Mufti Abu Layth Archive: relationships/parents-and-children/raising-childrenAnswers on relationships/parents-and-children/raising-children, newest recording first.https://muftiabulayth.org/feeds/topics/relationships-parents-and-children-raising-children.atom.xml2023-03-10T00:00:00ZMufti Abu Layth Archivepipeline/feeds.pyHow did Imam Malik come to study religion?https://muftiabulayth.org/r/vhqvm47pns0/s/4/2023-03-10T00:00:00Z2023-03-10T00:00:00ZHow did Imam Malik come to study religion?
His mother gently steered him from singing to study, and that choice made him one of the most influential figures in Islamic history.
Answer from 10 March 2023 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors
Kind: general teaching
Recording: The Legendary Imam Malik Ibn Anas | Mufti Abu Layth (at 17:40)
A more recent answer on history/scholars-and-imams/imam-malik exists (19 April 2023): https://muftiabulayth.org/r/zkklciv1tk8/s/1/
Watch on YouTube at 17:40: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VhqVM47pNS0&t=1060s<p><b>How did Imam Malik come to study religion?</b></p>
<p>His mother gently steered him from singing to study, and that choice made him one of the most influential figures in Islamic history.</p>
<p>Answer from 10 March 2023 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors</p>
<p>Kind: general teaching</p>
<p>Recording: The Legendary Imam Malik Ibn Anas | Mufti Abu Layth (at 17:40)</p>
<p><b>A more recent answer on history/scholars-and-imams/imam-malik exists</b> (19 April 2023): <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/zkklciv1tk8/s/1/">Did Imam Malik reject the hadith he did not act on?</a></p>
<p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VhqVM47pNS0&t=1060s">Watch on YouTube at 17:40</a> · <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/vhqvm47pns0/s/4/">Open the segment</a></p>Is it okay for adults or children to change gender?https://muftiabulayth.org/r/mofs_0ugn4e/s/6/2023-02-22T00:00:00Z2023-02-22T00:00:00ZIs it okay for adults or children to change gender?
Mufti Abu Layth says gender transition is an adult's own choice after professional advice, but children should not be put through it until they can decide for themselves. Mufti Abu Layth says children should not be put through gender transition until they can make the decision for themselves, setting aside intersex conditions.
Answer from 22 February 2023 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors
Kind: general teaching
Recording: Muslim Scholars Allying With LGBTQ Community ? | Mufti Abu Layth (at 28:41)
A more recent answer on fiqh/medical-ethics exists (10 March 2023): https://muftiabulayth.org/r/vhqvm47pns0/s/2/
Watch on YouTube at 28:41: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mOfS_0uGn4E&t=1721s<p><b>Is it okay for adults or children to change gender?</b></p>
<p>Mufti Abu Layth says gender transition is an adult's own choice after professional advice, but children should not be put through it until they can decide for themselves. Mufti Abu Layth says children should not be put through gender transition until they can make the decision for themselves, setting aside intersex conditions.</p>
<p>Answer from 22 February 2023 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors</p>
<p>Kind: general teaching</p>
<p>Recording: Muslim Scholars Allying With LGBTQ Community ? | Mufti Abu Layth (at 28:41)</p>
<p><b>A more recent answer on fiqh/medical-ethics exists</b> (10 March 2023): <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/vhqvm47pns0/s/2/">Can a pregnancy last for years, as was said of Imam Malik's birth?</a></p>
<p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mOfS_0uGn4E&t=1721s">Watch on YouTube at 28:41</a> · <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/mofs_0ugn4e/s/6/">Open the segment</a></p>Is there an LGBTQ push in media and schools?https://muftiabulayth.org/r/mofs_0ugn4e/s/4/2023-02-22T00:00:00Z2023-02-22T00:00:00ZIs there an LGBTQ push in media and schools?
Mufti Abu Layth agrees there is a disproportionate LGBTQ push in media and objects to sexualising young children, calling it hypocritical that polygamy cannot be described the same way. Mufti Abu Layth says he does feel there is a disproportionate push on LGBTQ themes in media.
Answer from 22 February 2023 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors
Kind: general teaching
Recording: Muslim Scholars Allying With LGBTQ Community ? | Mufti Abu Layth (at 20:23)
A more recent answer on relationships/parents-and-children/raising-children exists (10 March 2023): https://muftiabulayth.org/r/vhqvm47pns0/s/4/
Watch on YouTube at 20:23: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mOfS_0uGn4E&t=1223s<p><b>Is there an LGBTQ push in media and schools?</b></p>
<p>Mufti Abu Layth agrees there is a disproportionate LGBTQ push in media and objects to sexualising young children, calling it hypocritical that polygamy cannot be described the same way. Mufti Abu Layth says he does feel there is a disproportionate push on LGBTQ themes in media.</p>
<p>Answer from 22 February 2023 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors</p>
<p>Kind: general teaching</p>
<p>Recording: Muslim Scholars Allying With LGBTQ Community ? | Mufti Abu Layth (at 20:23)</p>
<p><b>A more recent answer on relationships/parents-and-children/raising-children exists</b> (10 March 2023): <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/vhqvm47pns0/s/4/">How did Imam Malik come to study religion?</a></p>
<p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mOfS_0uGn4E&t=1223s">Watch on YouTube at 20:23</a> · <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/mofs_0ugn4e/s/4/">Open the segment</a></p>Are children held accountable in Islam for bullying or hurting others?https://muftiabulayth.org/r/--pntsar8ck/s/48/2021-02-16T00:00:00Z2021-02-16T00:00:00ZAre children held accountable in Islam for bullying or hurting others?
Children are accountable, he says, in a way suited to their age: the laws for them are lighter, but a child who harms another does not get a free pass. Mufti Abu Layth says children are still accountable in their own way, commensurate with being a child, so the laws for them are more relaxed and less stringent than for adults.
Answer from 16 February 2021 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors
Kind: general teaching
Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #202| Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (at 2:38:10)
A more recent answer on relationships/parents-and-children/raising-children exists (10 March 2023): https://muftiabulayth.org/r/vhqvm47pns0/s/4/
Watch on YouTube at 2:38:10: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=--PntsaR8ck&t=9490s<p><b>Are children held accountable in Islam for bullying or hurting others?</b></p>
<p>Children are accountable, he says, in a way suited to their age: the laws for them are lighter, but a child who harms another does not get a free pass. Mufti Abu Layth says children are still accountable in their own way, commensurate with being a child, so the laws for them are more relaxed and less stringent than for adults.</p>
<p>Answer from 16 February 2021 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors</p>
<p>Kind: general teaching</p>
<p>Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #202| Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (at 2:38:10)</p>
<p><b>A more recent answer on relationships/parents-and-children/raising-children exists</b> (10 March 2023): <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/vhqvm47pns0/s/4/">How did Imam Malik come to study religion?</a></p>
<p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=--PntsaR8ck&t=9490s">Watch on YouTube at 2:38:10</a> · <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/--pntsar8ck/s/48/">Open the segment</a></p>Is it haram to hit someone in the face in boxing or MMA training?https://muftiabulayth.org/r/l4n4wd2jjps/s/27/2021-02-09T00:00:00Z2021-02-09T00:00:00ZIs it haram to hit someone in the face in boxing or MMA training?
Mufti Abu Layth says hitting the face in sparring is fine; the hadith against striking the face concerned discipline, not fighting practice. Mufti Abu Layth says the hadith about not hitting the face was about discipline, not about training or practising the art of fighting.
Answer from 9 February 2021 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors
Kind: general teaching
Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #201| Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (at 2:10:39)
A more recent answer on relationships/parents-and-children/raising-children exists (10 March 2023): https://muftiabulayth.org/r/vhqvm47pns0/s/4/
Watch on YouTube at 2:10:39: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l4n4wD2jjps&t=7839s<p><b>Is it haram to hit someone in the face in boxing or MMA training?</b></p>
<p>Mufti Abu Layth says hitting the face in sparring is fine; the hadith against striking the face concerned discipline, not fighting practice. Mufti Abu Layth says the hadith about not hitting the face was about discipline, not about training or practising the art of fighting.</p>
<p>Answer from 9 February 2021 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors</p>
<p>Kind: general teaching</p>
<p>Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #201| Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (at 2:10:39)</p>
<p><b>A more recent answer on relationships/parents-and-children/raising-children exists</b> (10 March 2023): <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/vhqvm47pns0/s/4/">How did Imam Malik come to study religion?</a></p>
<p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l4n4wD2jjps&t=7839s">Watch on YouTube at 2:10:39</a> · <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/l4n4wd2jjps/s/27/">Open the segment</a></p>At what age should children start learning about Islam, and what should they learn?https://muftiabulayth.org/r/eokcnwggiba/s/8/2021-01-26T00:00:00Z2021-01-26T00:00:00ZAt what age should children start learning about Islam, and what should they learn?
Keep early religious education basic and natural, such as reading the Quran, the prayer and the stories of the prophets, with deeper study when children are older; he admits it depends on the child. Mufti Abu Layth says that, as far as he can tell, it is fine for young children to learn only the basics, such as reading the Quran, the prayer and the stories of the prophets, with deeper teaching when they are older, while admitting he is unsure and that it depends on the child.
Answer from 26 January 2021 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors
Kind: general teaching
Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #199 | Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (at 36:00)
A more recent answer on relationships/parents-and-children/raising-children exists (10 March 2023): https://muftiabulayth.org/r/vhqvm47pns0/s/4/
Watch on YouTube at 36:00: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eoKcNwGGIBA&t=2160s<p><b>At what age should children start learning about Islam, and what should they learn?</b></p>
<p>Keep early religious education basic and natural, such as reading the Quran, the prayer and the stories of the prophets, with deeper study when children are older; he admits it depends on the child. Mufti Abu Layth says that, as far as he can tell, it is fine for young children to learn only the basics, such as reading the Quran, the prayer and the stories of the prophets, with deeper teaching when they are older, while admitting he is unsure and that it depends on the child.</p>
<p>Answer from 26 January 2021 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors</p>
<p>Kind: general teaching</p>
<p>Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #199 | Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (at 36:00)</p>
<p><b>A more recent answer on relationships/parents-and-children/raising-children exists</b> (10 March 2023): <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/vhqvm47pns0/s/4/">How did Imam Malik come to study religion?</a></p>
<p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eoKcNwGGIBA&t=2160s">Watch on YouTube at 36:00</a> · <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/eokcnwggiba/s/8/">Open the segment</a></p>How do I heal my inner child, and how should I raise my children?https://muftiabulayth.org/r/w6tqwuuumcg/s/3/2020-10-27T00:00:00Z2020-10-27T00:00:00ZHow do I heal my inner child, and how should I raise my children?
Mufti Abu Layth says we are an extension of our inner child and that reconnecting with it can be unnerving but healing; with children, go with your heart and build a qualitative bond. Mufti Abu Layth says he thinks we ultimately are an extension of our inner child.
Answer from 27 October 2020 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors
Kind: general teaching
Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #188 | Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (at 12:11)
A more recent answer on relationships/parents-and-children/raising-children exists (10 March 2023): https://muftiabulayth.org/r/vhqvm47pns0/s/4/
Watch on YouTube at 12:51: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w6TqWuUumCg&t=771s<p><b>How do I heal my inner child, and how should I raise my children?</b></p>
<p>Mufti Abu Layth says we are an extension of our inner child and that reconnecting with it can be unnerving but healing; with children, go with your heart and build a qualitative bond. Mufti Abu Layth says he thinks we ultimately are an extension of our inner child.</p>
<p>Answer from 27 October 2020 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors</p>
<p>Kind: general teaching</p>
<p>Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #188 | Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (at 12:11)</p>
<p><b>A more recent answer on relationships/parents-and-children/raising-children exists</b> (10 March 2023): <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/vhqvm47pns0/s/4/">How did Imam Malik come to study religion?</a></p>
<p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w6TqWuUumCg&t=771s">Watch on YouTube at 12:51</a> · <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/w6tqwuuumcg/s/3/">Open the segment</a></p>Can I hit my children if they don't pray?https://muftiabulayth.org/r/kwmtt2tqao0/s/13/2020-08-24T00:00:00Z2020-08-24T00:00:00ZCan I hit my children if they don't pray?
Yes: he says hitting children over prayer misreads the hadith, and that children should be drawn to prayer by example and love, not fear. Mufti Abu Layth says that if you take the hadith on hitting children who do not pray literally, you have misunderstood the Prophet.
Answer from 24 August 2020 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors
Kind: general teaching
Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #179 | Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (at 46:48)
A more recent answer on fiqh/prayer exists (18 October 2025): https://muftiabulayth.org/r/onzjd7xmdhe/s/30/
Watch on YouTube at 46:48: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KWmtt2TQAO0&t=2808s<p><b>Can I hit my children if they don't pray?</b></p>
<p>Yes: he says hitting children over prayer misreads the hadith, and that children should be drawn to prayer by example and love, not fear. Mufti Abu Layth says that if you take the hadith on hitting children who do not pray literally, you have misunderstood the Prophet.</p>
<p>Answer from 24 August 2020 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors</p>
<p>Kind: general teaching</p>
<p>Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #179 | Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (at 46:48)</p>
<p><b>A more recent answer on fiqh/prayer exists</b> (18 October 2025): <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/onzjd7xmdhe/s/30/">Why are two of the daily prayers recited silently when 17:110 says not to be silent?</a></p>
<p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KWmtt2TQAO0&t=2808s">Watch on YouTube at 46:48</a> · <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/kwmtt2tqao0/s/13/">Open the segment</a></p>Is it OK for Quran teachers to beat students?https://muftiabulayth.org/r/kwmtt2tqao0/s/12/2020-08-24T00:00:00Z2020-08-24T00:00:00ZIs it OK for Quran teachers to beat students?
Beating students is categorically haram; he says even a classical manual for teachers forbade forceful discipline of children. Mufti Abu Layth says that beating students in the way he saw teachers do it is categorically haram.
Answer from 24 August 2020 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors
Kind: general teaching
Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #179 | Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (at 41:40)
A more recent answer on wellbeing/personal-stories exists (18 October 2025): https://muftiabulayth.org/r/onzjd7xmdhe/s/5/
Watch on YouTube at 42:20: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KWmtt2TQAO0&t=2540s<p><b>Is it OK for Quran teachers to beat students?</b></p>
<p>Beating students is categorically haram; he says even a classical manual for teachers forbade forceful discipline of children. Mufti Abu Layth says that beating students in the way he saw teachers do it is categorically haram.</p>
<p>Answer from 24 August 2020 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors</p>
<p>Kind: general teaching</p>
<p>Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #179 | Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (at 41:40)</p>
<p><b>A more recent answer on wellbeing/personal-stories exists</b> (18 October 2025): <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/onzjd7xmdhe/s/5/">Is there a middle way between rejecting all hadith and accepting every hadith?</a></p>
<p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KWmtt2TQAO0&t=2540s">Watch on YouTube at 42:20</a> · <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/kwmtt2tqao0/s/12/">Open the segment</a></p>What should I think about when choosing a name for my child?https://muftiabulayth.org/r/fiq59zcj9ku/s/1/2019-11-06T00:00:00Z2019-11-06T00:00:00ZWhat should I think about when choosing a name for my child?
Mufti Abu Layth says parents should think carefully about the names they give their children, especially names that will be mocked in the West. Mufti Abu Layth says people need to pay attention to the names that they choose for their children.
Answer from 6 November 2019 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors
Kind: general teaching
Recording: Inappropriate Names | Mufti Abu Layth (at 0:03)
A more recent answer on relationships/parents-and-children/raising-children exists (10 March 2023): https://muftiabulayth.org/r/vhqvm47pns0/s/4/
Watch on YouTube at 0:03: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fiq59Zcj9KU&t=3s<p><b>What should I think about when choosing a name for my child?</b></p>
<p>Mufti Abu Layth says parents should think carefully about the names they give their children, especially names that will be mocked in the West. Mufti Abu Layth says people need to pay attention to the names that they choose for their children.</p>
<p>Answer from 6 November 2019 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors</p>
<p>Kind: general teaching</p>
<p>Recording: Inappropriate Names | Mufti Abu Layth (at 0:03)</p>
<p><b>A more recent answer on relationships/parents-and-children/raising-children exists</b> (10 March 2023): <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/vhqvm47pns0/s/4/">How did Imam Malik come to study religion?</a></p>
<p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fiq59Zcj9KU&t=3s">Watch on YouTube at 0:03</a> · <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/fiq59zcj9ku/s/1/">Open the segment</a></p>Does Islam allow gender transition for someone diagnosed with gender dysphoria?https://muftiabulayth.org/r/llllbkdgra4/s/1/2019-08-14T00:00:00Z2019-08-14T00:00:00ZDoes Islam allow gender transition for someone diagnosed with gender dysphoria?
Where there are legitimate biological concerns and medical input, he believes it is permissible, but he opposes sowing doubt about gender in children. Mufti Abu Layth says he believes there is permissibility where there are legitimate biological concerns, with medical experts giving their input.
Answer from 14 August 2019 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors
Kind: general teaching
Recording: What does Islam say about Gender Dysphoria? | Mufti Abu Layth (at 0:00)
A more recent answer on fiqh/medical-ethics exists (10 March 2023): https://muftiabulayth.org/r/vhqvm47pns0/s/2/
Watch on YouTube at 0:00: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=llllbKdGrA4&t=0s<p><b>Does Islam allow gender transition for someone diagnosed with gender dysphoria?</b></p>
<p>Where there are legitimate biological concerns and medical input, he believes it is permissible, but he opposes sowing doubt about gender in children. Mufti Abu Layth says he believes there is permissibility where there are legitimate biological concerns, with medical experts giving their input.</p>
<p>Answer from 14 August 2019 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors</p>
<p>Kind: general teaching</p>
<p>Recording: What does Islam say about Gender Dysphoria? | Mufti Abu Layth (at 0:00)</p>
<p><b>A more recent answer on fiqh/medical-ethics exists</b> (10 March 2023): <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/vhqvm47pns0/s/2/">Can a pregnancy last for years, as was said of Imam Malik's birth?</a></p>
<p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=llllbKdGrA4&t=0s">Watch on YouTube at 0:00</a> · <a href="https://muftiabulayth.org/r/llllbkdgra4/s/1/">Open the segment</a></p>