# Is it haram to kiss my wife in public? *Is kissing one's wife in public haram? Greeting kisses in the Gulf and the Haram* - URL: https://muftiabulayth.org/r/yjgrp8cvk-m/s/1/ - Date: 2019-12-12 · Kind: question · Transcript tier: machine · Recording: Is It Haram to Kiss in Public? -Mufti Abu Layhth (0:00–5:04) - Status: general teaching - Watch from the start of the segment: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yJGrP8cVk-M&t=0s - Recording page: https://muftiabulayth.org/r/yjgrp8cvk-m/ **Topics:** Interaction between men and women; Marriage **Question as asked:** Kissing one's wife in public: is it allowed? **Summary (not a quotation; machine-made, unchecked):** A greeting kiss on the cheek or forehead in public, as is common in the Gulf and seen in the Haram, is no problem because it is affectionate rather than sensual. A passionate kiss in public would be a problem. **Checked position (checked by two independent reviews, not by the channel):** Mufti Abu Layth says a greeting kiss on the cheek or forehead in public, such as those exchanged in the Gulf and seen in the Haram between men and their wives or mahram women, is not sexual and is no problem, whereas a passionate kiss in public would be. **Evidence, his words at 1:50:** “and personally stuff like that I think is no problem stuff like that okay” (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yJGrP8cVk-M&t=110s) ## Longer summary Taking quick questions near the end of a live session, Mufti Abu Layth reads a chat question about kissing one's wife in public and jokes that the questioner did not say whose wife. He says this has been debated: in the Gulf countries people greet each other with kisses on the cheeks or the forehead, and men are seen in the Haram in Makkah kissing their wives or other mahram women on the cheek or forehead, which some have objected to as haram in the house of God. He says he personally thinks this is no problem, since a greeting kiss of that kind is not seen by Islamic standards as sexual or sensual but as affectionate and welcoming, whereas a passionate kiss in public would be a problem. He jokes that the same greeting is given to men as well, so that brotherly love (agape) seems to turn into eros, and answers a follow-up in the chat about what a French kiss is with a joke. The transcript of this clip is poor in places. ## Sources and names cited - mahram - al-Masjid al-Haram (the Haram in Makkah) - haram ## Transcript (machine tier, 0:00–5:04) [0:00] my hair right moving on let's take some quick questions and bring this to an end of the llama hate is saying he's kissing wife in public he hasn't even said it's his wife kissing wife as in wife with a capital W as in like the communal wife oh I thought you were wife I thought you [0:38] just the wife in community so kissing be nothing nothing Matty right I'm sure of the llama he'll smash to see somebody so eager is he watching my thing in public thinking control me or I you know this has been a debate by the way so that scholars because you know in the Gulf [1:16] countries they when they meet each other they kiss like they kind of kiss the cheeks like ma ma kind of thing so oh they sometimes kiss the forehead with women so many people in the harem like in Mehcad this they will like let's say they've met like let's say it's the it could in many cases their wives or sometimes other muharram they will kiss them the men will kiss the women like on the cheek thing or on the forehead and this has become an issue that so people have debated oh my god is this Haram or [1:50] what in the house of God oh sorry wrong religion I mean in the house of God Tovah Thor sorry wrong religion so this has become a debate that oh my god are we allowed to kiss the wife in in public and these Arabs are doing in the Haram and personally stuff like that I think is no problem stuff like that okay you know that kind of that's just I think that I think anything kind of what's the word [2:30] hmm anything you see that's not in any way some kind of like seen by any I don't think by Islamic standards that you know that kind of introductory what the Arabs do and some Europeans do that kind of case or a kiss on the forehead or stuff like this I don't think that in any way seen really as so sexual it's not seen as sensual that's Oh since you are it's just seen as affectionate or kind of welcoming obviously if you know if there's if there's like some deep French stuff going on this is gonna be a [3:08] problem this one big problem dubious if all of that is going on he says not was there anything sensual I was this was just me this was welcoming you know the welcoming wealthy oh sorry nice obviously that would be rather shocking especially since they meet like that with all people and as he's moving along and then there's a guy standing the end they do that with the guys as well and [3:48] then there's like huh yeah yeah oh yeah you know this this it turns from the brotherly love you know the agape turns into the eros you know so I'm confusing you know so people masoom wants to know what is the French stuff this what is this what is this French what I have why is it called French by the way what is this French the French fries in upon the French toast well my friend don't worry you know when you get mad at this one [4:26] this if you're still in doubt I'm sure you can visit one of the local party subs [Laughter] isn't that usually where you get your first French kiss from the re-sod it's like it's like I'm joking people be Bobby Jo joke India I'm joking don't okay yes so right so people ## Cite Mufti Abu Layth Archive, segment yJGrP8cVk-M/s/1. https://muftiabulayth.org/r/yjgrp8cvk-m/s/1/ Not a fatwa: these answers were given to specific people at specific times. 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