# What is the most important thing to get right in life?

*Live without being hurtful or hateful*

- URL: https://muftiabulayth.org/r/8xuhmcz2n3u/s/28/
- Date: 2021-04-13 · Kind: lesson · Transcript tier: machine · Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #210 | Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (1:46:01–1:48:40)
- Status: general teaching
- Watch from the start of the segment: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8XuHMCz2N3U&t=6361s
- Recording page: https://muftiabulayth.org/r/8xuhmcz2n3u/

**Topics:** Character and virtue; Anger and forgiveness

**Summary (not a quotation; machine-made, unchecked):** Try never to be hurtful or hateful; Mufti Abu Layth says that validates your Islam as a human being, and that disliking what people do is not the same as hating them.

**Checked position (checked by two independent reviews, not by the channel):** Mufti Abu Layth says that living one's life trying never to be hurtful or hateful is what validates one's Islam as a human being, and that disliking what people do is different from hating them.

**Evidence, his words at 1:46:22:** “as far as being a human being is concerned that is your islam validated as long you know you have lived to the best of your capacity to not be hurtful and not be hateful” (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8XuHMCz2N3U&t=6382s)

## Longer summary

Mufti Abu Layth gives what he calls the one thing to do in life: to live so that at the end one has tried, as far as one can, never to be hurtful and never to be hateful. He says that if a person has managed this, their Islam is validated as far as being a human being is concerned. He distinguishes disliking from hating: he dislikes many of his critics for what they do, but says he does not hate them, which he thinks baffles them, since hating taxes the soul and eats away at it. He says that if a person claims to have God and Islam in their life, they should not be a hateful person.

## Transcript (machine tier, 1:46:01–1:48:40)

[1:45:43] my message is actually spreading even more yeah you know my message to to you all seriously is if i can if i can tell you that you know these are certain this is one thing you must do in life honestly it would be that i would say that try to have lived your life so you know so once you've reached the end you have lived your life in a way that as to the best of your capacity

[1:46:22] you have tried to not be like as far as you can control that you have avoided being two things one hurtful and one hateful i think you know if you have managed to live a life not being or attempting or trying at least not to be these two things that you have lived a successful life in this dunya that honestly as far as being a human being is concerned that is your islam

[1:47:00] validated as long you know you have lived to the best of your capacity to not be hurtful and not be hateful these things are important and that does not mean by the way not to dislike things disliking things are fine you know you don't you dislike something i dislike it there's a lot of these people i dislike them because of what they do because of this stuff i honestly don't hate them this is the shocking thing i think this baffles them [Laughter] on a personal level i do not hate them at all

[1:47:38] yeah i mean i don't like them because of what they do but you know i don't have like because it's it it taxes the soul to hate someone it's actually quite a demanding task so yeah so people like gangutili that is so and all of these guys that they become hateful and so you know it weighs in on their soul and it kind of consumes and eats away so and religion faith should not do that to you if you say i have allah in my life i have islam in my life then you should not be a hateful person

[1:48:15] truly speaking i have somebody said invite them on to mine trap i have invited them onto my trap i've invited shaykh aldi onto mind trap i've invited a baba fareed onto mind trap i've said i'd love to have a discussion on bukhari gate with him i've invited most my haters danny why i've invited him on to mine trap i invite most almost anyone that initially put something out about me and i respond to them i will always do so by offering a dialogue saying look come and i make it very clear that i will be respectful yeah i mean

## Cite

Mufti Abu Layth Archive, segment 8XuHMCz2N3U/s/28. https://muftiabulayth.org/r/8xuhmcz2n3u/s/28/

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