# Dawah Man on intimacy positions, citing Ibn al-Qayyim, played and mocked - URL: https://muftiabulayth.org/r/eokcnwggiba/s/35/ - Date: 2021-01-26 · Kind: other · Transcript tier: machine · Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #199 | Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (2:59:20–3:05:53) - Watch from the start of the segment: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eoKcNwGGIBA&t=10760s - Recording page: https://muftiabulayth.org/r/eokcnwggiba/ **Topics:** Intimacy in marriage; Views on contemporary scholars **Summary (not a quotation; machine-made, unchecked):** Mufti Abu Layth plays and mocks a preacher's advice, attributed to Ibn al-Qayyim, against the woman-on-top position as encouraging femininity in men. ## Longer summary Saying people in lockdown need advice on intimacy, Mufti Abu Layth plays clips of a preacher he calls Dawah Man, who, citing Ibn al-Qayyim, says the position with the woman on top is not haram but should be avoided because it puts the man in the woman's position and encourages femininity, and warns that this has led some men to ask to be penetrated by their wives. Mufti mocks the advice, plays a montage linking it to the ills of society and gender-neutral parenting, and says he does not know where such concerns come from. He closes the segment with puns about staying on top of things. ## Sources and names cited - Dawah Man - Ibn al-Qayyim ## Transcript (machine tier, 2:59:20–3:05:53) [2:58:50] let's wrap this up people so before we do that we have before we do that people as always we need insight in life some people may say lockdown quarantine [Laughter] what if we're locked in a room together and the key is lost you know this one so we need guidance people we need [2:59:28] guidance on the intimacy people the intimacy so who else who better than let's let's go to we need some nasiha people some advice arabic word for advice so who better than to go to the nasir sessions of tawa so people as we conceive right here but what about positions that might be more recommended than others so this is going to be tawa man highlighting to us from the wise words oh sorry with the wisdom of ibrahim [3:00:05] and josie the wisdom of people in this lockdown scenario if you get close you know they're touch accidentally and you get the intimacy you know the intimacy so people in all of this right a person must remember one must remember won his position in humanity and to his position in the act so what is this about but what about positions that might be more recommended than others [3:00:42] some positions that might be more recommended than others um he mentioned that the woman on top is something that's not good it shouldn't happen and he had a a nice reasoning behind it ah nice reason and i think it's worth mentioning it in the day and age that we live he's doing top position it makes the man basically behave like a woman it puts the man in the woman's position [Music] the man is the one who in intimacy is the one who is in control right troll controller [3:01:22] back where the man approaches from the front but if the woman is on top then what this does it puts the woman in the more of a dominating position okay now what this can encourage is femininity in a man that's the problem he's got inside inside it's not haram for a woman to be up on the top position with her husband struggling but he's saying it's something that we should keep in mind that it's something that encourages femininity it causes the man to be in the position of the woman and sadly we've seen how this is [3:02:00] perversed how is that because now men have actually gone to engage in in practices where they're not just in the woman's position but then they're actually being treated like a woman where they will ask their wife to actually penetrate them sadly a very very very vulgar thing where a man will be penetrated by his own wife and and that's the thing you see [Laughter] [3:02:36] so all of you haramis out there listen right before you end up asking asking your own wife to penetrate you beware people beware because remember remember if you find yourself becoming a bit too feminine oh oh i use then maybe maybe ramyo maybe the reason is habe you're not paying attention to ibn kayem now let me introduce you to some people [3:03:15] who are paying attention to him because these people are on it see like they know they've read ibn kaim's book [Music] [Music] we've seen how this is perverse [3:03:55] [Music] is always on top people guys need to read more ibn this is why the ummah is going down this is why earlier on there was instead of using this this was going on we don't know which kind of parents we don't know gender neutrals this is why it was going on it was going on because people are not [3:04:34] listening to imagine you need to listen to these insights get all that wisdom remember the feminine the softness the femininity oh my god i honestly don't know what's going on in the minds of these people this the natural conclusion is if you if you allow that what's gonna happen is you naturally want to be penetrated yourself [3:05:13] and you're gonna make your wife do it to you i honestly don't know who even thinks where does he come up with these concerns from i don't see it society society ah people you know what uh we gotta wrap this up man we gotta wrap this up but you know one thing though people remember to stay on top of things ## Cite Mufti Abu Layth Archive, segment eoKcNwGGIBA/s/35. https://muftiabulayth.org/r/eokcnwggiba/s/35/ Not a fatwa: these answers were given to specific people at specific times. 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