# Why is it harmful when religious influencers present a fake perfect life? *His issue is not their private lives but fake preaching and false ideals* - URL: https://muftiabulayth.org/r/ypfqphdsbgg/s/2/ - Date: 2019-08-01 · Kind: lesson · Transcript tier: machine · Recording: Umm Abdullah & Hasanat Scandal | Mufti Abu Layth (4:26–10:45) - Status: general teaching - Watch from the start of the segment: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YPFQpHdSbGg&t=266s - Recording page: https://muftiabulayth.org/r/ypfqphdsbgg/ **Topics:** Social media; Marriage; Cults, clergy and religious abuse **Summary (not a quotation; machine-made, unchecked):** Mufti Abu Layth says their private lives were their own business, and that the harm lay in preaching standards they could not live by and selling an unattainable ideal of marriage in God's name. ## Longer summary Mufti Abu Layth says that for him personally the drinking, clubbing, bikinis or modelling reported of the couple are not the issue, since those would be their private lives. He says the first problem is that they proactively preached standards of piety they knew they could not live by. The second is that they sold a fake, unattainable ideal of marriage while, he says, the messages now circulating show their own relationship was troubled, and that young people measuring themselves against it end up miserable, all the more because they spoke in the name of God. He adds an aside that he personally thinks feminism, in the sense of a man-hating attitude rather than women's rights, has made relationships worse, and says scholars receive people with doubts and failing relationships as a result. ## Transcript (machine tier, 4:26–10:45) [3:47] knee up now so the issue is that they've been busted you see now I want to clarify something I wanna my my angle my thoughts on this everybody's giving an opinion yeah male be Huck one by humpy Betty wait I'm sorry boot a re hurts me Quinn would secure Naples like I'm [4:26] joking I'm joking right so my thoughts on the matter you see first of all what what are the issues what ain't the issues for me for me but I mean people Barrowman right for me it's not the issue that they for example drank alcohol it's not the issue that that she went clubbing with these rappers or whatever she's to go clubbing or she's to wear a bikini or she used to do these things or run a modeling agency or whatever for me personally I mean for other people I'm sure it's a huge [5:06] problem for me personally personally right these things for me are not an issue I think personally that's there that would have been just their private lives for me the issue is that these people there's a number of issues first of all these people actively proactively engaged in fake preaching now this is a serious problem you know this like constantly telling people this is all her arm this is all her arm [5:45] I don't mean just saying it as a one-off like if somebody asked them do you believe in Islam clubbing is Haram and let's say she said okay it's Haram in Islam but she went clubbing that's not the issue for somebody like me the issue is they proactively preached this holy thing to people this televised version of this is so this is problem number one that you are putting up fake standards that you yourselves know that you can't [6:20] live by right so you're perpetuating an ideal giving the impression that you are that ideal giving false impressions problem number one okay problem number two and it's linked to this false ideal of relationships you see relationships a lot of people are suffering with relationships a lot of people it's a human problem you know it's not just a Muslim problem non-muslims are suffering massively Muslims as well and I think honestly I think personally feminism has made things immensely worse but that's a different discussion and I'm not I don't [6:59] mean by that women's rights I stand up for women's rights but I think this sometimes a man-hating attitude has kind of especially in the non-muslim culture but anyway I don't want to get into that but the point is that relationships people are suffering massively now these people present this fake life of that we are the ideal couple you know we're gonna are we're gonna sing nice Arabic things to each other oh we can always walk like lovey dovey we love each other to bits we you know masha'Allah subhanAllah [7:36] yeah happy but like why didn't you just do this why don't you do that yeah Shoji you know all this kind of stuff super sweet kind of stuff many young people set that as their targets the problem is this is unattainable like that kind of everyday living it's even even these people can't live like that I mean now in all these messages where he's been beating the hell out of her she says he almost killed me where the other ones saying she tried to commit suicide on several occasions where all these kind of things I'm not you know [8:15] that's a different discussion all of that that's been going on but my point is that it's not real even these people can't live up to it why are you setting so many relationships suffered by watching these people think oh because you see if you just watch a celebrity on TV you would think oh they might be doing it for the camera and you've got some common sense about yourself now when the person says in the name of Allah then you think now maybe you know he wouldn't say the name of Allah unless he was being genuine now when it's a facade and it's fake and even they can't live up to it [8:54] and then you feel miserable so a lot of young people watching this are feeling miserable thinking that our lives you know that's how our that's how I want to be little do they know that their lives are an absolute mess deception defrauding people robbing people you know the kind of things they were involved in even the sexual stuff at that I mean if it's just them doing that that's all of this is their personal lives but because they're setting false standards for people it's making other [9:29] people suffer and I am on many of the scholars are on the back end that we are then receiving people coming to us telling us oh I'm having doubts in Islam or I'm having doubts in this all my relationships suffering my this neither and when you try to tell people look but this is the real world this is is they think no but look at those look at that masha'Allah beautiful couple that's the real world you and you think coach nahi save I muscle self [10:07] it is nothing except perpetual deception their car his in the giko in the hired creeps that we have seen this world up and clothes that we've seen it from Sonia it is nothing but perpetual deception that these people that you know that are being start staging themselves this is the next layer of problem then the problems get worse they've then use this platform to boost [10:44] the rakia exorcism business now the rukia from what I hear they've been charging let's say 300 pound an hour or something a session that we get rid of people's ghosts ha marry Bateen cha cha ha ha I'm sure I've got a few ghosts and demons you know they get we get rid of people's demons pay us money my cha cha and you know the videos that they make a lot of these videos have been exposed so some ## Cite Mufti Abu Layth Archive, segment YPFQpHdSbGg/s/2. https://muftiabulayth.org/r/ypfqphdsbgg/s/2/ Not a fatwa: these answers were given to specific people at specific times. 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