can people with very different religious views still talk with respect?

*Disagreeing with respect: a conversation across very different positions*

- URL: https://muftiabulayth.org/r/zn1-wlbys2i/s/2/
- Date: 2018-04-20 · Kind: lesson · Transcript tier: machine · Recording: Imam Abu Hanifa was deemed a heretic/deviant by his contemporaries - Mufti Abu Layth al-Maliki (3:57–5:50)
- Status: general teaching
- Watch from the start of the segment: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zN1-WlBys2I&t=237s
- Recording page: https://muftiabulayth.org/r/zn1-wlbys2i/

**Topics:** Character and virtue; The Mufti and the channel

**Summary (not a quotation; machine-made, unchecked):** People who disagree on many things can still sit together, talk with respect and enjoy each other's company, and Mufti Abu Layth says this is the conduct Muslims need to return to, in line with the Prophet's great character.

**Checked position (checked by two independent reviews, not by the channel):** Mufti Abu Layth says that people holding very different positions can and should sit together, talk with respect and enjoy each other's company, and that this is the conduct Muslims need to return to, in keeping with the Prophet's great character.

**Evidence, his words at 5:08:** “and yet you can sit and talk with respect and you can enjoy each other's company walk away thinking you know what that was a solid kind of sitting even though we disagree on so many things” (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zN1-WlBys2I&t=308s)

## Longer summary

Finishing the comparison with Iran, Mufti Abu Layth says that in religion things are seldom based on pure objectivity and usually on power. He then turns to a recent conversation he describes as amazing, with a person who wrote a Facebook post about him and took criticism for it; he recounts, laughing, that someone told that person Mufti has a psychology degree and was manipulating him, and says people give him too much credit. He says the conversation mattered because the other person held a very different position from his, yet they could sit, talk with respect, enjoy each other's company and part feeling it had been worthwhile despite disagreeing on many things. He calls this the kind of manners Muslims need to return to and links it to the verse describing the Prophet as being of great character.

## Sources and names cited

- Quran 68:4 (you are of a great character): https://quran.com/68/4
- adab

## Transcript (machine tier, 3:57–5:50)

[3:52] and they go sir it becomes suddenly she had just through politics because of the Shah and so on converting and having his beef with the the the other rulers and so on so in religion things on seldom based on pure objectivity they usually based on power positions so that's that's the the kind of thing but yeah I thought that's definitely worth mentioning but it was an interesting and amazing conversation and I think it I'd like to say that look the reason I also made an article Shir doc in Ron's article sorry his facebook

[4:29] status that and his and by the way he got a lot of slack for making a Facebook post about me and people said to him that oh how can you and somebody said on there that do you know Mufti lathe has got a degree in psychology so he's manipulating you [Laughter] psychologically to kind of is using you to is that what people give me so much credit I wish I was a fraction of what people make me out to be but yeah but one thing I did want to say is that the reason I think it was really interesting

[5:08] especially speaking to people like dark and dark especially is because he had such a different position from me and yet you can sit and talk with respect and you can enjoy each other's company walk away thinking you know what that was a solid kind of sitting even though we disagree on so many things and this is the kind of other that we need to return to so and that is really the messenger of allah des allies speaking of when he says were in the colada hole open our theme indeed you are upon agree on greatness when it comes to

[5:47] characteristics

## Cite

Mufti Abu Layth Archive, segment zN1-WlBys2I/s/2. https://muftiabulayth.org/r/zn1-wlbys2i/s/2/

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