# Does being fair to two wives mean treating them exactly the same?

*Does justice between wives mean exact equality?*

- URL: https://muftiabulayth.org/r/ijwbevcc6o8/s/15/
- Date: 2021-02-02 · Kind: question · Transcript tier: machine · Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #200| Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (1:29:41–1:31:01)
- Status: general teaching
- Watch from the start of the segment: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ijwBevcC6o8&t=5381s
- Recording page: https://muftiabulayth.org/r/ijwbevcc6o8/

**Topics:** Polygamy and mut'ah

**Question as asked:** What does justice between wives mean? Does it mean equal sex or just material things, or spiritual things? I cannot be equal in my feelings for both, but I still want to do polygamy.

**Summary (not a quotation; machine-made, unchecked):** Justice between wives is not mirror-image equality but fairness according to the understanding agreed, without oppression, Mufti Abu Layth says.

**Checked position (checked by two independent reviews, not by the channel):** Mufti Abu Layth says that justice between wives means a fairness based on the understanding the spouses have.

**Evidence, his words at 1:30:37:** “It means a fairness based on that understanding that you have. So whatever that fairness is. That's what it would would mean.” (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ijwBevcC6o8&t=5437s)

## Longer summary

A super chat asks what justice between wives means, whether equal intimacy, material things or spiritual things, since the questioner cannot feel equally for both but still wants polygamy. Mufti Abu Layth says equality does not mean a mirror image. It means fairness according to the understanding the spouses have, since some expect certain things and others something else, provided one is not oppressive.

## Sources and names cited

- polygamy

## Transcript (machine tier, 1:29:41–1:31:01)

[1:29:13] You know this one. These people, these people are trying to get me done over. This is where, you know. Mhm. What about a fetish for men in burkas instead? You see, but it doesn't work as much the other way because you see it's [snorts] men who drive a lot of these things because they're cuz for men for the most part, it's always visual.

[1:29:40] Muy misses my super chat. Let's find this guy's super chat. Yeah. How would you respond? No, I've done that. Uh, gateway. I've done that. Roses are red. Thank you for doing these streams. Miy, what justice between wives means? Does it mean equal sex or just material things?

[1:30:05] Or spiritual things? Like, uh, I like the split. Spiritual or material? [laughter] Uh cuz I cannot be equal in my feelings for both. Still I want to do polygamy. Ah you're Travoski S. You're doing it man. You do [laughter] [gasps] see these things are the equality means I it it doesn't mean a uh a mirror.

[1:30:37] It means a fairness based on that understanding that you have. So whatever that fairness is. That's what it would would mean. So for example, some people may not be expecting certain things. Some people may be expecting something else and some people. So whatever it is, you have an understanding that is fear. Uh and you're not oppressive.

[1:31:00] Hi Mui Salam from Wisconsin. Hadith that describe the end of times say there will be no one left who believes in Allah. This a sahi hadith. You see most hadith to do with the end of times these es um you know apocalyptic hadith most of them are usually made up. So as Imm Ahmed said that's there certain genres that have no basis in sunnah and one of them was the ash right the the the kind of end of times and the signs that will come the sorry the yeah the

## Cite

Mufti Abu Layth Archive, segment ijwBevcC6o8/s/15. https://muftiabulayth.org/r/ijwbevcc6o8/s/15/

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