# Why is it so hard for Muslims to find a partner? *The difficulty Muslims face in finding relationships* - URL: https://muftiabulayth.org/r/sgwylug7xu0/s/1/ - Date: 2019-02-28 · Kind: discussion · Transcript tier: machine · Recording: Why Do Muslims have Trouble with Romance? -Mufti Abu Layth (0:00–4:59) - Status: general teaching - Watch from the start of the segment: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sgwylUg7XU0&t=0s - Recording page: https://muftiabulayth.org/r/sgwylug7xu0/ **Topics:** Choosing a spouse; Love and romance; Urdu poetry **Summary (not a quotation; machine-made, unchecked):** Mufti Abu Layth says there is a crisis among Muslims in finding relationships, and advises using matrimonial sites sensibly and leaving early if someone seems odd. **Checked position (checked by two independent reviews, not by the channel):** Mufti Abu Layth says there is a crisis of people trying to find relationships. **Evidence, his words at 1:51:** “and I think but there is a crisis I can't see there is a crisis of people trying to find relationships” (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sgwylUg7XU0&t=111s) ## Longer summary Mufti Abu Layth, near the end of a live session, says there is a big issue among Muslims in finding relationships and that it is a tricky, slippery situation. Mufti says people can use matrimonial websites, though there are weird people on all of them, and advises that if someone comes across as weird it is time for a sharp exit rather than repeated meetings. Mufti says there is a crisis of people trying to find relationships. Mufti then tells, as an aside, an anecdote from someone who said she knew her husband was cheating from his blood test results, jokes about asking people how they found out, and recites an Urdu line saying the world seen up close is nothing but deception. ## Transcript (machine tier, 0:00–4:59) [0:00] whoa which 12:30 right it's been awesome you know may Allah make things easy for everyone I think you know we need to obviously I think you know what there is there is a big issue with people I think finding relationships and doing things like that there is a big people I've yeah I just I forgot to say I've even made mother halal for you guys yeah yeah yeah I've even made with or camp which ever you had what else do you [0:35] want still these low level games behave all this what else do you want now but this on a serious note I think there's there is a lot of difficulty in in most amongst Muslims finding relationships doing things like this I think it's it is a very difficult tricky situation you know it's a slippery situation you know slippery slope right but they can go to these websites I think I think I don't [1:13] know which ones to recommend because to be honest with you I'm sure they've got we are weird people on all of them but I'm sure if you're sensible about it look if you're trying to hook up with somebody and he comes across really weird like in a conversation you're saying so what do you do and you know it's like sticking a finger up your nose or you know this one bit weird you know I think I think that's time for a sharp exit time for a cool sharp right so I [1:51] think in that case you know don't you don't need to repeatedly meet the person just take the hint these are no good you know this one and I think but there is a crisis I can't see there is a crisis of people trying to find relationships and I think you know with the day in age so media people only and this young young young learn dear mother they starts to run it's like speaking once to [2:28] somebody and I think she was some kind of I don't know whether she had a background in science or or not background is in worked in science or something but anyway she or she worked with maybe lab reports of blood reports or something like this anyway but she was saying that oh I knew that my husband was cheating so I said well how did you know that it's always good to ask you know you need to get tips you need to make it take pointers a cha-cha-cha how did you find out so you know always [3:07] note to self beware of how did you need to make good notes yeah he said it's what zalem done yeah yeah so both poppies and sorry doesn't let you be need to you need to take tips from other people so so I was like so how did you find out so she said well I knew that his blood levels show that he's got high testosterone he's got normal tea stuff so if he's not [3:43] doing the diggy diggy he's not at home you know then it must be outside I can't eat the honey I like it I thought okay so whoa but you hear some interesting story you know when you ask people I always ask people how did you find out so they'll tell you all kinds of things you know I I planted a bug over here a recording [4:20] device I I got into his phone I think every time you're like a child you need to up the defense mechanisms no no I'm joking goodness if I am was all self it's nothing but perpetual deception kuch nahi save I am son self for every day car his in the Geeko Neha gypsy oh that I have seen this world [4:58] up close and near it is nothing but deception sub my I hear someone so so I I always just begin by saying well all men are dogs that's a disclaimer I'm joking right so anyway people is being awesome and and any arc sessions yeah we should do an arc session inshallah coming in Feb less to an arc session so you get an opportunity to turn enough not next week I think the week after let me have a word see the availabilities and things ## Cite Mufti Abu Layth Archive, segment sgwylUg7XU0/s/1. https://muftiabulayth.org/r/sgwylug7xu0/s/1/ Not a fatwa: these answers were given to specific people at specific times. 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