Mufti Abu Layth Archive: relationships/marriage/intimacy

Are many people's frustrations really about unmet sexual needs?

Tue, 13 Apr 2021 00:00:00 +0000

Are many people's frustrations really about unmet sexual needs?

Mufti Abu Layth says much bitterness comes from unmet sexual needs, that Islam itself does not see sex negatively, and that Freud should be judged on his ideas, not his character. Mufti Abu Layth says unmet sexual needs underlie much unhappiness and bitterness, that Islam does not view sex negatively though institutionalised religion does, and that Freud's insights should be judged on their merits rather than on his character.

Answer from 13 April 2021 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors

Kind: general teaching

Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #210 | Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (at 2:43:47)

A more recent answer on fiqh/sexual-ethics exists (22 February 2023): Did some Muslim scholars say homosexuality is not haram?

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Are disgusting sexual fetishes between spouses haram?

Tue, 06 Apr 2021 00:00:00 +0000

Are disgusting sexual fetishes between spouses haram?

Such fetishes are not haram, however disgusting most people find them: contact with impurity is unclean but not forbidden, and what a consenting couple do in private is their own business. Nobody is obliged to do them. Mufti Abu Layth says that fetishes involving impurity, however disgusting, are not haram, since contact with impurity is unclean but not forbidden and only God declares something haram, and that what consenting spouses do in private is their own business.

Answer from 6 April 2021 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors

Kind: general teaching

Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #209 | Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (at 1:04:21)

A more recent answer on fiqh/purification exists (18 October 2025): Why does the guest's prayer have no fixed number of units, and what counts as wudu?

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Dawah Man on intimacy positions, citing Ibn al-Qayyim, played and mocked

Tue, 26 Jan 2021 00:00:00 +0000

Dawah Man on intimacy positions, citing Ibn al-Qayyim, played and mocked

Mufti Abu Layth plays and mocks a preacher's advice, attributed to Ibn al-Qayyim, against the woman-on-top position as encouraging femininity in men.

Answer from 26 January 2021 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors

Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #199 | Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (at 2:59:20)

A more recent answer on dialogue/views-on-contemporary-scholars exists (22 February 2023): Should scholars publicly condemn a scholar said to have joined in a libation ritual?

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Reaction to a niqabi's clip using driving as a metaphor for sex

Tue, 19 Jan 2021 00:00:00 +0000

Reaction to a niqabi's clip using driving as a metaphor for sex

A clip of a woman in niqab using a driving metaphor for intimacy, in which Mufti Abu Layth sees nothing wrong.

Answer from 19 January 2021 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors

Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #198 | Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (at 3:07:46)

A more recent answer on relationships/marriage/intimacy exists (13 April 2021): Are many people's frustrations really about unmet sexual needs?

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Is anal intercourse with my wife haram?

Tue, 05 Jan 2021 00:00:00 +0000

Is anal intercourse with my wife haram?

Mufti Abu Layth says no sahih hadith makes anal intercourse with one's wife haram, and that preachers should stop guilt-tripping people over private matters.

Answer from 5 January 2021 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors

Kind: general teaching

Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #196 | Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (at 2:21:42)

A more recent answer on fiqh/sexual-ethics exists (22 February 2023): Did some Muslim scholars say homosexuality is not haram?

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Mufti Abu Layth mocks a critic's clip on intimacy and slit bedsheets

Tue, 27 Oct 2020 00:00:00 +0000

Mufti Abu Layth mocks a critic's clip on intimacy and slit bedsheets

Mufti Abu Layth ridicules a critic's story that intimacy was once seen as so foul that couples used slit bedsheets.

Answer from 27 October 2020 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors

Recording: Monday Nights with Mufti #188 | Q&A Unscripted & Unrestricted! 😉 | Mufti Abu Layth (at 3:11:27)

A more recent answer on relationships/marriage/intimacy exists (13 April 2021): Are many people's frustrations really about unmet sexual needs?

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Is oral sex between spouses haram because the private parts are impure?

Sun, 19 Apr 2020 00:00:00 +0000

Is oral sex between spouses haram because the private parts are impure?

The guest says the arguments against oral sex within marriage, from the right-hand prohibition and from impurity, do not hold, since one's own body is not impure; Mufti Abu Layth says he agrees.

Answer from 19 April 2020 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors

Kind: general teaching

Recording: Shaykh Kashif Khan | Policing thought, Pornography & Pandora's box | MindTrap with Mufti #15 (at 2:21:08)

A more recent answer on dialogue/guest-conversations exists (18 October 2025): How should Muslims engage people with very different views of the religion?

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Is it haram for a husband to drink his wife's breast milk?

Sun, 19 Apr 2020 00:00:00 +0000

Is it haram for a husband to drink his wife's breast milk?

The guest says classical jurists allowed a husband to drink his wife's milk, and Mufti Abu Layth says the Maliki school considers it pure and not haram, unlike a stricter Hanafi view.

Answer from 19 April 2020 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors

Kind: quoted view (stated in order to be discussed, not necessarily held)

Recording: Shaykh Kashif Khan | Policing thought, Pornography & Pandora's box | MindTrap with Mufti #15 (at 55:16)

A more recent answer on dialogue/guest-conversations exists (18 October 2025): How should Muslims engage people with very different views of the religion?

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What is al-Suyuti's book about sex?

Thu, 18 Jul 2019 00:00:00 +0000

What is al-Suyuti's book about sex?

Al-Suyuti wrote about sex, including a section on names for the penis, and endorsed a saying that the two greatest worldly pleasures are horse riding and sex. Mufti Abu Layth agrees with al-Ghazali that orgasm is the closest worldly pleasure to those of paradise. Mufti Abu Layth says he cannot object to al-Ghazali's point that the closest worldly pleasure to the pleasures of paradise is orgasm.

Answer from 18 July 2019 · auto-transcribed, may contain errors

Kind: general teaching

Recording: My thoughts on Imam Suyuti's book on sex | Mufti Abu Layth (at 0:00)

A more recent answer on history/scholars-and-imams exists (10 December 2022): How did Abu Hanifa become a scholar after starting out as a merchant?

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