# What does the Quran say about how a divorce should end and about a divorced woman's future? *Surah al-Talaq 65:2-3: parting with kindness, witnesses, cooling off, and trust in God's provision* - URL: https://muftiabulayth.org/r/t-x4lyns2ve/s/4/ - Date: 2019-07-25 · Kind: lesson · Transcript tier: machine · Recording: A Reply to Abdullah Sameer's Allegation: The Quran Teaches Paedophilia | Mufti Abu Layth (10:20–15:33) - Status: general teaching - Watch from the start of the segment: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T-X4Lyns2vE&t=620s - Recording page: https://muftiabulayth.org/r/t-x4lyns2ve/ **Topics:** Divorce; Tawakkul and trust in God; Tafsir and verse study **Summary (not a quotation; machine-made, unchecked):** At the end of the iddah the couple must either reconcile or part with kindness before witnesses, and Mufti Abu Layth reads the promise that God makes a way out and provides from unexpected places as reassurance to the vulnerable party that she need not accept oppression for shelter. The objector, he says, skips all of this. **Checked position (checked by two independent reviews, not by the channel):** Mufti Abu Layth holds that the promise in 65:2-3 that God makes a way out and provides from unexpected places is addressed to the vulnerable party in a divorce, who need not accept oppression for the sake of shelter and food. **Evidence, his words at 13:28:** “so if a relationship is is ending it could be daunting people could think well what's gonna happen now should i grovel should I beg should I put up with oppression just so I can get food” (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T-X4Lyns2vE&t=808s) ## Longer summary Mufti Abu Layth reads on: when the term is reached the couple either reconcile with kindness or separate with kindness, and witnesses are to be called so that others know whether they are together or apart, as God's admonition to those who believe in him. He gives the wisdom of keeping the divorced wife in the house as a cooling-off period: a divorce pronounced in a rage can be reconsidered when both live their separate lives under one roof for weeks and begin to miss each other, and the verse then insists that a decision be made rather than left to drag on. He turns to the words that whoever is mindful of God will find a way made out for him and will be provided for from where he cannot imagine, and reads them as addressed to the vulnerable party at the end of a marriage: in patriarchal societies, then and now, a woman might fear she must grovel or accept oppression for food and shelter, and the verse tells her that God will provide if she sets out, that whoever relies on God finds him sufficient, and that God accomplishes what he sets out and has given everything its measure. He says the objector ignores all these verses and starts from the next one. ## Sources and names cited - Quran 65:2 (retain them or part with them with kindness, and call witnesses; whoever fears Allah, He makes a way out): https://quran.com/65/2 - Quran 65:3 (He provides from where one does not expect; whoever relies on Allah, He is sufficient): https://quran.com/65/3 - iddah (waiting period after divorce) - talaq (divorce) - taqwa - tawakkul (reliance on God) ## Transcript (machine tier, 10:20–15:33) [10:15] homes okay let them stay there and then it mentions if there's certain other issues fight their beloved Nigella whenever I'm sick or but when they reach the time that the ADA has finished for MC corner either reconcile be ma roof with kindness over if you wanna be my roof Oh leave them separate with kindness this is the verse of the Quran right well as she do the way idly minkum but get witnesses as well that you have decided to separate or you've decided to reconcile let people be witnesses to [10:52] this just in case you just in case there's some later on people don't know i mean why you guys still together have you separate let there be some witnesses right well our team of Shahada let it be like your testimony as well welcome you are the way God is advising you admonishing you to do that okay Montana your men will be liable your me asking that if you believe in God you will do that you either at that time is our beloved Nigel I'll not keep them with kindness be my roof Oh Farah corner be Marouf or let them go with kindness and you will have you will [11:32] set up witnesses at least to the way Adaline to can testify that this is the decision that you guys have arrived at and now you can go and one of the wisdoms with their in there and Allah saying led to hurry to Hoonah mmm beauty now do not send them out of the homes is that sometimes in a in a power of rage or something anger or misunderstanding people could be upset that they want to end the relationship but you see when when you live like isolated lives but you're still there the woman is still there the husband is still there but they're living their own [12:11] lives during the ADA now it's been a few weeks it's been maybe a month it's been you see like people kind of calm down and then when they're seeing the other person as well the proper singing damn you know maybe I miss her or I miss him or I miss and he allows that opportunity to reconcile so then Allah says and after that is that verse which I just read that look when the time comes that it does finish make up your mind then are you because don't let it go on do you want to reconcile not or set about witnesses okay and then sometimes it can be when a relationship ends it can be [12:50] quite daunting on a person like think about it the uncertainty so Allah says he reminds you all mania tequila but if you keep God in mind you know this it totally is not fear and that's hope if allah - allah fear allah dread god it took allies to keep him in mind that if you are mindful of god allah home he will he will set away out for you like don't worry like God will watch over you that's what what you're a sook [13:28] whom in hate to lie at us and God will feed you from places where you cannot imagine so if a relationship is is ending it could be daunting people could think well what's gonna happen now should i grovel should I beg should I put up with oppression just so I can get food so I can be fed like yes unfortunately especially in the past in patriarchal societies women could have been in these kind of vulnerable positions they still can today and and it doesn't have to be women it could be men as well but more so on unfortunately received with women [14:06] does it mean they should kind of crumble succumb should they do to kind of saying well okay you know so long as I've got some shelter and food you know I'll be I'll permit to be oppressed Allah says look we are so come in hastily artisan Allah will provide for you you set that foot forth I mean you set about on your way God will watch over he will provide you with provisions from where you cannot imagine what man yet Allah Allah Allah Allah for her husband indeed whosoever relies upon God God is [14:46] sufficient for him or her in allahabad Leo Amery cudgel allahu ala kulli shayin that Allah will reach what he has set out okay indeed Allah has set everything to its scale now these verses are put up until here the person that objected doesn't bring these verses into consideration he starts from this from this point here [15:22] Allah says what is nominal maha demon is eco inert optim 48.1 and those women by the way who had reached their menopause right but he doesn't say menopause it says who had despaired from their menstrual cycle yeah it's not those women who had disappeared from their menstrual cycle in a septum if you are in doubt now here there's a question what if you are in ## Cite Mufti Abu Layth Archive, segment T-X4Lyns2vE/s/4. https://muftiabulayth.org/r/t-x4lyns2ve/s/4/ Not a fatwa: these answers were given to specific people at specific times. 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